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Hey! So, I've been living with the same friend for 4 years and we've never had any problems with each other. Our friendship is amazing, we respect each other's spaces and really connect as friends. We're always laughing and playing games.

However, something very different happened like two weeks ago. I'm gay and he's bisexual and we've always been very open about who we were fucking with, just so we knew when we should leave and give some privacy whenever we brought a plus one home. But since we're all quarantined, we haven't really seen other people in quite a long time and well... It happened. I can't really explain how it started but we had some wild sex. I won't get into detail since that's not the point of the thread.

The thing is that ever since it happened we've been lowkey acting like a couple. We haven't fucked again but now we're constantly hugging each other, being playful while cooking (in a very romantic way, trust me) and giving each other compliments. I didn't realize it was happenning until we were making out in bed before going to sleep.

The thing is he's really cute and he's such a nice guy but I don't know if I'm attracted to him in that way and I'm afraid that he might be. That would ruin our perfect roomate relationship. What should I do?
 

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As hard as it may seem, it is best in my eyes to state your intentions early on, in the nicest way possible. You could even sandwich it in a nice way like “the other night was amazing, though I’m not sure I’m ready for anything serious, and I just don’t want to ruin how we are right now, but I’m always down for more fun.”... sounds like something out of a cringy fanfic but hard truths always come out better when sandwiched between two better statements.
 
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As hard as it may seem, it is best in my eyes to state your intentions early on, in the nicest way possible. You could even sandwich it in a nice way like “the other night was amazing, though I’m not sure I’m ready for anything serious, and I just don’t want to ruin how we are right now, but I’m always down for more fun.”... sounds like something out of a cringy fanfic but hard truths always come out better when sandwiched between two better statements.
That's actually a good way to bring up the topic since I wouldn't mind if we had some fun again. I really wanna clear things up soon.
It sounds like you are already attracted to him in that way. If you guys like being together AND like the sex then it's win-win in my book. Even in straight relationships it's hard to find that combination
The reason why I said that I don't know if I'm attracted to him in that way is that I got really scared when I realized we were acting like a couple so I don't know if I'd be comfortable with acting like that with him all the time, do you know what I mean?
Read your opening post of this thread to him and then talk......
Wdym?
 

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Hey! So, I've been living with the same friend for 4 years and we've never had any problems with each other. Our friendship is amazing, we respect each other's spaces and really connect as friends. We're always laughing and playing games.

However, something very different happened like two weeks ago. I'm gay and he's bisexual and we've always been very open about who we were fucking with, just so we knew when we should leave and give some privacy whenever we brought a plus one home. But since we're all quarantined, we haven't really seen other people in quite a long time and well... It happened. I can't really explain how it started but we had some wild sex. I won't get into detail since that's not the point of the thread.

The thing is that ever since it happened we've been lowkey acting like a couple. We haven't fucked again but now we're constantly hugging each other, being playful while cooking (in a very romantic way, trust me) and giving each other compliments. I didn't realize it was happenning until we were making out in bed before going to sleep.

The thing is he's really cute and he's such a nice guy but I don't know if I'm attracted to him in that way and I'm afraid that he might be. That would ruin our perfect roomate relationship. What should I do?
You have been living 4 years, enough to get to know each other, you discovered he is nice, you had sex , you are been acting like a couple.
Its normal to hesitate, since everything came to you suddenly, keep enjoying what you have, while it last
 
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quick update: we have talked and decided to just let things flow naturally. Who knows, maybe we'll fall in love but we could also just stay friends.
Good luck to both of you. Sounds like you are off to a great start. You've known each other for a good amount of time. You get along together. You've had sex and it was pretty good. Most couples never get all of that before they jump into a relationship.
 
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I'm here to thank everyone who's given me some advice! We're now officially dating and life's been pretty amazing these days. Our connection is great and he's the greatest sex partner you could imagine.
 

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I'm here to thank everyone who's given me some advice! We're now officially dating and life's been pretty amazing these days. Our connection is great and he's the greatest sex partner you could imagine.
awwww. im so happy for both of u
 
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I'm here to thank everyone who's given me some advice! We're now officially dating and life's been pretty amazing these days. Our connection is great and he's the greatest sex partner you could imagine.

Congratulations! Just remember - all relationships require open honest and frequent communication.
 
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I’m confused. The way I read this in my head.... you seem extremely attracted to him. I don’t flirt, play, compliment, and make out with random people I’m not attracted to...... You both sound lucky as hell to be honest.

my advice. Tell him everything you’re feeling. Explain you feelings and fears. Better to do it now than when feelings get much stronger.
 

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If you've lived together happily for 4 years, you've actually got past the most uncertain part already.

Considering COVID-19 is going to be around for at least another 12 months without a vaccine, you'd both be safer than bringing others home all the time.