Thanks for your response.
Whether you intend it or not, the problem IMO is that there are so many unexamined homophobic assumptions behind your question that are open to challenge.
First, you've framed the question in terms of gay people seeking sex with 100% straight men only who by your definition would never be interested and if they were would not be straight but "at least" bicurious. Yes? That scenario is unrealistic and loaded, and plays to these homophobic tropes, all of which appear in your posts:
Then there's your offence when you misread someone's post as referring to you as gay. "Wtf man" etc. Why is that cause for offence? Gays are not generally offended when they are thought to be straight, it happens all the time. The only reason to be offended is if you think it's wrong or inferior.
- Gay men as sexual predators seeking to prey on and 'convert' non-gays
- Insistent gays who never get the hint and "can't take no for an answer"
- Gays as saddos, desperately seeking sexual interest and response where there is none and "sabotaging their own happiness"
- Gays unscrupulously "taking advantage of" straights who are incapacitated/drunk
- Gays as disrupters of straight family life - in your loaded scenario, gays are trying to seduce straight men who are "happy in their own life" and happy in their relationships
- Gays "disrespecting" straight sexuality - as though straightness were a prize or standard, more 'respectable' than gay sexuality - why can't they "settle" on their own kind
In my experience, your narrowly defined scenario isn't true to life. Perhaps that's why nobody has yet come forward to own up that "it's their mission in life to go after straight men" - which is clearly the confirmation that you are seeking from this thread. That's not generally how it happens.
The few times I've had sex with men who identify as "straight" (one went on to marry and have kids though he wasn't in a relationship at the time) they have tended to come on to me, at least there was mutual interest. You can tell when there is. None of your assumptions about gay predatory behaviour applied and I think they seldom do.
You've mentioned lesbians several times. I know quite a few and every single one of them has had sex with a man at some point in their lives. That doesn't make them not lesbians. And it doesn't mean that they have been preyed on by insistent, unscrupulous, sad, disruptive, desperate straight men - which is the image of gay men you are promoting here. Usually it's because they were curious to find out what it was like or it just happened before they'd fully decided on their sexuality. Now if you met a lesbian whom you found attractive, who seemed to show mutual interest, would you hang back out of "respect" for her stated sexuality or would you sleep with her? I'm thinking most straight men would do the latter. Not for bad reasons, but just why not?
That I think is more how you should see gay men's interest in men. Basically, like you are attracted to women regardless of their sexuality assuming you find them attractive, that's what it's like for gay men: we are attracted to men. Not straight men necessarily, all kinds of men. And if they are interested in us and want sex, what's the problem? If they define themselves as straight but are still interested enough to have sex, so what? This isn't a matter of gay 'conversion' or anything of the kind. It's just sex. And gay sex is no better or worse than straight sex.
Thank you for your response, and man... seeing your point of view, and how you took my posts makes me feel horrible actually man. In no way did I mean to make it seem like I was generalizing all gay people. That is very far from my intention. I have had same sex sexual experiences, that I truly have cherrished, and some of my closest friends happen to be gay. I know gay people aren't predators, evil, or homewreckers. I was specifically addressing the people who openly admit they are after straight guys. There aren't many, don't get me wrong, but there are people on this site with usernames such as "gay4straight" (sic), and even in real life situations, I have encountered people who are after straight men. My question was addressed to those people. Not to gay people in general. I understand though, the confusion, and now that you pointed it out to me, I realized how my question could be seen as offensive.
I don't think someones sexuality makes them any better or worse than any other person. I don't even look down on the select few gay people who are after straight men, I'm simply wondering why some people specifically seek out "straight" men. Again, not saying everyone does that, but it is a real thing that some people participate in. As someone replied to me, they prefer married men because it's simply uncomplicated, just oral sex without conversation, dinners, gifts, etc... I accepted that response, and while I can't relate, I respect everyone.