Do you ever wish you wern't gay?
Whe you were younger did you want a family, kids, ect?
Is that what you still want?
when i was younger i wanted to be "normal", with a family, wife and kids, but being gay i have to accept that im not going to have all that.
There were times I wished I werent a queer but I am. Of course I had to take the straight road first which sent me into strange places, and I got some children along the way.
I no longer hate being a queer--I love using that word-- and have adjusted to it.
What is normal? Its whatever you decide is normal and what makes you happy is even more important. Keep in mind that even queers who do not try the straight life first can have children. There's adoption and invitro ferilization out there so you can indeed have children. You can have family as well. I have an inlaw-inlaw (the cousin of my brother's wife) who is a lesbian and had a ceremony and has a child with her life-partner. They have had a fairly normal life for more htan 10 years.
I know of 2 male couples who have children. One set went with adopting and have 3, the other set has 2 invitro-s where each the natural/biological father of one of them. All these people They seem fairlyt normal, raising kids have a home taking kids to school and the movie theater and other things. The one set of guys have a son on a little league baseball team. The other parents dont seem too shaken up by this societally unconventional family, some of the other parenst are in not so conventional families as well.
I was in a relationship for several years with a man and we did normal things, we went places and embraced in public places and took the grandchildren places. They were mine through biology but his through family love and welcoming, Even now after the breakup--yeah queers have bad relationships too--Ray is still known as Grampa Ray to my sons children.
Times change and slowly people change and get better at accepting what was once new. I grew up with the idea that adoption was natural and normal even though some people still think its not, 30 years ago being a queer was a mortal sin to a lot of people, now its only that way for some far out to the right conservatives and even they are having to give way as more and more are outed from their tiny closets after having been discovered nekkid with othe r men. Life is geting better every day, so do'nt despair. Queer Nation is rising and taking control--be a part of it.