A question of definition

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  1. Khana

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    Hello. I was thinking (yes, I know, a dangerous endeavor :p), and I find myself wondering, what do I really qualify as, as far as the straight-gay meter.

    See, the thing is, a good definition would be, I'm really straight, but I'll play with Anything, women included. So does that count me as kind of gay, on this meter?

    Women are great fun to play with... but it's just a game, with them. Like, this one time, there was this girl who really liked my boyfriend (who's now my husband). She was bi, and I had a blast with her, because we teamed up to torment my love. He'd push me away, saying not to touch/kiss/etc him in public, so I'd do it to her, instead, right in front of him, and watch him squirm. She loved it, both because she didn't feel guilty playing with my guy (since I was egging her on), and because she enjoyed me. Me, I enjoyed it, because it was a whole new, incredibly awesome way to tease. And I Really love to tease. (And my somewhat shy-in-public-about-sex love confessed to enjoying the experience immensely. Especially when I ended up giving her a topless lap dance in the closed, underground mall in front of all the guys ^-^)

    And I'll screw a girl, too, without a guy involved, but it's more... kind of like masturbating with a friend, you know? It's pleasureful, it's fun, it's silly, it's worth doing... but She's not really the object of my interest. She's just... someone I'm sharing a dildo with, someone new I get to have fun pleasuring.


    So, I'm curious what you people think. 90% straight, 10% play-with-anything-I-can-get-my-hands-on-including-women? That's basically what my current status means to me... think it's fitting?

    As a note, I recognize I can call myself what I please, tis just idle curiosity on what others would think :p
     
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    Labels exist to describe something. They do not exist for things and people to fit themselves into. Call yourself whatever you like and don't worry about it. Be lesbian, bisexual, straight, omnisexual, pansexual, or even Sapphic. So long as you're happy with who you are it doesn't matter and your dictionary certainly won't leap for joy if you ever discover a word that precisely fits your sexuality.
     
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    *laughs* Oh, of that I'm quite aware. Again, like I said in my last line, I was more idly curious what others thought of the definition.

    I am me, and no labels will ever change that. But, others may understand me better if I choose labels that more closely resemble the truth. Being as I'm a complex individual, no label fits perfectly, and I always find myself wondering as to potential edits of the system.

    I like the term pansexual, personally, but that isn't an option on this meter :p
     
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