Exactly. It's amazing how poor at math the general public is if the majority thinks these numbers make sense. In hetero relationships, the average number of partners per woman must equal the average number of partners per man.
Take a simplified case where you have 10 women and 10 men. One man has slept with all ten women and no other man has slept with any woman, therefore each woman has slept with one man.
So average number of partners for a man is:
(10 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0)/10 = 1
Average partners for a woman is:
(1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1)/10 = 1
It doesn't matter what the overall distribution is for each average, they must always be equal.
I think the people saying that this is just a difference in how men define sex are right. Women are quick to say that a certain person didn't count, while a lot of men will count that time they pushed up against a girl on a crowded subway. There's also that when surveyed by an actual person (even if they're not recording the name, just having a human voice do it) women are more likely to lower their number and men to raise it. When tests do a secret ballot or are hooked up to a lie-detector (which don't work btw, but have the psychological effect of convincing someone they shouldn't lie), the numbers move closer together and it's usually about 6.
Also, keep in mind that whenever you measure a 'lifetime' stat, you can only get it for people whose lifetimes are over. If most people are 77 when they die, then you're learning how many partners people born in the 30s had. If you're just surveying people at 30 and assuming most are married, then your number must always be low (because those surveyed can always have more partners, but their number definitely can't go down.)
This seems valid but how would it skew the statistics if you included the fact that some of some peoples sexual partners wont be included in the study? due to them being slept with while on holiday in another country or something and so unlikely to be caught in the survey.
so from your example it would be 1 guy sleeps with 10 women but of the ten women in the study he has only slept with eight of them. while the remaing 2 women havent slept with anyone.
So average number of partners for a man is:
(10 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0 + 0)/10 = 1
Average partners for a woman is:
(1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 0 + 0)/10 = 0.8
so you could get different numbers for each sex.
Although this is still massively oversimplified.
Also does anyone know if the survey included homosexual couples or just heterosexual ones?
The average man would need to sleep with a ridiculously higher proportion of foreign women on vacation than women do to make one 8 and the other 3.
Most men don't regularly sleep with prostitutes. Including them in the survey wouldn't skew the data by much.No, because the average man sleeps with far more prostitutes than the average women. They called 1501 people and ended up w/ a women's average of 6 partners. If about 1/2 were women, the total of all the women sounds like what a prostitute can easily do herself.
Most men don't regularly sleep with prostitutes. Including them in the survey wouldn't skew the data by much.
I've seen comments like that in several professional, scientifically controlled studies. Teens in general - both guys and girls - tend to claim more sexual experience than they actually have. That's one reason you hear teen complaints such as, "Well, I'm 18 years old and I'm the ONLY virgin left in the school . . . ". In fact, that's not at all true, and a significant number of the non-virgins only did it on a dare, or because they thought it would make them more acceptable to say they have "done it".. . . It seemed obvious to me then that a lot of the guys probably inflated their number . . .
Most men don't regularly sleep with prostitutes. Including them in the survey wouldn't skew the data by much.
First, the numbers are for the median, not the average. Second, overall 15% of men had paid, and 30% if over thirty, so that can skew the numbers. When you add in that 4 men reported 200, 3 300 and one 400 that really adds up. Personally, I would have thrown out the 300+ and 400 as not being reliable. Just those 8 men would have added over two to each man, assuming an equal number of men and women.Yep. Also, go back to the numbers: 3 vs 8. You realise that if we assume the average woman sleeps with almost no prostitutes, the average man would have to sleep with 5 prostitutes for every 3 non-pros he's with?
If not every man regularly sleeps with prostitutes (I certainly don't, and from the responses even most of the sex-driven guys on this board don't), that goes up to an insane amount. If we count 9 guys all sleeping with 3 girls each, the 10th would have to sleep with 50 different pros to get that number. If that's true, maybe the prostitutes need to offer a loyalty rewards program.
Please, don't reply to this saying "I know a guy who slept with a lot of pros therefore you're wrong." That's not how stat's work. You can't just throw anecdotes in wherever you want because it affirms what you already think is true. By and large, looking at the whole population (not just the people you're exposed to, but everyone) there's no way guys are sleeping with 5 prostitutes per every 3 non-prostitutes they're with. The numbers just don't support it.
Take a read on that lie-detector link I posted. The numbers come together to almost match exactly when the surveyed people think they'd be caught in a lie.
That's a generalization. Do you have any data to back it up?define having sex.
Men's definition; anything where skin was involved
Women's definition; Only the times where they felt true passion, all the times she performed oral sex don't count.
I know some women. Who more or less have slept with 30+. So I call bullshit.
The averages would only have to equal if it was a 50/50 split population wise...but there's 51% women...which may not seem like much...but with 7 billion people in the world...that means Earth has 140 million more women on it
And on college campuses across the country (world?)...that jumps to 53% women..which is significant because that's probably where a good chunk of the new sexual partners come from..
So..in a case like that...8 and 3 as medians isn't that much of a stretch...And I definitely buy 3 as a median for women...