I usually never comment on these kinds of threads, because there's really no way I can compose a response that will succintly make my point. There's always a barage of different kinds of responses to these sorts of posts because people feel very strongly about the topic of gay-straight coexistence. But in this case, I'm gonna try.
To the OP, I'm so sorry your friends are acting that way. It takes real courage to admit that you're different. It's a shame that your friends can't see that right now. It's also a shame that they are exhibiting fear towards your honesty about yourself. Hopefully, if the friendships are strong enough, they will come around. If there's one thing I've learned, it's this... you simply cannot change the way people think or feel. You can only rely on your actions to truly display your personality and intentions. If they are afraid you want them, prove to them that you don't by not making unneccessary jokes about it. Show them that you are the same person you were before you came out. Show them that nothing has changed. If they are true friends, they will accept it in time. Never be ashamed or ill at ease about coming out. It's incredibly brave, and was the right thing to do. Living a lie is only going to eat you up in side. Nothing is worth compromising your authenticity.
Now, on to point #2. I am friends with gay and straight people of all sizes, shapes, religions, nationalities, political views and social classes. However, all of my friends have one thing in common... security. They all know who they are and aren't threatened by those who are different. Just because a man is gay doesn't mean that he wants to jump the bones over every other man on the planet. Yes, there are gay men out there who want nothing more than to convert straight men... but that ISN'T THE NORM. If you find it to be so, you should change the company you keep. Do I think straight men are attractive? Sure I do. But on the flipside, I also find women to be beautiful and attractive. However, I would never be disrespectful to a straight woman, nor would I be to a straight man. Why? Because I know what I want... a relationship. That's never gonna happen with a straight dude, BECAUSE HE'S STRAIGHT. Therefore, straight men have nothing to fear from me, or anyone who holds my views, and I would guess that's a huge portion of the gay population. Again, if you find this to be false, look outside your own bubble and realize that your limited experience might not be the only one. And, if your one of those arrogant individuals who thinks everyone wants them, well, that's your problem.
Finally, it's important to note that a straight person is never going to understand what its like to have to come out of the closet. For just one second, if you are straight, try to imagine the complete and total torture of never being able to express your true feelings, of having every day to hide your true self and put on the mantle of "normal person." Imagine having feelings so strong that you feel like you might any day go completely postal if you can't let it out, but you can't for fear of compete and total isolation and loneliness. Have you ever felt like that? Then, just maybe, you could begin to understand why some gay men tend to go more toward the extreme. They are releasing fear, self-loathing and feelings bottled up just for the sake of trying their damndest to live a normal life. Instead of ridiculing them, try and show them a little understanding. If the shoe were on the other foot, wouldn't you want that?