I guess I'll be the oddball once again. I am a top. I'm not versatile in the least. I can't say that I'll never bottom, but I haven't felt the desire to do so yet. I don't think that it diminishes one's masculinity to bottom; on the contrary, I like a dude who can take it like a man. Now ass-play is a different story: a tongue or a finger or two will draw no protests from me. But I don't think penis size has anything to do with it. Some guys are tops, some are bottoms, and some pull double-duty.
The_Swinging_Voter: And bless you for that attitude DoubleMeatWhopper. I have never doubted my masculinity but if I get the choice I'll always grab the bottom bunk lol.
Personally I think stuff all those notions of masculine etc, I can't think of anything better than a nice king size bed, a smooth skinned hottie with a good bod and me, very, very happily taking it like a man
Personally I think stuff all those notions of masculine etc, I can't think of anything better than a nice king size bed, a smooth skinned hottie with a good bod and me, very, very happily taking it like a man
I have tried, but can't bottom for really big guys. In one case in particular I really tried, because we both wanted a switch....just couldn't handle the girth.
Anyway,I have found that hung guys haven't been given the chance to bottom...they are always expected to top and be "dominant".
In the few cases that I have been with really large guys none had ever been asked to bottom. In each case they were nervous about bottoming but really enjoyed it. In fact, they preferred it. I think that they found being fucked by an average sized cock felt good and allowed them the pleasure of "letting go".
In our culture men are expected to be dominant, even in sex. I think the chance to be so physically and emotionally vulnerable is a relief and enhances the intensity of the experience.
Anyway,I have found that hung guys haven't been given the chance to bottom...they are always expected to top and be "dominant".
In the few cases that I have been with really large guys none had ever been asked to bottom. In each case they were nervous about bottoming but really enjoyed it. In fact, they preferred it. I think that they found being fucked by an average sized cock felt good and allowed them the pleasure of "letting go".
In our culture men are expected to be dominant, even in sex. I think the chance to be so physically and emotionally vulnerable is a relief and enhances the intensity of the experience.
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i've fucked girls but never guys, although i really want to...
and in theory, judging from how much i fantasize and contemplate topping and bottoming, i'd probably be like 60-70% bottom..
one thing that sounds like it would be extremely hot is to bone a guy with a big one, lean over from behind him, and watch it sway and throb
and in theory, judging from how much i fantasize and contemplate topping and bottoming, i'd probably be like 60-70% bottom..
one thing that sounds like it would be extremely hot is to bone a guy with a big one, lean over from behind him, and watch it sway and throb
The_Swinging_Voter: Hit the nail right on the head there b1988. I just enjoy the change from when Im with a woman or when Im topping and love the chance to just let go and be in more of a receptive role. Im not overly vocal when Im with a woman or when Im a top but when I bottom, well thats a whole different story. Im a whole lot louder, more vocal and really throw myself into it. Ha, ha, that has led to quite a few guys saying they have trouble not cumming too soon which is a hassle. I actually feel it allows me to express an entirely different side of my sexual personality that I dont get in any other way.
All that being said, I topped last night. Not because I was asked or expected to (mightn't have if it had been expected) but because thats how things seemed to flow naturally. Quite an awesome experience and in that instance I didnt mind not being a bottom, although I will say its one of the rare times thats happened.
ziggity if you ever get the chance, do it with a mirror in front or around you. You'll definately get the kind of view Im sure you'll love.
All that being said, I topped last night. Not because I was asked or expected to (mightn't have if it had been expected) but because thats how things seemed to flow naturally. Quite an awesome experience and in that instance I didnt mind not being a bottom, although I will say its one of the rare times thats happened.
ziggity if you ever get the chance, do it with a mirror in front or around you. You'll definately get the kind of view Im sure you'll love.
