A question for Gay (not bi) guys

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I'm kind of indifferent about seeing an attractive naked woman as long as its not a snatch shot. snatch shots, and unattractive women and men naked gross me out.
 

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I'm not criticizing at all, DC, but one might equally justly wonder what kind of conditioning elicits your own response.
Well, I suppose you have a point, but I was contrasting the response of "it literally makes me nauseous" to my response of "meh, so what?" I could be wrong, but I think my "lack of response" is less extreme, and would surmise that a much stronger reaction is more likely to be aversion-conditioning.
This is something I've always had in common with my gay male friends- cooch creeps me out. It disgusts me to the point that I cannot really enjoy straight porn.
You and I have discussed this before, Z. I was always amazed that I, as a gay man, was less "disturbed" by your working parts than you were.

Wow, I am amazed at the variety of responses here. I am wondering if those gays who tend to be "tops" have a higher tolerance for viewing naked women than do the exclusive "bottoms". But I wonder a lot of crazy things.
Not really. Sexually, I'm more bottom than top, but still, labia and vaginas don't bother me.
For me there is a huge difference between 'not being aroused' vs. being 'disgusted.'
Exactly, Matthew. We have a few amongst us who are incapable of making that distinction, both in this thread and about 4 others.
Regardless of being gay or straight, I tend to view the inability to appreciate either gender's anatomy as a personal setback/flaw. (I naturally exclude people who have had traumatic experiences with the opposite sex). To the OP, I find a position of repulsion to either sex as extreme and unnatural. We all presumably had mothers and fathers, perhaps brothers or sisters as well: to not understand either sex might as well be equivalent to rejecting a father/mother/brother/sister's own beauty.
That's the point I've been trying to get across in this and several other threads. Just because you have no interest in having sex with it, that doesn't mean that a vomit-inducing response is normal, right?
 

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No sexual parts bother me, anymore than looking at a pet's or farm animals exposed excretory and sexual parts bothers me. Pardon the comparison. I like human parts better in fact. Well, horses do have some amazing parts.

Whenever someone says that they are so disgusted by the parts on their own body (Madame Zora being the one exception as always) or so disgusted by some form of human sexual behavior to the point of nausea, cramps, fever and a little throwup in their mouth, I think of the Shakespeare line: The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

In my experience, the more loud and violent the denial, the more likely the person is externalizing inner turmoil.
 

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I know there are plenty of women who do not share that opinion, but it's a line in the sand thing for me- absolutely icky.
Hmmm. Icky - like fish bait? I don't find it icky, so much as not particularly interesting by itself. Much like the outer ear. My reaction is, my, what a complicated way to do a simple job; after which I tend to lose interest. In porno, it's pure snooze-a-rama. Boring.
 

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*starts singing*

This is the porn that never eeends
yes it goes on and on my frieeends.
Some lesbos staaarted fingerbanging,
writhing to the beat,
and just when you believe they're through
their moans start to repeat
cuz it's the porn that never eeends,
yes it goes on and on my frieeends.
Some lesbos staaarted fingerbanging,
writhing to the beat,
and just when you believe they're through
their moans start to repeat
cuz it's the porn that never eeends...

And so on and so forth until fade to black.

This made me chuckle.

I want to see your treatrment of "99 bottles of beer on the wall" next, please.:tongue:
 

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Exactly, Matthew. We have a few amongst us who are incapable of making that distinction, both in this thread and about 4 others.

I respectfully suggest that you are being presumptuous. I expect that there are people here (at least one) fully capable of making the distinction (between being uninterested and being revolted) and yet are both uninterested and revolted.

Just because you have no interest in having sex with it, that doesn't mean that a vomit-inducing response is normal, right?

Absolutely correct; the first doesn't necessarily mean the second; but neither does the first exclude the possibility of the second. Moreover, speaking for myself and for those who have shared their analogous feelings on this thread, I don't think you can so easily make yourself the arbiter of what is "normal" and what is not for anyone other than yourself.
 

