A shitty shitty day part two...

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i am loving all of this attention..........but please remember that you all are not significant to me and therefore your comments do not sway me....your intended insults roll off of me like water off a duck lol...and Onslow lmaoooo really dude is that the best u can do? you seem to be a corny piece of shit lol opps! i've just insulted shit...lmaooo give it a rest....i am not hurt by the comments....but umm..i am flattered by the attention and the free therapy ......and again thanks for the insight that you all are providing ...i think it is important for all of you to remember that I do not know anyone of you on this board and will never meet anyone of you...i can care less how anyone on here feels about me..this is not a popularity contest..your opinions are like assholes... everyone has one...speaking of assholes Onslow...ooops! never mind i do not want to insult assholes......dude you are ...so ...opps never mind....thanks for sharing lmaooooo
 

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i am loving all of this attention..........but please remember that you all are not significant to me and therefore your comments do not sway me....your intended insults roll off of me like water off a duck lol...and Onslow lmaoooo really dude is that the best u can do? you seem to be a corny piece of shit lol opps! i've just insulted shit...lmaooo give it a rest....i am not hurt by the comments....but umm..i am flattered by the attention and the free therapy ......and again thanks for the insight that you all are providing ...i think it is important for all of you to remember that I do not know anyone of you on this board and will never meet anyone of you...i can care less how anyone on here feels about me..this is not a popularity contest..your opinions are like assholes... everyone has one...speaking of assholes Onslow...ooops! never mind i do not want to insult assholes......dude you are ...so ...opps never mind....thanks for sharing lmaooooo
Yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn.
Kid, you bore me (and not in a good way either). Now go settle into your corner and play with your tiddlywinks.
 

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Realise something Arliss, in some of your posts you are quick to profess being Christian...and even refer to the Bible. Now, when your life is the only copy of the Gospels that non believers see, can you in all honesty profess that are indeed displaying Jesus to the world? Is there even a tie between the life and teachings of Jesus and the way that you are conducting yourself?

You are degrading my faith and my religion, and quite frankly I don't care if my opinions mean nothing to you you, just remember that you are bringing shame upon a religion and a God that you profess to hold in your esteem... While you are so quick to throw judgement day into the faces of others, you are not exempt... and you may be faced with the question, "why do you persecute me?" Acts 9: 4
 

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Realise something Arliss, in some of your posts you are quick to profess being Christian...and even refer to the Bible. Now, when your life is the only copy of the Gospels that non believers see, can you in all honesty profess that are indeed displaying Jesus to the world? Is there even a tie between the life and teachings of Jesus and the way that you are conducting yourself?

You are degrading my faith and my religion, and quite frankly I don't care if my opinions mean nothing to you you, just remember that you are bringing shame upon a religion and a God that you profess to hold in your esteem... While you are so quick to throw judgement day into the faces of others, you are not exempt... and you may be faced with the question, "why do you persecute me?" Acts 9: 4

yea umm hmmm.......sure...thanks for sharing.....next...
 

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Folks, I think we all need to take a deep breath on this one. TK, I am so sorry for your loss. It is always such a tragedy when someone feels they can no longer go on. This is one of the reasons we have to try to be kind to one another. We never know when a kind word will keep someone else from crossing over that line.
 

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allowing me to control ya emotions ? lol a true sign of weakness...and some very strong comments from people that are truly insignificant to me lmaooo...but neverthelsss I thank you for sharing your feelings...now if I may ..i was enjoying a fresh bowl of rabbitt s:biggrin1: tew
Arliss. you have every right to believe the way you wish. You don't have the right though to express every belief and thought here on the LPSG.

And these posters seem insignificant to you, however, I am one of the moderators here. Your comments to someone who has just lost a friend who was llike a grandparent because of suicide is way over the line.

It is quite simple. You can either change the way you post or you can find yourself banned. Hickboy, another moderator has already mentioned on this thread the possibility of a ban.

