suaige: OK I'm going to be a bit open here cause no body knows me anyway and if you've read enough of my responses you'll have pieces of this anyway. Let me start by saying I found this site yesterday and was on it for 12 hours. It was so nice to be able to finally find people saying they felt the same way. I have been horny for as long as I can remember, but my first orgasm was when my older brother beat me off. Oh orgasm was a whole new world. This went on for about 2 years and lead to being molested by another relative. Four years of sexual contact with men gave me a lot of sexual & homosexual issues. After 5 years of counseling I'm doing quite well on all accounts now but this has lead to a whole new situation which makes this site great. Why do I mention this - becuase I can say the guy who molested me would definatley not use this site. He's about 3" hard -- Man- I can't even pull that off pool shrinkage. After all his attention I really had a size crisis complex. I spent years obsessing over size and trying to compare, looking up charts . Oddly enough it was recently that I found it is limp where I reallly shine and I never really thought of that kind of ironic. I thought this began to explain things Like 1) Breifs really arent that great - started falling out of them and down my leg ( I'm really skinny) in te 8th grade and that sweaty balls stuck to my leg are really annoying, It was really hard to fix this at the urinal. 2) Having to adjust a lot is actually pretty common :wacko: when things grow and shrink 4 inches. 3) That whole bulge thing, and its accompanying annoyance 4) Bathing suits just show too much if you are wanting to be modest. and confirmed that others felt the same way. 5) having that banana in your pocket get so long it pushes the pocket inside out in the 8th grade is really embarrasing & hard to hide especially with the vigor of youth. 6) Others people really do use or at least try using jocks for supportive underwear. Man did I feel weird when I started looking for these. 7) Theres frustration with size and sex. Not getting in all the way, pain, not being able to bang away like I oh so enjoy, etc. 8) Questions over whether I can ever be deep throated. 9) That other guys even bigger than me still look at others mens' size -_- . 10) Hiding a public woody is annoying and makes ones self conscious. 11) That having a foot long cock isn't necessarily all its joked up to be. ( 8 inch either) 12) Being hung seems to be taboo subject. once you accept it you can't really comment about it. Its too conceited, pretentious or in my case guys start making offers. <_< 13) And although now I truly understand having a big dick doesn't make me any better or worse, and I can choose how to deal with them it still does come with its own set of challenges that affect my life. Why such a relief? B) B) Well I am from a pretty conservative (though I can't say always moral) family. Once I overcame my fears and issues I was finally able to talk about things. I am divorced am living up to my beliefs in no extra-marital sex. But living with all virgins ( witch I support since none have been married) They can not really relate to what I have to say. And most that I have ventured the subject with are smaller and so don't relate to what I'm saying. My big concern, when I get married again, I will have the same sexual problems as in my last marriage. :mellow: Can't get in all the way, pain etc. Since I will not have sex till my wedding night. That remains to be seen. But, even if so it is nice to know there are others out there with the same concerns some how seems to help. Also Max's comments are great. Married 26 years and faithful to his wife, even though he's had challenges. More power to you man. you give me hope. For some time now I have been feeling there must be others out there. Glad to find this group. Its such a relief. And truly come as a support.