About Barebacking

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This article is out today. I know there has been a lot of discussion of barebacking recently here. Everyone should keep in mind that whether or not to bareback is not an ideological question; it is a practical one. More barebacking is occurring; more STDs are being spread among gay men. I think that gay pride & sexual freedom come with the need for responsibility, both for individuals and the gay community at large. Whatever else barebacking might be, it is not responsible behavior. If a corporation were infecting gay men with diseases at the rate we are infecting ourselves, we would all be in an uproar and it would lead the news every night. I sort of feel like the AIDS epidemic of the 80's & early 90's, when gay men were dropping like flies, has come to be our World War I. It may take a wave of drug-resistant viruses killing off another generation to learn the permanent lessons of respecting ourselves enough to protect ourselves. That would be World War II. I would love to be deemed way over-worried twenty years from now, without losing lots of our friends and family to preventable sexual infection (HIV, yes, but all those other STDs, too). Statistics, though, show that we are on that path. Gonorrhea, Syphilis Regain Traction in U.S., CDC Reports - Bloomberg
 

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Well said Mikey. I know it's a controversial subject and there are lots of detractors of condoms etc but for those of us who remember gay newspapers full of memorials, hospices full of young men dying, and the number of volunteers required to feed and care for our community in their won homes, it's something we never want to go back to.

It's easy to forget in a moment of passion our responsibility to ourselves and our partner -even more likely we'll forget we have a wider responsibility in our actions which is part of what makes a civilised society.

I admit to enjoying bareback porn - but it is that - porn and fantasy. I bareback with my partner of 9 years after we were both tested and agreed to monoogamy.

I know there will be lots of people who disagree and feel this view is too conservative but I'd encourage people to think about how these forums are designed to encourage debate and discussion and can only help us all learn.

Thanks for starting an interesting thread.
 

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Thanks, Sean. I intend to keep my posts in this thread pretty civil. I just wish people would be thoughtful about their decisions. If you make an informed choice to be in a relationship and to undergo testing, you are at least being somewhat proactive. I think bareback sex is occurring in alarming amounts in one night stands or at sex parties. Only one person you ever sleep with needs to be infected to infect you. I truly didn't start this thread to excoriate people for their sex lives or to tell them how to act. I just think there are a lot of guys- especially younger guys- who are using their penises without using their head first.
 

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I have read it in this site.
Comment: all over Africa now condoms are in public display and given free. Hospital rest rooms, etc., etc..
When I use a condom I put KY jell on my cock and on my woman. When well lubricated, I can hardly feel it there. Make a game of it,,, its one more joy.
 

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It needs to be done no matter your orientation. I barebacked with a guy I thought was monagmous to me and he was not. Very scary idea
 

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As I have stated previously in numerous postings there are so many STD's to choose from that can bring disaster and permanent problems that I cannot understand those individuals who not only take chances with themselves but with their potential and actual sex partners as well.

Very recently I received a telephone call from a friend now in the equivalent of a convalescent home in Ohio. He has been diagnosed with orbital lymphoma cancer. This is cancer in the orbit or socket where your eyeball is located. This man had been in what he thought was a monogamous relationship and it appears that his partner in life did not agree. He was also just diagnosed as HIV sero-positive. The cancer in this form combined with the diminished immune capacity will very likely take his life. This man has not yet reached his 60th Birthday. Treatment has already taken his eyesight permanently in one eye and may take it in the other eye before he leaves this world.

HPV is another one that few think about, but, HPV is a carcinogen and can cause cancer in various body locations. It can be in both males and in females. No symptoms until the cancer hits.

People need to wake up, but there are individuals out there who want to "party hearty" and as a result of that thinking there are a list of diseases that keep going on indefinitely.

I am in a monogamous relationship and even with the ages of myself and my partner we still for the most part do not do acts which are really unsafe at this point in time.

Safe does not have to be boring or unsatisfying.
 

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barebacking has always been a fantasy of mines... always jackoff to porn about it, whore it out on adam4adam thru chats. it gets me going everytime. but i don't have the actual balls to actually do it.
 

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A good friend and fuck buddy got a call that a girl he used to fuck a few years ago that found out she was HIV+, and he called me nearly crying. He got tested and was negative. After that close call i got tested for everything and it was an amazing feeling to know i was 100% clean. Everyone is better off to play safe than sorry.
 

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My roommate had a "funny" one the other day. A younger dude (20's) was hitting on him. He had some profile on some gay hook up site, and this younger dude contacted him and was hitting on him. Eventually my roommate said to me: Maybe I should try and shut him down.

The younger man was HIV Negative. . and My roommate is Positive.

The Younger man kept hitting on my roommate saying how he wanted to play, and how he wanted to bareback. . and my roommate responded with, (I am HIV POZ). The younger man responded with, Positive of what?.

I am not sure if this younger dude was either uneducated, didn't understand english well. . or what the deal is.

I can say this. . There are some in the Gay community who practice responsible behaviors sexually, and then there are those who do not. I try to tell people that the only person you can fully trust sexually, is yourself. You can be honest to partners about what you have. I do not expect honesty from other people. I can take precautions to try and protect myself. . however, I know that not every man is honest.

Some men cheat on their lovers (as do some women).

Lastly, I want to leave you all with a thought. As was mentioned before in this thread. There are more things out there now, than just HIV. . there is Hep-c, and a form of drug-resistant Gonorreah, and resistant Syphalis. I suggest that if you are (active), to get tested often. Don't wait six months after having sex. Its better to know what you have and seek treatment before things become a problem.

Speaking (statistics). . In my area: (pacific northwest), the population demographic who are getting STD's an HIV, in growing numbers are Heterosexual Men. This is mainly due to men (cheating), and also men who are having gloryhole sex in video-arcades, and unprotected sex in bathouses and sex clubs.

As a gay man who is interested mens sexual health. . I find it fascinating that Straight men are the largest growing demographic for getting STD's and HIV.

In conclusion, . . GET TESTED IF ACTIVE AND DO IT OFTEN.

It is better to know.

Misterslave.
 

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After being in a committed relationship for over 1.5 years, I was absolutely floored to find out my partner had been having sex with his ex (his first) during that time. I could never even imagine that possibility. After finding out about this I got in contact with his ex directly (who didn't know I existed), and found out that we both had the same ongoing symptoms of a mild STI.

I don't think I could trust anyone in the future if I were to begin a new relationship until much, much further along. It used to seem crazy to me to think you would need a condom after 6 months of 'exclusive' dating, but I could easily have HIV right now and that is a scary thought.
 

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I always use a condom when I have sex unless I am in a monagamous relationship. I even jack off in them, just because I think they are kinda erotic looking on a cock.