Guys -
Gay men are lucky. Those all sound like really good, valid excuses. You can't beat a committed relationship or being straight. Even prefering small Asian guys is a dead end street if you're not small and/or Asian.
Try going to a str8 bar and hitting on chicks...
"No thanks. I'm just here with some friends". Two minutes later she's giggling with some other guy. I can't respond to this one because the guy could be one of her friends.
"I'm here with my boy friend". Two minutes later she's giglling with her girl friends. From what I've learned, talking to my straight guy friends and girl friends, when a gaggle of girls go out together they mainly just want to go out and dance and have a good time. Not seek a sexual encounter. It's the girls that are by themselves or in groups of 2 that seem to want to play more than girls in groups of 3 or more who just want to go out and have a good time dancing and socializing.
"I already have a drink" is her response to "Hi." "I know, it looked lonely and I wanted to say hi."
"What do you do for a living?" is her response to "Hi."
"I inherited a shit load of money last year so I'm permantly retired." The walk away and ignore her for the rest of the night.
"Want to by me a drink?" is her reposne to "Hi."
"Want to show me your tits?"
"Who is your friend?" is her response to "Hi."
"A friend from out of town who is leaving in the morning. Want to have a 3 way?"
"You're kidding, right" is her response to "Hi."
"Actually, yes. You're really not my type but I'm trying to build up the courage to ask your incredbily hot friend out." OR "Yes, that was a pity hi." Then walk away.
There is a distinct power disparity between the sexes. Two girls or two guys are already on the same plaing field. Just once, I'd like to have the upper hand. Maybe I shuld hang out at bar next to the theater showing Sex in they City.
Ok, yeah, I've been shot down more than a few times.