Your behavior here violates the ToS, the Terms of Service. It is in fact a type of trolling. Doesn't matter if you agree with the moderators on this or not. If a majority of the moderators consider you a troll then for the purpose of this board you are a troll.

I would rather see you clean up your act and become a responsible member here. The choice is yours.

Freddie
 

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Just to be fair, this is not entirely one sided. While I understand everybody's desire to protect a friend. Immediate attacks against a poster are rarely the way to go. A reasonably voiced objection can go a long way to smoothing over differences without escalating objectionable behaviour.

This is a great site for debate and differences of opinion, let's not make them outright battles if we can help it.
 

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Just to be fair, this is not entirely one sided. While I understand everybody's desire to protect a friend. Immediate attacks against a poster are rarely the way to go. A reasonably voiced objection can go a long way to smoothing over differences without escalating objectionable behaviour.

This is a great site for debate and differences of opinion, let's not make them outright battles if we can help it.

thank u Gilette--BANNED? BECUASE I AM RESPONDING TO THOSE WHO FEEL THEY SHOULD GANG UP ON ME???? or because i felt like i should be able to express myself on a particular thread.. umm no freedom of speech here or do i not conform to your expectations of freedom of speech....
LMAOOOO ok look this site is not my life like it is for most of you people on here ... i have real friends in life not the ones on the net like most of you.....banning me will not take one thing away from my life.......obvioulsy since u feel the need to threaten me with being banned..this site carries a lot of weight in your life......it is not that serious for me ..do what u feel u must but i assure you life will go on... there are others in this particular thread that have cursed me... yes ....they used profanity ..does not not violate the TOS surely it must...have they been threatened with a ban?....using profanity to get across ones point is unnecessary..i made each and every point without any use of profanity and i merely responded only to defend myself and u want to ban me? this is a joke...
 

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The joke is that you have consistantly shown yourself to be an inconsiderate, heartless individual (I can refer you to previous posts if required) yet you seem to think you can hide behind freedom of speech? Well here's the deal, plain and simple..

Yes there is freedom of speech on these boards, until it becomes clear that your only reason for posting is to cause upset for those others posting. This has been made clear in your case, in this and at least one other thread, your sole contribution was insensitive, hurtful rubbish.

Trying to one up others based on the emotions they display on a forum is a little pathetic to say the least, after all, if our comments mean so little to you, and this board isn't your life, then why do you feel the need to continue posting this rubbish? and responding to those who feel for the ones you've gone out of your way to hurt?

As for using foul language, well.. It is no more unnecessary than throwing ones religion in to back up being a prat. When you come into a thread and belittle ones feelings, you must expect people to fight back, to support the one being belittled. This is a support site and so far, you've told one member to "get over" the death of a close friend, and suggested another might have to resort to suicide because he simply isn't big enough to be considered worthy of living a happy life, where exactly is the support you bring to this site? I'm yet to see it, and this is why you are considered a troll.

In another thread, it was mentioned that peoples history on the board be considered when dealing with complaints and such, and this is where that comes in. If you consistently post hurtful comments and bring little to no support to the site, then why would any one consider you anything but a troll? I don't know the post history of all members in this thread, I do know most though, and they've added considerable amounts of support to the site, they've spent time and effort helping others, their "crime" (for want of a better word) is far less than that of someone who has added nothing but inconsiderate rubbish.


i offer no apologies...i will not be beat into submission...this is America ..a free society...Ms. Kotchanski...the mods ..including yourself are beating up on me and encouraging me to respond.....in a negative way..this i so obvious...i do not view death the same as most.....and I merely expressed that.. is this a crime? must i feel the same as evyone else about death? I think not
 

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To beat out KYJenni... and find some guidance.... My neibour comitted suicide yesterday... he was in his late 50's early 60's.
I am so sorry to hear this. Life is hard and for some it is too hard. I can only imagine the emotional pain someone must feel to take their own life.
 

