A question! Is there a lady here.......?

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I have seen this question asked a few times lately.

People have to remember that this site is different things to different people. For some people they have it in their mind that this is a dating / hook up site. And that is all fine and good but it isn't that way for me. LPSG is not Adult Friend Finder for me.

I am happily married and not looking for any extra curricular activity. Why am I here? Well, my husband told me about the site, he thought it might be something I would enjoy and he was right. I try to check in every day and read some of the posts and topics. I am a stay at home mom with children.....but I have never been busier in my life and I like it that way. My family comes first and if I have any left over spare time then I come to LPSG to read the posts and such.

I don't respond to random p.m.'s very often. Just depends on who the person is and like if they are talking about something that I have said or posted. There has to be something we both have in common. And of course I have to have some spare time to even be on the computer to reply. I have nothing against making friendships on here, but I am not going to do anything to jeopardize the good thing I have going on with my relationship with my husband. I hope this makes some sense, it is late and I am tired and sleepy.
 

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A vent I know.. I'm sorry

Is there a lady here that will respond to personal messages?

I understand that if ur a lady and receiving thousands of abusive, disgusting, suggestive, propositional, random questions that u'd rather not answer then u dont answer...maybe they'll go away.

I've asked a few polite, get-to-know-you, what do we do here at lpsg type questions to no avail. is there no-one that can answer those?

If i've asked a question and you're not interested how hard is it to say "im not interested" rather than not responding

Please ladies look for sincerity. I am trying really hard

Nothing in your profile,no pics and you wonder why?
 

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I find it a little creepy when someone starts asking a lot of personal questions and they haven't bothered to fill out a profile, or at least indicate what gender they are. Reciprocity is very important in any relationship especially in the getting to know you stages.
 

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Amen! If you sent me a pm - I wouldn't answer it. Who are you? I do get a ton of pms - and even the ones I want to answer can get lost on a daily basis.

The first thing I do if I get a pm from someone I don't know is check their profile. If there's nothing there - I'm going to delete the message.

And to be honest - the pms I do answer tend to be ones from guys that post a lot AND have a profile.
This...
 

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It's also annoying that the OP hasn't been back to check his own thread.

I decided to test a theory... on the day this thread started, I sent a personal message to the OP with my suggestions on where he was going wrong.

As I predicted, no reply. Nothing. Nada. It goes both ways. You can't come here and vent about something, and then not come back to see what answers people give.

Be consistent.
 

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It's also annoying that the OP hasn't been back to check his own thread.

I decided to test a theory... on the day this thread started, I sent a personal message to the OP with my suggestions on where he was going wrong.

As I predicted, no reply. Nothing. Nada. It goes both ways. You can't come here and vent about something, and then not come back to see what answers people give.

Be consistent.

That is very disappointing!
 

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Wow! Thanks everyone for your suggestions.

I am working my way through them and have updated my profile and avatar
 

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I tend to answer most of the PM's I receive, even if it's just to say 'thank you' or to decline chat and cam requests because I don't do that. But it's good to see you are taking peoples suggestions, because what they have said does help!
 

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Strangers rarely send me PMs looking for romance. I think they know better by now. I don't respond to the ones who clearly haven't read my signature, which can be read on my profile page, too.

I always reply to PMs. If they are rude or crude I never respond in kind.

I do not accept friend requests, however. Just don't see a point. Anyway, not sure if I want to be friends with somebody with a name like "19inchesStuffedDownURThroat." Maybe, it's just me.

Only people who are on my friend's list can read my blog or see my private album photos, and that's a feature I really like a lot. I think that's what a lot of people use their friend's list for.
 

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A vent I know.. I'm sorry

Is there a lady here that will respond to personal messages?

I understand that if ur a lady and receiving thousands of abusive, disgusting, suggestive, propositional, random questions that u'd rather not answer then u dont answer...maybe they'll go away.

I've asked a few polite, get-to-know-you, what do we do here at lpsg type questions to no avail. is there no-one that can answer those?

If i've asked a question and you're not interested how hard is it to say "im not interested" rather than not responding

Please ladies look for sincerity. I am trying really hard

Totally know where you're coming from...Yeah, it frustrated me too when I know for a fact I never once sent a creepy or stalkerish type message, and wouldnt even get a 'thank you' for a sincere compliment. I understand that the female posters here probably get SWAMPED with pm's from random guys and a polite message might drowned in a sea of disgusting or even generic ones....I too get unsolicited messages from creepy doods from time to time, but still, c'mon.

LOL sometimes I wonder if some poster with, idk, Fabio's looks and chiseled jawline and a 10 inch cock sent monosyllabic messages without the slightest thought to them, he'd still probably get more responses than a sincere compliment or two from us regular joes ya know? LPSG is one of the places where it seems men are more objectified then women, lol. Now I know what it feels like to be an average chick...feels bad man.

I do get pleasantly surprised sometimes and a female poster replies and even compliments me back. So now that I know the rarity of those types of responses, I have heaps more respect for those girls...nor do I just befriend any female member wily-nily like i did in the past. Now I pick and choose who to stay in touch with, and the longer you're here the better odds you'll find some nice peope to keep in touch with.