About size & lack of technique

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  1. Andrew2500

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    Hello everyone,

    I have a question regarding something I seem to read very often, coming from
    women, related to cock size and sexual pleasure. It mostly rings like this:

    "If the guy does not have a large dick, he has to work more in bed to pleasure me, while if he has a large one, the size will make up more for the lack of technique."


    Reading things like these, I tend to take it out of proportion, firstly, thinking
    that they mean something huge, secondly, I get some form of frustration for thinking that it's all about pleasing the women. Ofcourse I realize that is not so at all, and I love women and find them the most beautiful of earth's belongings. Yet it seems so often like it's all in the hands of the guy, if he's hung, he is king, and has not a worry in the world, whilst if he is average or below, he has to work it like a madman.

    My question can therefore be split in 2 categories:

    1. is there actual DEFINITE difference between average sized, and large? Or are you talking about huge sized dicks?

    2. Does the guy end up doing all the work, whilst you spread your legs and have this tremendous expectation?


    And one more actually:

    3. If the guy has a dick of 7.5-8inches in length, with a girth of 5.5-6inches, would you consider it large? Would you be disappointed?

    (don't tell me about averages, because most tend to be far off, the best one i've actually found is this one:
    Average penis size – What is the Average Penis Size )


    Ofcourse while these questions are for women, it is already biased in terms of answers, because it will come from women on a "large penis support forum". That said, I'd like to minimize the "damage" if you will, by asking that the size queens, or those that perceive themselves as wanting extremely huge objects, to not answer this.. I know you don't get the full truth that way, and it's a way of saving my self esteem, but I don't get the full truth either way when I'm posting on this special forum.


    Thank you very much in advance, and I hope I don't offend any of the lovely females on this forum.
     
  2. viking1

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    Andrew2500, if you get a straight answer to this, you have really accomplished something. This has been asked many times here and countless other places to no avail. It is so much just an opinion, and that makes a straight answer very difficult. It is like asking a group of politicians to give a straight yes or no answer, and tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Good luck on this. I too have been dying to know the truth on this matter for many years.
     
  3. Dorset

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    I think we must have been reading different sites, I've only really heard the opposite from the women here. If anything they say that large men often make bad lovers because they THINK a big dick will make sex great on its own so don't put as much effort in
     
  4. viking1

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    Really??? When some say they only take men who are at least 9".
    MOST of the women who answered that survey said that size did matter at least somewhat. Notice! I did NOT say ALL just most. There are plenty of size queens here. ALL other things being equal (which they seldom are) I think most of the women here would take the larger guys. No women want a lousy lover...big or small. That goes back to what you are saying and not size in an of itself which is what the OP asked. Just my opinion...not trying to start a war.
     
  5. Onslow

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    The main thijng size has going for it is the ability to make contact with the point of entry. After that too much size is a hinderance--take my word for it I have dealt with both ends of it. I have been with countless men (although I don't think I have ever been with a Count--except for the guy dresssed as Dracula one Halloween) and some men have been okay with me and some have been unable to deal. With the females there have been 4. The last one was a party animal--it was a mini-orgy--and she was okay with the size as was one of the two women I was married to. The one wife however never did get comfortable with my size--although my emerging queerdom is what actually destroyed the marriage. As far as taking different men, size is not usually an issue for me--I was a born whore apparently which is not near as bad as some people make it sound.

    Some women and men require size for any stimulation otheres rely on action, the actual moves a man makes. SOme of my best sex has been from smaller guys, they know what they have and how to use it. A bigg advantage of the smaller guy is there is closer body contact and less worry about being damaged and an emergency room visit. Bad thing on size of smaller is if the guy is too excited and starts to thrust in and out wildly he will continually slip out.

    Good and bad to both sizes, but if thye owner knows how to use what he has then it's all good.
     
  6. Dorset

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    Lol, I wouldn't want a war either.

    From what I've read I've heard a lot of women say that the first priority is technique and enthusiasm, then, a larger size can be preferable.

    You're first post said that there are women saying that if am man's big then that makes up for lack of technique. I don't think I've ever heard this from anyone other than a few trolls that come on pretending to be women.

