A Question For The Women Here?

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  1. B_Hung Jon

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    Do you feel that it's super important that you love or care about the guy (or girl) who's giving you head? My g/f thinks it's funny when guys stick their tongues out at her, pretending to want to give her a licking. She says it's gross because she doesn't want just any old guy licking her. What do you women think? Thanks.

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    Yes.
     
  3. B_Jennuine73

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    Being on the receiving end of oral is VERY intimate.

    It is very important that I know a person and like a person alot before I would let cunnilingus happen :)
     
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    I don't want any kind of sex with someone I don't give a toss about.
     
  5. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    This could explain why despite my very large and attractive tongue, no girls want to play wid it.
     
  6. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Im not very fussy about who i give oral to but i am VERY fussy about who i receive from and it takes me quite a while to even let boyfriends go down on me. All part of being self conscious :redface:
     
  7. wldhoney

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    I wouldn't think it was gross for a man to WANT to lick me, but if I didn't have both a mental and physical attraction for him, it wouldn't be enough to let him.

    That's not to say that I don't fantasize and masturbate thinking about men I don't know but have seen or made some sort of eye contact with. I definitely do, and the stranger element makes it all the more naughty. I've been in a line at a business and wondered what the sexy man in front of me would do if I simply jumped up on a desk and said "do it!" Definitely makes waiting in line much more fun..... :)
     
  8. Principessa

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    I'm with your girlfriend on this one. I need to know and care deeply for the man who is licking my pussy. It's not usually a first date or one night stand activity for me.



    SLB, your problem is that you are a player. You just want to fuck and have no desire for a relationship right now. I'm not condemning, I think that is completely normal for a man your age.:wink: Some guys can hide this, some guys can't. I am guessing you are in the latter group hence your perpetual search for pussy. :tongue:
     
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    May I add a second question to the OP's one?

    Would you give oral before than receive oral with someone new?

    I mean, are this 'requirements' looser for giving than for receiving?
     
  10. wldhoney

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    If I had to choose, I would receive before I gave. For me, having a man's c**k in my mouth, his taste and smell, is very intimate. It's something I love and I prefer it with some sort of mental interaction. Being able to look in his eyes as I suck him and have that non-verbal communication.
     
  11. Principessa

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    Hmm, it depends on how we are defining new. Twenty years ago I would have said yes; but not now. I need to really know the guy first. There needs to be some semblance of an emotional connection for it to be worth it for me.
     
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    Is there such a thing as a player who isn't getting any? :eek:
     
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    Yes indeed.... and it is called 'ScaredLittleBoy' :biggrin1: :biggrin1: :biggrin1:
     
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    Thanks for all the responses. It's wild to me that guys are so different than girls around some of this sex stuff.
     
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    I read a passage in a book that I have always found interesting.

    "Like a compulsive gambler viewing a slot machine or a lottery ticket, each new sexual encounter seemed to promise the possibility of some as-yet-un-dreamed-of ecstasy. Each pussy was the potential passage to some higher bliss that flickered across his mind in dreams and yet always eluded him."

    I think some men desire the hunt, fueled by a belief that the next one is going to fulfill something the last one didn't. It's not really about the woman, but what her body will do for him.

    For a woman, it's more about the man himself.

    Of course, it's the differences between the sexes that keep it interesting, allow for the sexual tension.

    So, Hung Jon, what is YOUR take on your own question as well as the one posed by Alex22?
     
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    It's pretty hard to get me to let someone do that... I just hate it.
     
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    Think_Kink

    Can you tell me why?
     
  18. Principessa

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    She has intimacy issues, let's just leave it at that.:redface:
     
  19. B_Hung Jon

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    wldhoney,
    Thanks for asking. My take on my own question is this: If the situation were reversed & you asked guys if they would have to love or care about a person before she gave him head, I think most guys would say "absolutely no". For some reason the pleasure that guys get from getting head is so great that the issue of emotional intimacy might not ever come up. I guess I think it's fascinating how females and males can be so entirely different. I know my girlfriend gets more aroused when she's feeling extra emotionally close to me. I think I get more emotionally invloved when I know I'm pleasing her. So it's an interesting dynamic to me. Maybe that's also part of the sexual tension you talk about.
     
  20. Not_Punny

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    Actually, this is a very good question. In my entire life, I've only let two men lick me.

    So, yes, I consider this waaaaaay more intimate and personal than intercourse and other forms of sexual expression. I have to be VERY close to someone for that.
     
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