I am still stunned, and will be amazed for quite some time. Not only was my mother civil, even gracious, to my lover, but she introduced him all around her extended family as "my son <NCbear's> friend." Wow. This is the same woman who asked me when I came out at 18 when I wanted my AIDS test. This is the same woman who asked me at the time whether I was a pedophile (because everyone knows that all gay people are pedophiles, and that's what she learned in nursing school in the 1950s). This is even the same woman who wouldn't ever talk to my ex and screwed up her face as though she smelled something bad every time I mentioned him. I'm stunned. Has anyone else witnessed a family member's complete about-face, whether relevant to gay relationships or another topic? NCbear (who almost cannot find words to express how encouraged, how comforted, how welcomed, even how loved he felt due to his extended family's kind, even warm, reaction to meeting his lover) P.S. This was two days ago in my hometown.