About size & lack of technique

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My question can therefore be split in 2 categories:
1. Is there actual DEFINITE difference between average sized, and large? Or are you talking about huge sized dicks? Never had one that qualifies as huge. My largest guy was about 8"x5.25" not sure where that falls on your continuum.:rolleyes:
2. Does the guy end up doing all the work, whilst you spread your legs and have this tremendous expectation? NO! Dear God man it's called making love for a reason, and even when it's just fucking; fucking is an action verb, both parties are fully engaged. The concept of just lieing there like it's a gynecological exam has always been a mystery to me. :confused:

And one more actually:
3. If the guy has a dick of 7.5-8inches in length, with a girth of 5.5-6inches, would you consider it large? Would you be disappointed?
The men in this range who disappointed me were poor lovers, it had nothing to do with their size. By this I mean they did what Sex and the City called "jack rabbit sex." The biggest guy I ever had was 8"x5.25ish". The best lover I ever had was 7" x 5" and the antithesis of everything I ever looked for in a lover. Go figure :confused:
 

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While I think that size is important, it is not nearly as important as technique and stamina. I think that the best male lovers are those individuals who have all three elements. Unfortunately, you can only control two of them.
 

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The question is a bit misleading because it asks about size and technique between "average" and Larger" cocks. In my own personal research, there are many "other" factors that might/would make an intiamte experience with an average sized cock better than a larger one.

But...let's expand the question to include us little guys. I have a 3.5 inch penis fully erect. I have learned that there is a point below which there is little interest by women. I am drawing the line at 4 inches. If a man is 4 inches or less (check "rate-a-rod" for numerous examples of large and tiny penises) then I don't care how good your techniques is...a woman will admire your orals skills way better than whater you can do with a 4 inch or less penis.

...and that assumes a small penis can actually get a woman in bed. In my humble experience, women are indeed visually stimulated (contrary to Hollywood), and will (without even knowing it) make a subtle (or not so subtle - lol) "package checks." Meaning...she will evaluate penis size before allowing a male to seduce her.

Above 4 inches...then technique begins to play a factor....and girth plays a major role in female satisfaction.

Just my 2 cents...

marcus
 

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...and that assumes a small penis can actually get a woman in bed. In my humble experience, women are indeed visually stimulated (contrary to Hollywood), and will (without even knowing it) make a subtle (or not so subtle - lol) "package checks." Meaning...she will evaluate penis size before allowing a male to seduce her.

Just my 2 cents...

marcus

I don't know. I suppose that does happen, but I don't think it's as widespread as you suggest. In the end, I think women either like a guy or they simply don't. This site maybe gives a false impression or at least clouds the issues, but I still tend to think these are more Male issues and worries...well for the most part.

The lazy lover question is something I find interesting, but will take the 5th on in any case.
 

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Size + Good Technique = "Make a sister wanna call me up, every night"
No Technique/Skill = "How Come U Don't Call Me Anymore?"

If you can do the business, it doesn't matter what size you are, your lover will want a repeat performance. Size seems to help the sensation. But your cock can't lick pussy or finger her or rub her clit while you fuck her and suck her tits/kiss her neck at the same time.

There is more to good sex than size and technique. You're not excluded from making a woman nearly pass out (from orgasms!) if you're <6" long or something. If you know what turns your partner on and you show her 'who da man' then you have learned something.

Don't get too hung up over size. If you THINK you're a bad lover because you don't have a huge cock then a) you are WRONG and b) you will be shit in bed.

Explore your partner's body and think of nothing but your partner. If you're going around thinking 'oh, bet she thinks my cock is so small' or other negative things...your partner won't be impressed because your insecurity/anxiety will manifest physically and detract from all the pleasure and soaking wetness you should be getting from sex.

Just get in there, without preconceptions or misconceptions.
 

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You know...

it's not that I think i'm a bad lover at all. On the contrary. But the penis thing is more like this... I think that I'm not enough of a man (not masculine enough) if I don't have a bigger penis... Somehow I feel like i'm really small.

I mean, i know every man perceives himself slightly (or more) smaller than he actually is. But with me, it's mostly a personality issue, through years of pain and suffering in my life, which evolved into something like= big cock = man enough = no more problems in life....

I know it sounds stupid, and it is, but that just took control over my whole life.. And it's bugging me every day..

Sometimes I am ashamed to remove my boxers in front of my girlfriend because I think it won't look big enough, even when she sometimes sees it and responds with : wow it looks big...

It just won't get in my head, somehow i feel like she's only saying it to make me feel good..

Ah the glory of mental instability, and how such miniscule issues can transform into something so HUGE... no pun intended..
 

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I know how you feel. I went through this for years, and by dwelling on it I
ruined my life for years. Notice I said I ruined it by dwelling on my size.
It was not my size that ruined it, but MY attitude. I am much better about things now. I think my health problems have made me realize how precious life is and not to waste it. When something serious comes along trivial things do not seem to matter nearly as much.

I sure hope you can get over this and not waste 30 years like I did.

 

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I think everyone is different, there is no one size fits all. You just need to find the right partner: Personality, Emotion, Desire, and the Skills in the bed. Both of the guys I have been with with were 5-6 inches. I had no problems!
 

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Hello everyone,​


...secondly, I get some form of frustration for thinking that it's all about pleasing the women. Of course I realize that is not so at all, and I love women and find them the most beautiful of earth's belongings. Yet it seems so often like it's all in the hands of the guy, ..​

This is the question I was hoping to see answered. Why is it the guys responsibility for BOTH to have a good time? A guy has to make sure he has his own, AND make sure the woman has hers as well. If women are all about equality, and sex being a shared experience, why do they get to blame the guy for not being able to get theirs? Why shouldnt a woman have to make sure she gets her own, and not put it on the guy? Both people are in the bed, and she has every opportunity to take charge and get hers however she needs. So much is put on the guy for being good in bed, but no one really talks about women being a lame duck in bed, why is that?
 

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Numbers are only number and a measurement means nothing unless he knows how to use it wisely.

And yes you are reading it has alot to do with pleasuring the woman..but that may be because you are reading the 'Women's Issues' section and we women speak from our perspective. Of course we know it isnt all about us and our orgasm and if you look a little more you will read posts all about,giving hand jobs, head jobs, blow jobs, and playing with prostates, balls, foreskins etc, etc. Thats us helping each other on the best ways to pleasure you men..

:wink:


 

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Of course, size and technique are not naturally linked. Average/short guys can come in with bad technique while hung guys can come with superb technique, and vice versa. However, I think compensating for size through technique is necessary in my case. I'm spoiled about that :wink:. But there's no number where I'd draw the line, this is once again about what it feels like.