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The_Swinging_Voter: Good luck with it Ziggity. From the looks of that hot bod of yours you'll have a long list of willing guys in no time flat. If you ever get down to Australia, drop me a line and I'd be more than happy to help out
The_Swinging_Voter:
Is that in a good way or a bad way LOL. But dont be blushing, you've got an awesome bod and I envy any guy who gets to have you top them - although that butt of yours is awful tempting too
Originally posted by ziggity@Jan 31 2005, 04:26 AM
oh jeez
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Is that in a good way or a bad way LOL. But dont be blushing, you've got an awesome bod and I envy any guy who gets to have you top them - although that butt of yours is awful tempting too
I've had the same problem, and posted about it in several other forums. I'm a big guy both in stature and penis size. I'm 6'2" with a 8" or slightly more fairly thick. My preference is to flip with a guy regardless of his cock size, I've had some great sex with guys that were average or less. I've noticed that when I come across another hung guy that they are often just as desperate to bottom as I am and it can lead to a great flip. However when they just do me just so they can have me top them instead of the pure joy of sex it's less than satisfactory.
If I'm attracted to them and they want to get it on we're going to, whether they want to flip, top or bottom. I guess I'm just easy and wind up topping at least 75% of the time with a guy. I wouldn't reject the idea if a woman ever wants to do me with a strap on or double headed toy either.
If I'm attracted to them and they want to get it on we're going to, whether they want to flip, top or bottom. I guess I'm just easy and wind up topping at least 75% of the time with a guy. I wouldn't reject the idea if a woman ever wants to do me with a strap on or double headed toy either.
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Well, let me jump in there too. I'll refer back to the guys I always have. The bigger hung guy I knew was resigning himself to the fact that he'd have to get used to bottoming because he was just too big for most of the guys that he'd encountered. He'd found plenty of guys that wanted him to top because of his size, but even though he tried not to, he's a big guy and was very athletic and strong, so without getting to excited, he was still hurting these guys.
My slightly smaller endowed friend was in a similiar situation when he explored with a couple of guys. He liked being versatile much better though. His mentality was he could take as much as he could give.
From my own personal experience being 2.5 inches shorter than my friend I just mentioned, I still had plenty of guys wanting me to top specificially for my size. It didn't help that I didn't get off very fast either.
My slightly smaller endowed friend was in a similiar situation when he explored with a couple of guys. He liked being versatile much better though. His mentality was he could take as much as he could give.
From my own personal experience being 2.5 inches shorter than my friend I just mentioned, I still had plenty of guys wanting me to top specificially for my size. It didn't help that I didn't get off very fast either.
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I have to say that until recently I was not able to relax enough to bottom, I also had doubts about my skills as a top, mainly because I wasn't sure what it must feel like having not been on the receiving end. I was also concerned because everyone kept telling me I needed to be careful what I did with what I have (I'm 9" by 6.5"). So I made it my mission to get experienced. It took a while going at my own pace but everyone I've met has been prepared to focus on me rather than their own pleasure.
Recently I took a guy almost as big as myself. It was fabulous. I'd been out the night before and had indulged in a little more than drink if you get my gist (a technique I have used t relax myself). Later the following day we decided to have another go when the other chems had worn off - same result.
The guys who got me able to enjoy myself always focused on me rather than themselves. I now make this my approach.
That said I've been with a few guys who want me to shag them as hard as I can - I of course always oblige with delight.
I will also add that I find lots of guys desperate to top me. I think they almost get off on topping a guy bigger than them as if they are over-powering me.
Recently I took a guy almost as big as myself. It was fabulous. I'd been out the night before and had indulged in a little more than drink if you get my gist (a technique I have used t relax myself). Later the following day we decided to have another go when the other chems had worn off - same result.
The guys who got me able to enjoy myself always focused on me rather than themselves. I now make this my approach.
That said I've been with a few guys who want me to shag them as hard as I can - I of course always oblige with delight.
I will also add that I find lots of guys desperate to top me. I think they almost get off on topping a guy bigger than them as if they are over-powering me.
obviously there's no arguing with the fact that some people prefer bigger guys for any number of personal reasons based on their own experience. unforunately it's also true that in broader social terms, the cock size / sexual role expectation is the result of straightforward associative stereotyping (and as some folks have pointed out already, the adult entertainment industries tend to reinforce this stereotype, simply because of the nature of the marketplace). according to popular belief, bigger cock = more masculine: therefore the expectation is there for bigger guys to fulfil a more masculine role under any given circumstances. it's an assumption; a lot of people probably don't even think about it, especially if they don't have a great deal of sexual experience themselves.