    I don't mind being proved wrong though if a few women want to pitch in, it would make my life easier if it were true :wink:
     
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    disappointed by a 7.5-8 x 5.5-6? I think you have absolutely no idea...
    That's about my size and i was turned down for being to big. so excuse me but it's kinda funny to read sth like that
     
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    The difference between dick size, is on a tape measure. Just because you are endowed does not mean that women are falling all over you.
    Big dick does not equal good lover all by itself, it takes a combination of things to make a good lover. Why are men so insecure about this?
    I guess some body told you this? For that I'm sorry. I don't know anyone male or female who would rather have a big dick over someone who cares about what they want and how they want it. Maybe you should just worry about you both pleasing each other and, being good to one another.My
    expectation is that you will treat me in the same way I treat you, penis
    size notwithstanding. I don't care about the size, it's the man I want to know. Forget about the surveys honey,just do your best, that's all I would want. Don't know if this helps!
     
  9. Onslow

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    Meantime as all of this idiocy goes on, ocver in Sex With A Large Penis section there is the topic "Is A Big Dick Ever Too Big?"I will now attempt to give the dirext link, wish me luck-- http://www.lpsg.org/sex-with-a-large-penis/42940-big-dick-ever-too-big.html

    In that one there are those who make clear that too much size can be a problem. Over time I see people who claim all women (and men) can take any size no matter how big--this is simply NOT true. How would a woman handle every inch of the idiot who claimns to have a 28 inch penis? Similarly height and body build of a woman does not fully indicate waht she can handle. A woman over 6 foot tall might experience pain from 7 inchs where a woman of 5 foot talll might be able to handle the 8 incher.
     
  10. Andrew2500

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    Thank you all for your answers.

    Viking, you're always a great help.

    Cigarbabe, thank you very much for your reassurance.

    Snakebyte, I will attempt to show you why I still have insecurity.

    It is mostly a combination of the introduction to porn at a way too early age,
    inexperience with females in real life sex. (porn watching began at 13, having sex at 16). And seeing the Shane diesel's and such rip vaginas apart, and the seeming pleasure in the women... i realize it's all fake and such, but i was just too young.

    Now the site that really messed me up, was this one: Does Penis Size Matter? The End of the Penis Size Debate

    It's a site sponsored by penis enlargement products and an e-book. However I did not find this out until much later. If you visit the site now, it will show advertisement, but it didn't have that when I saw it.

    Of the most obvious bullshit is this: 85 facts of not being large or something: A penis that slips out often during sex is not large....

    Well... how often have I seen Mandingo with his HUGE dong slip out... more than I jerk off in a year... Same with all the shane diesels and such.

    But anyway, they have a size chart there, and me inexperienced at age 13... obviously didn't measure up....

    Again thanks for the help, more comments from females are greatly appreciated.
     
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    this guy hit the nail on the head. the lazy lover thing has been an issue that hasn't been addressed on this site at all.
     
  13. Max

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    There's another side to this, I think, to add to what has already been said: A guy with a very large penis will know that he must work a lot harder and for a lot longer than an average guy in at least one area: foreplay and preparation of his partner.
     
  14. Andrew2500

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    Thank you all for your answers.

    Max, I know about that aswell. Because otherwise it can hurt the woman.

    Mercurial. I meant ofcourse the size difference in terms of a feeling in the vagina. I have seen some pictures of dicks on this forum, and ofcourse just like they vary a lot, there are some incredibly huge ones..


    Thank you for your comments about my size. Would this mean that if we were dating, you'd find my size perfect, in the sense that it would not need to be bigger?
     
  15. Gisella

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    Well, good lovers and great lovers come in many sizes and have their unique traits, appeals going on etc etc.

    But at least to me in my personal experience in my unique body make up and etc...the only large that gave me a fast cum only by penetrating me is a large in girth..but my experience of large is 6"...first times I got him inside: Boom! Cum.

    Another particularity a penis has to give extra sensations is the foreskin and when it deep, long thrusts - I dont cum as fast I do with fat girth but I'm steady in heaven and he can keep thrusting for hours like that because i would love and love.