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Just to be succinct and frank here, it was not my intention to deliberately gang up on another member, but Arliss was and still is- showing blatant disregard for tk's feelings with regards to her situation.
However, I wasn't being untruthful as well; Arliss pushed his religious beliefs onto tk & everyone whio has bothered to respond to him.
 

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TK many of us here have had a friend or neighbor that has taken his or her own life. Those of us that have, know how you feel and are thinking about you. You will never forget but it will become less painfull.
 

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TK, for my feelings, I know what you're going through must be a difficult one, but try & remember that you were that close to your friend that I believe he would want you to keep remembering him in the way he lived, not the way he died.
I remember I knew of a guy at work who also I found later had commited suicide. He was warm, friendly, & never had a bad thing to say to anyone, and had a great sense of humor. Whenever i needed a good laugh to get me through the day, there he was with the quick quip. Example? I came into work one raining day and said it was raining cats & dogs, and he immediately replied, "Did you step in a poodle?"

We're still all here for you sweetheart, and don't let this bollox Arliss get to you 'cause i got a feeling that he won't last much longer with the mods tolerance.
 

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i offer no apologies...i will not be beat into submission...this is America ..a free society...Ms. Kotchanski...the mods ..including yourself are beating up on me and encouraging me to respond.....in a negative way..this i so obvious...i do not view death the same as most.....and I merely expressed that.. is this a crime? must i feel the same as evyone else about death? I think not

No, you don't have to think like the rest of us. You have only to behave with civility, something you appear unable to do at the moment. Take five days and think about it.
 
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Of all the deaths that occured in my life my father's death impacted me the most. Arliss' "get over it already" reminded me of my mother. The evening before my father's funeral my mother, brother and I went to the funeral home where my father's body lay. We were to see other relatives and friends who came later to give their condolences and chat with us. I looked upon my father's corpse in the open coffin and began to sob. My mother approached me and snarled "Stop that!" I was astonished by her action but refrained from discussing it with her.

I was seated next to my aunt at the funeral. This is her Christian belief:
we all have to die...death is a part of life. nothing you can do at this point ..he is dead..gone..as he lived a clean and decent life and he will make it on the day of Resurrection
Yet she and many others understand that there is a time for grieving and comfort those who grieve, as she did in my case when I cried once more.

I don't know if this will happen to you TK, but it might. While grieving over my late father, and wanting to see him again, he did come to me again in a dream eventually. I don't remember what he told me then( ~ 9 years ago) but I feel that the dream showed me that he is happy in the afterlife. I learned from a grief counselor that having dreams about lost loved ones is possible and a normal part of the grieving process.

This is for you and dolf too:

TURN TURN TURN - The Byrds Video - Grouper
 

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Hey T/K. I was talking with one of the nurses at the hospice where dad passed and she was very impressed with a speaker she had heard. I went to his site and he has quite a few resources to help with grief and loss. Hopefully you can find something to help a little.
Free articles about helping someone in grief
There is on article specifically geared towards helping suicide survivors. Though it was you who experienced the loss there is lots in the article that may help you to recognize what you are feeling and help yourself.

The author who has spent his whole life looking at grief and death wrote the words “Grief following a suicide is always complex. Survivors don't "get over it." Instead, with support and understanding, they can come to reconcile themselves to its reality.”

So when you have a jackass (and he has proven himself to be such) tell you to “just get over it” and you have an expert on the subject tell you that you won't “just get over it” I would go with looking at what the realistic one has to say on the subject.

Link to his suicide specific page here.
Free articles about helping someone in grief
I know that you are hurting as well, but you may be able to help his wife (the doctor tells the truth when he says “Often ignored in their grief are the parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles, spouses and children of persons who have suicided. Why? Because of the nature of the death, it is sometimes kept a secret. If the death cannot be talked about openly, the wounds of grief will go unhealed. As a caring friend, you may be the only one willing to be with the survivors.” It may be that she has nobody else to talk with (though I am not suggesting that you need to be the one to talk with her if you are unable to- you lost somebody as well.)