A question for Gay (not bi) guys

I know a naked woman does absolutely nothing for me. and, yes, sometimes I can get little sicky feelings....


Like when I come across pictures of a big, dripping spread snatch.


Woops... didn't mean to talk dirty to ya. LOL :tongue:




so, yeah.... reactions can range from indifference to sicky noises. lol


Of course... all the things I looked at or made myself look at when I was convinced I was straight ( ) seem to have increased my tolerance for the nude female form beyond most straight guys' tolerances of the nude male form. I also am totally indifferent to f/f kissing


That help your curiosity, dude?

 

The sight of girls kissing doen't gross me out, but I am not turned on either; just glad they are enjoying eachother. Many naked men turn me off if they are out-of-shape or just plain ugly. In fact, I am pretty picky about who turns me on. I am afraid a vagina pic (spread legs) does gross me out a little. Of course, I can enjoy some straight porn if the guy looks good to me.

Why so curious?

 

Oh, yes, some gays may be a little hesitant to answer due to a homophobic poster last night who assumed two names and was very abusive in his postings. He got banned quickly.

 

Well, lpsg is about the only forum you can come on and tell another male he's cute without getting shot down right away.

That's good don't you think? To be honest reading through some of the initial threads you've posted you sound a little self-loathing to me.

 

Interesting Question Joe Ice,
I never understood what the attraction was with women, I am hoping you could tell
Me what you like about girls. For me, I feel like I am a boy and I want to be a man.
So when I see what I think is the optimal man..that is who I want to cleave to. Not that
I want to kiss the guy or be a top or a bottom or certainly not suck the guy off..I just want
To make out (or something like that) This is why I kind of feel that my gay feelings may
Be a bit different than other gay guys. But Joe, when you see a guy who is taller or more muscular or more well endowed…do you notice that..and do you wish you had what that guy has? Women can talk about breast size of other woman and they can dance with each other and neither of those things are considered gay.. But when guys do it….its gay…
I don’t feel comfortable with gay subculture…or guys acting like women etc..but there
Is something about having a male bonding experience with a homosexual subtext that attracts me.. Anyway…that’s what it like for me…(and yes of course I hate it
and it makes me angry cause I want to be a regular guy, just like you and want to have a family and kids- just like the next guy)

 

I am not completely straight. I don't label myself sexually. I have been turned on by penis and pussy pictures. I have been disgusted by some unattractive pussy pictures. Never really felt disgusted by a penis picture. More indifferent.

 

So I'm assuming you only are able to watch female-female porn?

 

While the initial post does seem a little harsh in its wording, I suppose I can get behind the theory.

Yes, the fact is, I have no interest in seeing a naked woman. Pictures of minge do indeed make me cringe. Hey, that rhymes. I would absolutely shrivel in the presence of a roomful of Playboy bunnies, I have no interest in sexual contact of any kind with women.

Followed by all the mandatory caveats about not being anti-woman or heterophobic or any such.

I certainly have no problem identifying an attractive woman, I just don't wanna do her.

In my college days I did have one girl coming on to me pretty damn hard at a party one time. It made me extremely uncomfortable and I had to specifically ask her to step back.

 

No, it's not. It's not disgusting to me at all. I just wonder what kind of conditioning elicits that response from either gender of any orientation. I actually enjoy seeing some women naked, I actually enjoy seeing some women make out. 10 naked playboy playmates most likely wouldn't make me hard, but it wouldn't gross me out, either. I probably would laugh as some of them because of the amusing bush-trimmings, especially the ones that have everything shaved except for a little "poodle-puff".

I can appreciate the female form & physiology without being sexually attracted. No, I don't want to have sex with a woman, but the thought doesn't gross me out. If she has really nice tits, I might even be tempted (again) to fondle and explore them.

I do at least know what I'm talking about, too. For many years I at least attempted to be bisexual. The attraction (total, deep attraction) just was not there.

 

I'm not criticizing at all, DC, but one might equally justly wonder what kind of conditioning elicits your own response. I'm merely suggesting that perhaps resorting to "conditioning" automatically as an explanation of human responses or behaviors might be either premature or unwarranted, and could be read as presuming a particular baseline state that has been "altered" by external conditioning. Seems a variation on the deflated notion that homosexuality is itself an abnormal conditioned response. Don't much care for the notion that my responses somehow have to be explained while someone else's different responses don't have to be. Again, no criticism intended, just an observation.

For my part, I concur with most of the other posters here that nekkid female bits turn my stomach--simply because they are (to me) revoltingly unattractive (no offense intended--matter of taste), and don't look (again to me) like things that belong on the human body. So my response to them is identical to that I have to unpleasant medical conditions or bodily injuries, namely to look away quickly--a sort of squeamishness. (This is why medicine was never a potential career choice for me.) Accordingly, I have occasionally but rarely seen penises that I consider sufficiently unattractive that I turn away quickly from them too. Finally, I will add that I did have a boyfriend who in his younger days found female breasts attractive (though not the other bits), so responses obviously vary with individuals.

Anyway, good question--I'm interested myself in reading what other gay guys have to say on the topic.

 

This is something I've always had in common with my gay male friends- cooch creeps me out. It disgusts me to the point that I cannot really enjoy straight porn.

I know there are plenty of women who do not share that opinion, but it's a line in the sand thing for me- absolutely icky. I know what a pretty girl looks like, and even have preferences about what I consider pretty, but there's just never ever an occasion where I want to see a snatch.

 

I more enjoy the "naked, but non-active" snatch shots as opposed to the "gaping, gutted carp" look that porn directors seem to exploit. I don't have a strong opinion either way, but the thread was well worth it, as seeing MZ use the word "cooch" gave me giggle fits.

 

Well, I have bi tendencies but after reading these posts, celebacy sounds pretty good. Well, at least until I can get these posts out of my mind. haha

 

Yes, a woman's privates are a kind of trauma for me also. Don't care to revisit. Been there done that. It's just a visceral adversion for me. Can't explain it or care to.

 

I agree with DC_DEEP, I'm not at all attracted to women, but I'm not grossed out by them. Being in a room of naked Playboy bunnies only gets weird when they start touching me, or each other. Speaking of porn and women...lesbian porn is boring to me. I can see how the most insecure or fetishtic guys could get into it, but for me it's like "the song that never ends",

*starts singing*

This is the porn that never eeends
yes it goes on and on my frieeends.
Some lesbos staaarted fingerbanging,
writhing to the beat,
and just when you believe they're through
their moans start to repeat
cuz it's the porn that never eeends,
yes it goes on and on my frieeends.
Some lesbos staaarted fingerbanging,
writhing to the beat,
and just when you believe they're through
their moans start to repeat
cuz it's the porn that never eeends...

And so on and so forth until fade to black.

 

Wow, I am amazed at the variety of responses here. I am wondering if those gays who tend to be "tops" have a higher tolerance for viewing naked women than do the exclusive "bottoms". But I wonder a lot of crazy things.

 

For me there is a huge difference between 'not being aroused' vs. being 'disgusted.'

 

That betrays an adherence to the fallacious belief that insertive partners are more manly. That you're not "gay" as long as you don't take it up the ass. Ain't so in any shape or form.

 

Regardless of being gay or straight, I tend to view the inability to appreciate either gender's anatomy as a personal setback/flaw. (I naturally exclude people who have had traumatic experiences with the opposite sex). To the OP, I find a position of repulsion to either sex as extreme and unnatural. We all presumably had mothers and fathers, perhaps brothers or sisters as well: to not understand either sex might as well be equivalent to rejecting a father/mother/brother/sister's own beauty.