    Than my, Gisella (lets be clear about is mine alone not regulation) recipe for lack of tecnique that would motion my vagina as cumming just because a not experienced guy I like and we got on the sack is penetrating me with a penis lenght average to large: Girth 6" (above :tongue: ) with foreskin on.

    Than I'm a girth woman not because I worship big cocks but because I'm not stupid to disregard what makes me go so bananas as cumming fast and having extra pleasures. As a preference for penetration woman, oral skills is not on top of my list than techniques to me would involve creativite in others levels, interesting rich brains etc..than if a guy knows how to 'standard thrust' or have an ideia how to work in a vagina in is hot into me and me into him. Great, Grade A+!
     
  16. viking1

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    I knew this would stir some controversy. The old "does size matter" debate always does.

    Here is my take on this. Women don't like lazy, lousy lovers regardless of size. I you are truly in love with someone size won't matter much if at all.
    Within reasonable limits. Very small or Very large may cause problems.
    One night stands is primarily where the size issue will come up. Remeber, the woman who is taking you in a one night stand is treating the guy as a sex object just as much as the guy is her. You are far more likely to run into size issue with one night stands as opposed to longer meaningful relations.
    I think small guys do have to work harder at sex. Average guys not quite so much. Larger guys may have to be careful not to hurt some women.
    The really huge guys have to be careful with most all women. A lot of women do say they enjoy larger than average more, but not all women.

    Size does matter at least to some extent. Size won't matter much in a true loving long term relationship. Size matters a lot to all men. Most all men would like to be bigger than they are even those who are well above the average. This has to do with the male psyche. Only men are able to understand this.

    Andrew2500, if you are about 8x6 you are big...period. You are in the top
    10% of all male sizes. If any woman turns you down for being too small she is just crazy and out to hurt you on purpose. Forget her and find a woman who has some common sense and decency. I wish I were 8x6 and if I was I would think I was John Holmes and Peter North all rolled into one. There is nothing wrong with your size. Get out and enjoy yourself.
    I know, it's easy to tell someone else this, but in your case it's true.
    You should be proud...not insecure of your size.

    Don't pay any attention to that stupid website you mentioned either.
    It's just total bull. Don't pay attention to porn either. NOTHING you see in the movies or on TV shows is real. It's all fantasy. The real world has nothing to with the world of Hollywood entertainment. Good luck, man.
     
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    Size does matter, but no matter what size a man is he has to be a good lover. However, we can work on technique we can't do anything about size. For most women I think average is big enough, but it is nice to have a little extra left over, I'd think that if a guy could fit all his cock in me he'd be left thinking 'mmm she needs a little more than I can give her.' From my point of view if he could stick it all in I'd think 'I wonder if he's feeling small.' Even on sites like this some people will insist that size doesn't matter that much, that's patently untrue, it's the big guys who get the views, just as it's the slim pretty women who get the views.
     
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    Viking - I can only recall one person saying that they wouldn't go below 9. It's an individual position to take and that's fine. Most would not agree with this type of hard and fast rule, not least for me as it does not take into account girth - but each to their own.

    I would like to make one point. Great lover - well consider that a guy with a bigger cock can be banging away hammer and tongs and it drives a woman crazy - to her he is a great lover. But the same guy can be banging away in the sane style with another woman and be destroying her cervix. To her, he is a nightmare.

    The lesson from this is that all people are different - the thing is though - to find out what people like and give it to them as best you can - no surprise then that they will think you are a good lover.

    Finding out what people like, and doing it, is the real Joy of Sex.
     
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    Amem!

    And lets not forget among the preferences people have is that foreplay preparations involves the mind, fantasies, teasing and etc...while we are away from each other...by the time we get together we are so hungry to have inside than we fuck without "foreplay" some may have in their minds.

    Well...to have fantasy life and share stuff is great..and build excitement and etc...this foreplay is my favorite one for sure and goes as glove with my preference for str8 ASAP penetration crave.
     
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    Though my life affords me great simplicity, I often take the hard way for the sake. *knocks back a sip*

    Yes, appropriate size can help. I learned that when I started masturbation. But... as I evolved, I began using different sizes with amazing results. Talent?



    Here's a trick for silly rabbits: Use your other head too.
     
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