I'm experiencing something bizarre. As I get older, I become more bullish in bed. I was wondering if other people have undergone the same change. I've read that as they get older, men become more cozy and gentle in bed. In my case, it's the other way around. When I was a teen and a twenty-something (in the 1990s) I used to spend a lot of time and effort in doing sex the "correct" way - that is: thinking of her pleasure first, caressing, massaging, eating pussy, being kind and gentle, etc... Perhaps this was influenced by what you could read in magazines and see on TV in that time: the era of the metro-sexual man, the kind, soft, emotionally intelligent "new" man. Now, 10, 15 years later, I'm in my mid-30s, I am seriously cutting all that crap. Not because I don't want to please the girl first or don't wanna be kind, but because I think being a bull is more efficient. When I fuck a woman now, I can get in a state of trance, when I just can't stop and when I don't think of what *she* thinks. It's almost bestial and machinic, but that's how it is. I am not kind, not reflective or pensive, I'm just in a fuck mood, and keep pumping and pumping. None of the ladies I've been with has complained about this. None of them have asked me to be more kind or bonding or emotionally responsive. On the contrary, it seems as if all of them prefer the good straight power-fuck. Maybe it's just because the women I date are older, and they too have learned to cut the crap.