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so i submitted a post a few minutes ago to a thread where i made some comments about how gays are portrayed in mass media, and how it had a huge impact on my coming out.... when it came time for me to discover my sexuality and i realized i was attracted to men, it scared the shit out of me because of the way gay men are portrayed in mass media.... i know i'm savvy enough to see through all the junk and come to my own conclusions, but as i discovered my taste for men i was disgusted by the stereotypes that mass media and the gay scene as a whole put around men regarding their sexual tastes and lifestyles.....
in more ways than not, i don't reflect the status quo of a normal, red-blooded gay man in society.... i'm not a flamer, i don't have a 'scene', i don't revolve my life around my sexuality, and i think anal sex is one of the most disgusting things a human being could ever experience on either end of the stick.... from a very young age, i was pegged as gay and suffered the repercussions of stupid adolescents who tried their hardest to assume all that they could about me based on what they thought i was.... like: imagine being 7 and your whole class calls you a faggot before the dictionary even had a term for it.... so i'd come to class the next day and ask the class why they were calling me a cigarette....
as i embarked on my coming out process, i was amazed and depressed at how mass media portrayed gay people.... men specifically.... and not just general media made by anyone; it was other gay men.... i joined a couple of dating/hookup sites, and was even more amazed at the animosity i got from people who didn't understand my distaste for so many 'gay' things.... and people were downright mean about it.... they called me an 'internalized homophobic' and said i should submit to the things i wasn't interested in because it would make my life easier and i would 'get used to it'.... i'm sorry, but since when does ANYONE have to get used to having a dick up their ass to be accepted by a community of people who fought for centuries to be accepted by mainstream society?
anyway, because of that i didn't come out till i was 26, and even then i was kicking and screaming.... i still get my share of flack from all kinds of people who seem to think i should be living my life in a different style because of my sexuality, but i'm much more confident when i tell those people to FUCK OFF....
has anyone else here had the same issues? did it affect how you came out or if you came out at all? i would love to hear other people's views on this matter....
in more ways than not, i don't reflect the status quo of a normal, red-blooded gay man in society.... i'm not a flamer, i don't have a 'scene', i don't revolve my life around my sexuality, and i think anal sex is one of the most disgusting things a human being could ever experience on either end of the stick.... from a very young age, i was pegged as gay and suffered the repercussions of stupid adolescents who tried their hardest to assume all that they could about me based on what they thought i was.... like: imagine being 7 and your whole class calls you a faggot before the dictionary even had a term for it.... so i'd come to class the next day and ask the class why they were calling me a cigarette....
as i embarked on my coming out process, i was amazed and depressed at how mass media portrayed gay people.... men specifically.... and not just general media made by anyone; it was other gay men.... i joined a couple of dating/hookup sites, and was even more amazed at the animosity i got from people who didn't understand my distaste for so many 'gay' things.... and people were downright mean about it.... they called me an 'internalized homophobic' and said i should submit to the things i wasn't interested in because it would make my life easier and i would 'get used to it'.... i'm sorry, but since when does ANYONE have to get used to having a dick up their ass to be accepted by a community of people who fought for centuries to be accepted by mainstream society?
anyway, because of that i didn't come out till i was 26, and even then i was kicking and screaming.... i still get my share of flack from all kinds of people who seem to think i should be living my life in a different style because of my sexuality, but i'm much more confident when i tell those people to FUCK OFF....
has anyone else here had the same issues? did it affect how you came out or if you came out at all? i would love to hear other people's views on this matter....