I can also confirm that it can get pretty tiresome for some of us. I'm a big guy, heavily built, I have a big dick, I'm ugly, hairy, have scars on my face - in other words my appearance fits the frame for a whole lot of stereotypical assumptions about sexuality, and it's amazing how many otherwise intelligent, considerate people will put me in that frame without even thinking about it. as it happens, I personally don't even do anal, but the same expectations and assumptions affect every aspect of sexual interaction to a greater or lesser extent. it can be really awkward and depressing when someone I'm really attracted to seems unable to perceive or appreciate that my sexuality covers just as broad a spectrum as anyone else's, regardless of my the size of my dick or what the rest of me looks like.
okay whine over :wacko:
I can also confirm that it can get pretty tiresome for some of us. I'm a big guy, heavily built, I have a big dick, I'm ugly, hairy, have scars on my face - in other words my appearance fits the frame for a whole lot of stereotypical assumptions about sexuality, and it's amazing how many otherwise intelligent, considerate people will put me in that frame without even thinking about it. as it happens, I personally don't even do anal, but the same expectations and assumptions affect every aspect of sexual interaction to a greater or lesser extent. it can be really awkward and depressing when someone I'm really attracted to seems unable to perceive or appreciate that my sexuality covers just as broad a spectrum as anyone else's, regardless of my the size of my dick or what the rest of me looks like.
okay whine over :wacko:
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Originally posted by The_Swinging_Voter@Jan 28 2005, 01:45 PM
txquis,
Hmm. Interesting. I'm very bi and when I'm with women I like being the very active one, and now only like fucking, not oral, partly because my wife can't fit my cock into her mouth without her teeth hurting me. With men, it's been a long time, but in my experiences and continuing fantasies, I'm super-oral so not that interested in anal sex. I'd much rather suck than anything else.
BUT (or should I say "butt"), the few times I really did enjoy anal sex with guys was when they were well hung, laid on their backs, and had me fuck them face-to-face. I loved enjoying the sight of their awesome huge cocks the entire time, and watching when I made them cum all over their chests.
So don't always flip over!!! Please!!!!! There's no reason why the guy can't BOTH get turned on by your cock AND go to town. uh, downtown. as opposed to uptown.
I used to love being the bottom. I never did "top" since my member was quite large and the guy I was with wasn't really gay or bi, and couldn't accommodate my member (since he'd never done it before and his hole wasn't well versed) we were both just experimenting. He was quite small and I was able to take it after some relaxing. It was good and I liked it. To this day we're both with women exclusively.
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[/b][/quote]RunnerSF: Great points DMW. I'll join you in the odd ball status...I've always been pretty much a total bottom (Luckily for me, my hubby is pretty much a total top so we match up well when the rubber hits the road). We've swapped a few times and we usually just end up laughing and go back to doing what feels natural to us.
With other guys I've been with, I've never had any complaints on me prefering to bottom. I've noticed from some of the comments that some guys don't like feeling like they are just a big cock to the guy they are with and/or being expected to top due to said big cock. I've experienced similar feelings or sitations as a bottom - especially in the area of my masulinity being challenged as a result of being a bottom...but usually they occur with guys I just "tricked" out with rather than guys I dated and cared about or them caring about me. Looking back at the situations - that lack of sensitivity is more a result of the hookup rather than dick size.
However, having said that, I do agree that porn plays a factor in hung guys being perceived as a top. Porn is dehumanizing on many levels...cock size included.
With other guys I've been with, I've never had any complaints on me prefering to bottom. I've noticed from some of the comments that some guys don't like feeling like they are just a big cock to the guy they are with and/or being expected to top due to said big cock. I've experienced similar feelings or sitations as a bottom - especially in the area of my masulinity being challenged as a result of being a bottom...but usually they occur with guys I just "tricked" out with rather than guys I dated and cared about or them caring about me. Looking back at the situations - that lack of sensitivity is more a result of the hookup rather than dick size.
However, having said that, I do agree that porn plays a factor in hung guys being perceived as a top. Porn is dehumanizing on many levels...cock size included.
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