Ok, having read through the first page, it only took that much, i am somewhat shocked at how reactionary in a negative way some of you are being.
The op is expressing an opinion which is relevant to what he feels about being gay, he then gets some quite unnecessary hostility for having those feelings, being his own gay self, from other members claiming that everyone is different and not to judge whilst at the same time getting knickers in a flap over the fact that he is different.
Not all gay guys (myself included) feel comfortable as others being gay. Sometimes, the wider gay community seem alien, maybe because the visible ones are the more flambouyant, more uninhibitted or uncaring, all different but none representing a smaller slice of a gay population which DO cringe at some gay things.
I am dissapointed to be honest with the response to this guy's post. Bitchiness and spitefulness seem to have veiled the replies, a negative trait for anyone, but another associated with gay queenie type guys.
If that offends you, stop being such a bitch, and be more welcoming instead of having a go at somebody who clearly wants to talk.
You may be bored of the whole 'coming out' stuff, i am, it was a while ago and i can't be asked to help anyone deal with their own issues, but attacking them because they are not hunky dory with all the things that you are is a wedge that reinforces a negative image which he has issue with, myself included.