Okay, so my hubby and I have been much more open about our sex life this past year. We have been together for a very longtime, are truly in love with each other, and have a great sex life. Our marriage is "Until Death Do us Part." Last Christmas we purchased our first toys and that has gone well.:smile::smile: Anyhoo, when we went to the toy store and I mentioned videos, he told me he only likes girls solo. He does not dig lap dances at strip clubs. He told me the other day "it would be much better to hire a a girl to do this in private than to have a chick grind on me in a club surrounded by other horny men while I have a hard on I can do nothing about." I found this really interesting not only because many men here seem to like both lap dances and porn in general, but because I only watch men solo, so we are sort of the same in this regard. He likes to watch me with the toys, so I know for sure this makes him feel very warm, fuzzy and happy. One of the experiences I would like to offer him is with a girl (not me) who will...."show and tell." I want our life to be full and to explore some things that may be considered taboo for most married couples. I don't think climaxing while looking at, or watching, another girl is a form of betrayal. To me, it's just a solo, fantasy climax and not anything like intercourse sex or a relationship with someone else. I am not jealous about this and really feel like it would be a very special GIFT! If I discussed this with him, he might say he didn't want it because he might think it's one of those "How do I best answer this question safely" uh-oh's I sometimes pull from out of the blue on him - not in a good way either. If your wife hired someone for you, would you freak, be weird, or enjoy it as the special experience intended? Aftershock potential? How do I find someone? It cannot be someone we know. Would I get to see what she looked like first - sort of pick her out for him? Where should they do this? Not sure I want it in the house, but maybe that would be the most comfortable for him? How much would it cost? Is there a time limit when hiring a girl? Do you think it could turn out badly? Am I insane to do this? He does not have to talk to me about it. I simply want to give him something I think he might really like that he would never have an opportunity to experience just because we are married. And this is totally safe - no disease or guilty feelings about having sex with someone else. And, no. Before everyone reads too much into this, I do not expect him to reciprocate. It's not about that. Honest thoughts please. Thank you!