Addicted to Masterbaiting & Can't get hard anymore

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  1. D_ogu98i8i

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    I am 25 and jackoff at least 2 times a day plus having sex once a day, I have been doing this sense I was 16. The last few years i been noticing I have trouble getting fully hard I usually get about 75% hard but now the last year or a little more its getting worse, I can only get about 50% hard, It hardly gets hard enough to get it in my gf and thats with me jacking off trying to get it hard and also i cant get hard period unless i look at porn and jackoff... My gf does not give me head no more because it never gets hard its still limp but grows 6 to 7inchs even with a cock-ring on it gets harder but still not rock hard like it used to be and also I don't use them because the big vain going up there's a place in the middle of my dick that pops out like a balloon and I'm scared it will pop or something its very big around vain especially that one spot about a inch long... I'm scared i am permanently damaged my dick by abusing it.. I have been with other girls [they were very hot] and i cant get hard, my sex life has went downhill big time.. now i cant have sex because it doesn't get hard enough to enter.. Ive tried to stop jacking off but i just cant its way to hard I'm very addicted to porn and cant pull away no matter how hard i try. I have went a few days without touching myself and it seems to get a little better but i still cant get rock hard like i used to.. Please help me because I'm very scared at this point in life. Oh and i should add that once I stop jacking off my dick immediately goes completely soft, and like if I do get hard and get it in my gf once I start fucking sometimes I will start getting softer & softer and I just cant understand that
     
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    Well if you are a smoker...quit smoking. Smokers have a tendency towards having erectile dysfunction.
     
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    That's true, although it never seemed to bother me. I do note the OP's avatar though. Isn't too much of that kind of smoke is even more likely to cause erectile problems?

    Go and see a good doctor curios. All the worrying you are doing is feeding the problem. If a guy is thinking he has a problem getting it up, then he probably won't.
     
  5. rj285

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    Porn addiction is a very real thing and I don't think alot of guys give it the respect (fear) it deserves. It changes what arouses you sexually driving you into things you wouldn't even consider arousing or even think of doing when you began. A warm and willing woman is no longer good enough after having access to every kind of female figure. Thin girls on Monday, curvy girls on Tuesday, Brazilians on Wednesday... What girl can compete with that?

    There is help out there in the form of religious-leaning pamplets and e-books on the subject. A lot of it deals with how you view the women in porn. A lot of these girls were sexually abused as children and so fall prey to this life style. Some can't leave because it is the only thing putting food on the table or paying for other habits. Not saying all of them are like this, but some are.

    Whenever I am tempted, I think of the actress as someone's daughter that is getting reamed in every oraface by some smuck blessed with a large endowment. Would you watch it with her father next to you? What if this was your daughter? Or your sister?

    As far as being too soft, take a break. It will come back. Not sure how long it will take, but you definately need to drop the porn. It will ruin your sex life because it will ruin how you view women and what arouses you physically and mentally.

    I have some links I can send you. PM me if you would like them.
     
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    started taking any new medications recently? that's one cause for what ailes ya. good idea to see a doctor. you may have a medical problem which is affecting your sexual performance as well as overall tiredness.
     
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    While I can appreciate your avatar, too much of that can decrease your performance.

    As other have suggested, drop the porn and get it on with this girl.

    If this problem visit a medical professional and be ready to be open and honest.

    Do not hide anything because at age 25 you are much too young to destroy your love life for the future.

    I wish you well.
     
  8. naturistMale

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    masturbation is great BUT it's also "self-centered sex", you know how tight to grip, you know how fast to go, you know if you like your hand more at the top or the middle, or like to stroke the whole shaft, feel you balls, play with your ass, rub your chest , squeeze your nips, right?
    all that's good to enhance the experience, then add Porn, the artifical, non-real sexual stimulant, add some pot or other drugs (like alcohol) maybe even toys?
    and like was stated above, what woman could ever provide or compete with all that?
    SpeedoMike mentioned meds. are you on any?
    hung said see a DR and be open and honest. yes, do that
    lecture over in a minute
    i looked at your gallery, and pic 100_2302 is a total bone Mate. what ever you did to get that? do it try doing it again.
    and yes, the best to you in getting this resolved .
    sex (and masturbation) are two things we all want to work for us till the day we die.
     
