a thread for those shot down

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn, Jun 10, 2008.

  1. D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn

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    i don't think i've seen one but let's make a thread for those who can't have what they want. I'll start! well i was shot down this past weekend. Well not really. I've been flirting with this bartender and i believe he likes me. and no it's not like i don't know that bartenders are friendly because it's their job. This guy showed me other obvious signs. but he did mention he has a boyfriend and said it as a matter of fact in some random conversation with me. That's all I needed to hear. But before i left, i went up to him and told him that it's too bad he has a boyfriend and he was all like awwww. and i think he was about to suggest for us to still fool around and i stopped him dead in his tracks before he had the chance. I don't think he liked that lol
     
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    I am notorious for this. My problem usually is: A) The guy is straight, B) They are already involved with another dude, C) They like small asian or twinkie types.
     
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    Guys -

    Gay men are lucky. Those all sound like really good, valid excuses. You can't beat a committed relationship or being straight. Even prefering small Asian guys is a dead end street if you're not small and/or Asian.

    Try going to a str8 bar and hitting on chicks...

    "No thanks. I'm just here with some friends". Two minutes later she's giggling with some other guy.

    "I'm here with my boy friend". Two minutes later she's giglling with her girl friends.

    "I already have a drink" is her response to "Hi."

    "What do you do for a living?" is her response to "Hi."

    "Want to by me a drink?" is her reposne to "Hi."

    "Who is your friend?" is her response to "Hi."

    "You're kidding, right" is her response to "Hi."

    There is a distinct power disparity between the sexes. Two girls or two guys are already on the same plaing field. Just once, I'd like to have the upper hand. Maybe I shuld hang out at bar next to the theater showing Sex in they City.

    Ok, yeah, I've been shot down more than a few times.
     
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    I refuse to believe that...

    Okay, I think this officially constitutes cyberstalking eastbay... :)
     
  5. D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn

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    i'm with u! eastbay dude is HOT! I'd fuck him in a second.
     
  6. morsecode

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    I've been shot down so many times I wish they would just pull a knife, (i.e. I don't even try anymore)
     
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    bummer!!!
     
  9. exwhyzee

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    its never any fun... so I hear.
     
  10. D_Fiona_Farvel

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    For me it isn't really a case of being shot down.
    I just can't believe the one person I really, really like, puts his mother above everything.

    He says it is a Greek thing, a tradition. I realize he is the youngest in his family and the only male child still near her, but still. He sees the problem and won't fix it. So, I tried. :frown1: We can't be together, and I am now being open to other men.

    Is it that bad?
    This makes me never want to turn anyone down again.
    Does it matter if it is done in a nice/friendly manner or just any rejection hurts? :confused:
     
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    Well, I've been laughed at, "pppfffft" at, "rolled-eyes" at, "go away" at. I guess I'll be thrilled with a simple no.
     
  12. Sklar

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    Here you go Eastbaydude - -


    Hope that helped!

    Sklar
     
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    Never Ever get involved with a Bartender.They are T-R-O-U-B-L-E!!!
     
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    Yeah, but some can be trouble in a good way. :biggrin1:
     
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    Laughing and just saying 'go away' are unacceptable unless you are meeting a woman at the end of her rope, which is possible depending upon setting (bar or club). But if you are approaching them in a respectful manner and not when guys are circling like sharks - the responses are hurtful. Ignore these cunty bitches, somewhere there is a woman who would love for you to say hi. Hope you give online a try too. Good luck! :hug:
     
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    Sklar... you sound like you're a tom lykus listner. I am.

    Chasing people you're interested in is a gamble. sometimes you're shot down, sometimes ya end up having great hot sex(maybe even more than once), and sometimes ya end up with a great new friend.
    Just try not to let the rotten apples on the ground keep ya from reaching out for the juicy ones on the tree.
     
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    Being shot down makes you grow thicker skin, and for those cocky, arrogant guys, it sorta humbles them. Its good to see sometime that not every person on earth is lusting after you. Sure it hurts your ego sometime, but life in general is unpredicktable, and YOU CANT ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT.....
     
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    Sklar, thanks.

    "Actually, yes. You're really not my type but I'm trying to build up the courage to ask your incredbily hot friend out." OR "Yes, that was a pity hi."

    I think I may use that line. In fact, all your lines were prtty good. Hey, you up for joining me one night and feeding me lines. Maybe we can pull a Cyrano e Bergerac thing.
     
  19. D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn

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    i'm curious! Why is that??! Please explain.
     
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    I've been shot down a number of times, but it's the worst because I'm usually not one to be the aggressor. The times that I have, I was uncerimoniously knocked off of my high horse.

    It hasn't really deterred me from going after what I want, but like I said before, I'm not the one who goes up to people.
     
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