About emotional cheating?

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  1. korinaus

    korinaus New Member

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    Hey, ladies here. I have a question.

    Have you experienced 'just' emotional cheating without any physical involvement? i.e., thinking of another person when you are with boyfriend or husband. What was it like? And what is it different from 'just' sexual cheating?

    Thanks in advance!
     
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    I don't think that's cheating ! Let's say it's just a sexual motivation, sometimes, but not always, when you start boring with your partner !
     
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    korinaus - If I may answer. I'm a gay male and I have a best friend in all the world who's a heterosexual female.

    We have a closer bond in many ways (psychologically) than my male partner and I do.

    I've seen within heterosexual opposite sex relationships platonic extramarital relationships which work out wonderfully well. (Takes some of the pressure off straight males to access their emotions)

    I say it's a good thing. No. It's not cheating in my view.
     
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    Not to my knowledge, no I have not. Then again I tend to have pretty strict personal rules and boundaries. So the chances of me allowing myself to get into an emotional cheating situation are slim.

    Thinking about someone else in what way? Like, telling your bf that "I wish Joe were here, because he would understand." That's a problem. :frown1:


     
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    Well thats just it, isn't it? If you have become bored with your partner for whatever reason and form an emotional bond with another man that's dangerous. That's how most physical infidelities start. :yup:


    Of course you may answer, you are a valued member and sensible poster. :smile: I hate to sound bitchy but to my way of thinking that doesn't count. Since you are a gay male and she is a woman; there is no danger of your friendship being anything more than that.
    Maybe I've misunderstood the OP but if there is never a chance that this person with whom you have a strong emotional bond will become a lover than in my mind it's not cheating.
    You mean like the work wife or the work husband? Hmm, I have seen that work w/o any sexual innuendo or physicality; but it is rare.
     
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