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    Read my blog. I suffered the same thing, except an educated guess tells me your a smoker on top of that. Smoking deprives your body of oxygen vital to an erection. I'm not saying smoke a blunt and condemn your penis - it's something that happens over time.

    When you feel like looking at porn just go outside and work on your car or something. Fresh air makes great medicine. You've got to discipline yourself into doing this though, which is the hardest part. Next time you even feel like looking at softcore tell yourself to either go outside or suffer the consequence. Brutal? Yes. Addiction can't be tackled with candy-covered advice.
     
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    step ya man kegel game up i get hard with ease and i still do man kegels believe me it works wonders
     
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    there's probably nothing wrong with your penis.
    Sex is mostly in your head. You're 25. Young and still becoming a man. Don't be so hard on yourself. This is the years you take in experiences. Sometimes those experiences effect your mental state, both consciously and subconsciously.
    When you were younger, your body is manufacturing testosterone like there's no tomorrow, so you probably walked around with wood half the day.
    Your erections are not the number one thing in your mind, and focusing on them is having an adverse effect.
    Give yourself some time to grow and do things that you find interesting....and not sex.
    read, travel, take a class, try rock climbing, in short live. Sex is a very important part of life, but focusing on it diminishes its power. That power is there still, your brain just wants other input now.
     
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    i been addicted to masterbating...but im a female
     
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    Masturbation is very dangerous for penile health and in your issue, twice a day is too much.
    The effects of masturbation are,
    Damage to the skin and vanes of penis.
    Damage to the quality and quantity of sexual energy.
    Late erection and quick discharge.

    Remedies could be,

    Use of a oil (Eggs oil is the best and I will post the procedure to make egg oil in later posts.)to massage on the penis skin, avoid the front cap. Only apply on walls.
    Eating light and soft meals. Use plenty of water and juices. Use light cooked vegetables and salad. Avoid beef and rice.
    Morning walk, jogging, walking bare foot on grass.
    Attending religious gatherings.
    Social work, volunteering services.
    Avoiding sex until you feel better. But you should make love with GF, avoiding the sexual intercourse.
     
  14. D_Harvey Schmeckel

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    A person can be a stoner, porn "addict" (I question the term), and twice-daily masturbator for forty years without suffering any of the symptoms you describe. (I know such a person.) But the way you masturbate might need some looking into. If you get overly habituated to high levels of stimulation from your hand, it can cause all the things you describe. Getting a Fleshlight, and learning to masturbate with levels of stimulation that are more comparable to sex with a partner, would be the first thing I'd suggest, before blaming porn or pot consumption or the frequency of masturbation.
     
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    I Have been smoking daily for 10 plus years and I am just fine. If anything I am above normal.
     
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    okay... time to play "mythbuster," here...

    POT does not do any damage to one's ability to have sex or maintain an erection. there are studies that support the exact opposite. these are myths perpetuated by it's prohibition and general ignorance, just like how pot makes men grow breasts, pot makes you become infertile, and how pot is a gateway drug. (had to get that one in there.)

    if you don't believe me, go and seek our proof. the AMA's website is great to start with.

    now, being a compulsive masturbator is another deal, one you should seek help for with a therapist. however, only doing it 2 times a day prob'ly don't qualify you, but some of the other things you said, like you "can't pull yourself away from porn" do stick out as being in this arena of compulsion.

    how long do you look at porn a day?
     
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    Does anybody actually believe this nonsense?

    You claim masturbation somehow damages the penis - and then suggest attending religious gatherings as a remedy! Hah! :rolleyes: Note the dubious look on my face. --> :33: Can you explain how walking barefoot on grass is a remedy for the "damage" caused by too much masturbation?

    If masturbation damaged the penis, then so would lots of vigorous vaginal sex.
     
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    The problem might not be at all related to masturbation. Many factors affect the quality of a man's erection. Are you stressed or anxious a lot lately. (Not just anxious from not remaining as hard as you, but really anxious over other issues in your life.) Are you depressed often? How is your general overall physical health?

    If you are generally healthy, and feel okay to positive emotionally most of the time, then I suggest talking to a doctor.
     
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    twice a day isnt to much maybe if your a constant smoker(although smoking always made me hard) but if you suspect smoking is the problem then give it a rest
     
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    i havent masturbated long enough to the point where my penis doesnt get hard. just take things in moderation
     
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