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I respectfully suggest that you are being presumptuous. I expect that there are people here (at least one) fully capable of making the distinction (between being uninterested and being revolted) and yet are both uninterested and revolted.

I think DC's exactly right. Many people conflate their lack of interest with disgust and justify it based on its "normalcy." That fact that you or I or some others are able to separate the two doesn't preclude the obvious fact that many members here are not able. And I think that's exactly what DC meant when he said "a few of us."
 

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I think DC's exactly right. Many people conflate their lack of interest with disgust and justify it based on its "normalcy." That fact that you or I or some others are able to separate the two doesn't preclude the obvious fact that many members here are not able. And I think that's exactly what DC meant when he said "a few of us."

I can't argue with that, and I believe I see your point. I was interpreting the statement from the opposite direction, and may well have misunderstood the scope, range and membership actually intended by the statement.
 

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I respectfully suggest that you are being presumptuous. I expect that there are people here (at least one) fully capable of making the distinction (between being uninterested and being revolted) and yet are both uninterested and revolted.
I stand corrected. I was presumptuous to think that the physiological and psychological normative standard is not a gag/vomit reflex at the thought of a penis or a vagina. It is, of course, more normal to gag when genitals are mentioned, than it is not to gag.
I think DC's exactly right. Many people conflate their lack of interest with disgust and justify it based on its "normalcy." That fact that you or I or some others are able to separate the two doesn't preclude the obvious fact that many members here are not able. And I think that's exactly what DC meant when he said "a few of us."
Thanks for the defense, Matthew, but I've said my mea culpas and realize the error of my ways. By the way, did I really say "a few of us"? Of course, I meant all of us.
 

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I'm not supposed to answer this because it is only for "gay" guys to answer and not addressed to any of us completely INVISIBLE bisexuals... (you know my answer anyway... I like it all!)
 

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Well my answer is this, I feel the human body in its entierty is a beautiful thing! I can admire a beautiful woman, but I dont want to sleep with her or see her tits or any other part, if its a naked picture I can appreciate it, and admire the mind behind the person who chooses to let other people see them naked in magazines etc... As far as porn goes its an income and theyre acting, hey if you can have fun at the same time awesome. I enjoy str8 porn only cause theres a guy involved, yay. When it comes to men i admire there beauty and something inside me wants to see more! the less I see the better the fantasy! i dont always want to get in the sack or anything but men stir up my sexual urges, women no not anymore what so eva. We can t help what we are attracted to, take of the exterior and we are all the same, we have the same desires wants and needs. Its just that each persons answer to whom or what can meet these needs are different. This sight is great that we can get obtain an insight of others and not be so adverse to those who have different preferences than our own.
 

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I'm not supposed to answer this because it is only for "gay" guys to answer and not addressed to any of us completely INVISIBLE bisexuals... (you know my answer anyway... I like it all!)
:biggrin1: Well, it would have been a silly question to ask the straight or bisexual guys, right? Even though I'm 100% gay, I still don't get it... the OP, I mean.
 

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I am not repulsed by seeing naked women. Some vaginas are really attractive, and seeing them shimmering wet is arousing. However, I have a problem with a vagina that looks like it has been in a fight and just got off of crutches, and the meat curtains hang down to her knees. That is not attractive.

And the same with gay men. I don't like seeing some dick pics because they are gross. And don't even get me started on gay porn and fisting. That is just repulsive.
 

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So, the question for the gay guys out there....Is this how you feel when have similar thoughts about girls?

No, I like some girls and I'm still a gay man.

From my point of view no one is totally gay or staight, and this does not mean that one straight guy is going to fall in love with a man, not even sex: it just attention.

One regular straight man directs his attention to females, but after thousands and thousands of woman, in one second and without notice at all, that straight guy is going to note another man.

And of course the same thing for gay man like me.

BUT I don't believe in bisexuality, always a gender will atract you more than other, being for taste or for social / cultural enviroment.

That's all.
 

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I find I am a little disgusted by oversized breasts. they just look like a deformity to me. Not mean as an insult to anyone, just the way I feel, totally honest.