""A strange place to be... --or, is it?""

Discussion in 'New Member Introductions' started by benderten2001, Jan 13, 2003.

  1. benderten2001

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    'Didn't know exactly where this topic should really go--
    "meet and greet" or..."etc, etc"...

    I am so grateful for this forum and have learned so much over the two plus years that I first "lurked"; then finally got the courage to "join in" with posts.

    As a Christian man, I often wondered: "Isn't this a strange place to be on the internet!" (Kinda wrestled over some of the topics and issues which surface--yes, many of them of "moral" issues and the like.)

    For the benefit of perhaps other members who have similar spiritual faith and beliefs (or, for those of differing faith or no faith) I thought I would offer these thoughts and how I have come to resolve these "suspicions" of whether I belong here or not.

    I feel (as a Christian) that God wants us (as men) to enjoy our lives. That would include a knowledge of our bodies and an understanding of how to live with them, stay healthy, and learn to live in harmony with one another. (Virually every topic that comes up here in the forum can apply to that rationale when you think about it.) I believe this group meets many, many needs of men (and women), and today's information highway technology is a true blessing. As members, we sometimes do delve into (or, are led into) some "gray" areas of topics--often graphic; often near (if not) "pornographic" in nature I suppose. Then, each of us must rely on conscience and good judgment based upon how we feel as individuals. --Each of us makes that choice. I do not view the LPSG as questionable or, "naughty" in nature. Instead, I think it ranks very highly as a wonderful men's health forum.

    Concerning the many "hot" topics that can ensue in our on-line exchanges---we have our share of views on lifestyles, various sexual practices, etc. whereby some Christians (myself included) might begin to feel uncomfortable at times. --Well, we can always skip or exit from those posts anytime. I would like to think though, that as a Christian man, I have learned to be much less judgmental...to follow Christ's example to be compassionate and demonstrate love for one another.
    I think an awful lot of our members do that with the excellent information exchanged, all in the genuine interest of helping others and informing others about the unusual (and so often unknown) issues of being "large- size" in our male genitalia.

    For those who might want to pose questions to Christians about God's love when there are men who are less-endowed (is that fair from a loving God?) or some other well-meaning, quite serious issues (circumcision)-where Christian practices (and God) are questioned-- I believe God would merely say nonetheless-- "bring your concerns to me, I will demonstrate (over time) that I still ultimately love you."

    I don't push my faith on anyone and didn't want this entry to be in any way a vehicle to do that. My main purpose in bringing this up at all is that there might be some other Christian men and women among our ranks who may sometimes feel uncertain whether they should be here. I am at peace with myself and my conscience because, in Christ's example, most of us here seem intent on learning and helping each other. There really is nowhere else like this site to go for answers, advice and the other insights into the world of being "large"

    And, I find it so hard to believe God ever intended the subject of sex to be so taboo and tormenting to our minds. Sex is a beautiful part of life and it's so obvious that our bodies were designed with a purpose for both procreation and pleasure. Some of the most commonly misunderstood ideas about sex and the various "taboos" down through the ages have originated from well meaning earlier Chrisitians who (unfortunately) fell short of the mark of conveying love for others and withholding judgment (when indeed, they should have!) Christ loves everyone for the individual he or she is on the inside heart. He taught us not to judge others. And, during his stay on earth, he moved about in the real world---he did not avoid life and the issues of His time.

    We have a good thing going here on the lpsg. I appreciate all I have received both in knowledge and through our various on-line friendships. ;)
     
  2. Imported

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    hung: Ve :)ry well stated. I appreciate your comments and enjoyed reading the entire submission. You really covered a difficult subject and I know I feel much better after reading your submission. Yes, we are well endowed and can be thankful for same and I also agree that we should also be comfortable in our discussions with others about ourselves and also be willing to hear each other out. Thanks.
     
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    I once read a long-forgotten, and probably little read, satire in which the Lord had given Adam and his posterity skins to cover their nakedness so he would not be able to tell whether his sons were better endowed than himself.

    I agree, benderten2001:  there is no commandment that says, Thou shalt not discuss thy endowment with thy fellow man.

    Pecker
     
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    Kudos to Benderten for his openness, his faith and humanity.

    I think my take on all these lpsg issues as a Christian, quite apart from the first principles of love and faithfulness, is an attempt to get a sense of proportion. Even as a teenager and young man who went through big anxieties about his size, I think, or rather hope, that I somehow managed to see that there were far more important things to be concerned about.
     
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    Finedessert: We are all visitors on plant earth, for how long is anyones guess. We are not here to judge how other live there lifes, or what road in life they take. Our Sexual appetites may differ, but whatever they may be we must respect each other as fellow human beings.

    Grandpa
     
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    For the record, I am a practicing Catholic. Mass every Sunday and holy day of obligation, receiving the Sacraments, Rosary every day; I am a devout Catholic. I believe that God is a God of love and compassion, our Father, not a God of wrath ready to fling fire and brimstone at His followers. We are humans, and He knows this. We are expected to explore our humanity, and this includes our similarities and differences and what they mean to us. Of course, that means more than 'penis issues', but that's what this board is for ... other venues of discoveries of ourselves are to be encouraged. What we discuss here is not wrong unless it violates our sense of what is right and wrong, or if it advocates practices that are clearly illegal. (The most obvious example is pedophilia.) Men, we have penes; ignoring them doesn't make us better Christians. Why shouldn't we acknowledge what God gave us?
     
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    drrionelli: Indeed, benderten, I applaud you, too!

    Next time, though, please don't wait so long to share your wisdom (not to mention your exquisite way of expressing it)!
     
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    Donk: Bender, as a fellow Christian, I appreciate and agree with your post. Thank you for posting it. (As some of my posts reveal, in addition to being a Christian, I am also a sinner. But then so are we all, which is why we are in need of grace.)

    P.S. The Bible makes at least one express reference to guys like us. Check out Ezekiel 23:20. (Of the versions I have seen, the Revised Standard Version makes the reference the most clear.)
     
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    bklynbigballs: I have what I guess I'd call "Christian tendencies." I don't go to church but I pray a great deal and read Christian writers like CS Lewis. There are some scary "Bible bangers" in my family who turned me off to organized religion when I was younger but miraculously I found a way to let God into my life without feeling uncomfortable about my sexuality and that sort of thing.

    I am a sinner. Aren't we all? However, the sins that give me the most trouble involve my temper -- I can be quite short with people -- and my capacity for love -- both platonic, familial and otherwise. I just don't see my sexuality as a problem in my relationship with God. Sure, if I'm too focused on getting laid to pay attention to my friends and family, that's bad, but my sexuality itself is not the problem. At least that's what I believe.

    For me, this message board is not a contradiction with my spiritual life. Let's face it, men obsess on their cocks. Some of us don't want to, but we do. What's great about this board is that when I post what's in my head, it gets out of my head. And when I read other people posting what's in their heads, I realize that I'm not alone and I'm not a freak. It makes me feel like I'm part of the human race. That can only be a good thing.
     
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