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Matthew said:
HIV is transmitted when the blood or sexual fluids of an infected person get into someone else's bloodstream. The main way that happens is through unprotected sex (besides sharing injection needles, etc.). Since other fluids besides semen are sometimes involved in sex (pre-cum or vaginal fluid or blood or rectal mucous), someone doesn't necessarily have to "shoot inside" to transmit the virus. Hope that's helpful.
That answers my question exactly. Thank you so much
And thank you baseball as well. I knew a bit of that, but I was suprised how much I didn't know. It's been helpful
 

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majormadness said:
That answers my question exactly. Thank you so much
And thank you baseball as well. I knew a bit of that, but I was suprised how much I didn't know. It's been helpful

no prob dude.....like i said there are so many more but i just got tired of typing.....it really surprises me in the clinic how some kids (18+) have no concept of stds at all
 

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I do understand what you mean: i had that problem. But a mixt of personal attitudes and history avoided me any problem.

It was difficult to find a right fitting condom, but i have never risked: i had sex onl with my gf, and the both of us were virgin before we met.

I think there should be more information about condom size: just think that in Italy bigger (or smaller) condoms are not on sale in drugstores (well there are some, but i found no difference with regular ones).

Remember, anyway: a wank is better than unprotected sex! :wink:
 

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I suspect we've strayed off topic, albeit in a good way.

The way I read phantom73's question is this. Endowed men have such trouble finding condoms that fit, do they give up in frustration more often, or have regular accidents? That puts them at special risk for HIV.

I gather from the collected posts (and from my own experience) that while there are accidents and exceptions, most well hung men would rather enjoy imperfect safe sex than perfect unsafe sex.

Let me share for a moment. One of my first male lovers was HIV positive. He confessed this before we did the deed, and having graduated from a Gay 101 course at the local gay men's health centre, I was confident that it could work. And it did.

Not so my old boy's previous lover. He was a well hung gent, who got so frustrated with condoms--and was so confident that an exclusively top guy couldn't be at risk--that he abandoned safe sex, over my old boy's protests.

My ex-lover lives. His ex is dead. When I met him, my old boy was a mess from the guilt, even though the unsafe sex wasn't his decision. Little consolation when the doctrine of love says you must proitect those you care about.

My ex wouldn't LET me practice unsafe sex. Even though he wasn't the one at risk. Surely, that's what love is about?

By the way, emotional messes, safe sex and uncomfy condoms as part of the deal, I don't regret that relationship for a second. We're still friends, and I wish him and his life-partner a long and happy life together. IN fact, I take some pleasure in knowing that I may have helped; when we first met, my boy had abandoned his HIV regimen out of guilt and shame, and I took no truck with that. Gay 101 makes you pretty bolshie about that sort of stuff.

Thanks for starting this thread, phantom73.

HB8
 

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jeff black said:
No hassle, feeling skin on skin, if there was no risk, I would jump at the chance.... After reading some of these comments, I have realized that sex without a condom really just isn't worth the risk that it entails.

I agree with everybody, safe sex is the only moral, decent, good choice, and I admire the willpower and commitment it takes. That is what I strive for, and what I want to maintain. It is the right thing to do. I am just not 100% as strong as I would like to be, and sometimes a hot stupid ass who wants me to fuck him without a condom is just more than I can resist. It's stupid and risky. I don't know why I do it.
 

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Mkymkus said:
I agree with everybody, safe sex is the only moral, decent, good choice, and I admire the willpower and commitment it takes. That is what I strive for, and what I want to maintain. It is the right thing to do. I am just not 100% as strong as I would like to be, and sometimes a hot stupid ass who wants me to fuck him without a condom is just more than I can resist. It's stupid and risky. I don't know why I do it.
Myk,

I was kind of worried that you would take my response to the topic as somehow directed at you. If you did, I want to stress that's not so. And apologies for any bad feelings it may have caused you.

I am as much a condom fascist as anyone. Yet I've had unsafe sex.

As I wrote in another thread (tonight, by coincidence) I speed when I can get away with it. I know it's dangerous. But do it because, well, um...I dunno. I'm human, I guess.

One thing that all the public health experts agree about: if you beat yourself up and feel ashamed about not using a condom on one occasion, you're much more likely to abandon condoms on the next. It's normal, it's human, it happens.

If you have safe sex on the next occasion your're offered an unsafe ass, feel good about yourself. If not...well, you're still a right-minded person. Just take it one ass at a time.

Take care of yourself. You deserve it.

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I`m Sure,safe sex is the best thing to deter Aids,however,most people don`t use it,for unknown reasons,or they care only for their pleasure.AS for the large penis,and unavailabilty of a convenient condom,you can find a proper way either to avoid sodomy or to find an alternative methods.Anyhow,some people are narrow-minded,they use random unsafe sex,until they got Aids,they feel remorse.All I wanna say:TAKE CARE:YOU DON~t KNOW WHAT U GOT,UNTIL YOU LOSE IT.
 

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After coming here for 3 months still amazed at those who will pontifcate on one issue yet are indiscriminate in their own behaviour on other issues. To be didactic is one thing; to be a smart ass is another.