Adding to friend list?

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by B_mitchymo, Jul 22, 2009.

  1. B_mitchymo

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    Why do YOU seek friend requests or what are your conditions for accepting friends. I just deleted 73 from my list because they are either very inactive or just asked for a friend request and then not even spoke to me, what's that all about?
     
  2. DiscoBoy

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    I don't add people to my friend's list unless they've sent me some kind of message introducing themselves. And even then, I like to get to know the person a bit before I do finally add them.
     
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    Good question mitchymo. I used to only add those who contacted me in a friendly way first but I admit I've been a bit soft on that lately with newbies who are seeking friends. I think I'm going to go back to it strictly on a 'be friendly if you want to be friends' policy. Or at least have a nice avatar to brighten up my profile. (I hate those dullassed questionmarks):biggrin1:
    I also won't accept 'ghosts' who have no biog, no posts, pics or who generally add nothing to the site. I mean, if I know absolutely nothing about a person except their username then what's the point in any contact?

    I don't ask for that many friendships myself but when I do it's because I like what I read from the person, or what I see.:wink: I never send a friend request without a friendly hello first and never push it if I'm not accepted. Do as you would be done by is the rule.

    Oh, and on a side note, ignoring my stated sexuality and therefore saying you either didn't bother even to read my biog or don't believe me/care, and/or demanding dick measurements is not a good start with me either.

    Generally though I'm quite nice and very low maintenance as a friend so it's worth taking these very simple steps into the golden circle. :biggrin1: Once you're added I don't take it too seriously and don't expect lots of contact and picnics in the park. Just the occasional hello would be nice.

    Hmmm.. might do a little bit of Spring cleaning now so I'm not a hypocrite. If you get the axe, sorry, but you won't miss me anyway for the above reasons, will you? :wink:
     
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    If someone asks to sit at my lunch table, i say yes. It's not a big deal.
     
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    So I didn't need to beg after all then?

    (Will you swap your peanut butter sandwich for half my milk?)
     
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    How about a fruit roll up for a Capri Sun?
     
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    Done. I drank my milk anyway.
     
  8. TurkeyWithaSunburn

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    Ahh I'll accept most, but preferably I like to know something about them. A few ppl I really admire their posts so added them. Most of the ppl on my list are chatters, where I spend too much time. :redface:

    You should know some crap about somebody before you add them as a friend, you know like: where they live, what their real name is, how many pets they have, are they married/single/involved, you know something that you would know about a real in person friend. Some of that u can gather from postings and profiles but still I hope this isn't myspace where collecting "friends" is a competitive sport. Just being "hot" doesn't qualify as a friend :tongue: (OK well except you, you, and you:wink:)

    The only real reason for a friend/contact list is if you have an ALBUM that is PRIVATE and only your friends (maybe contacts?) can see it. That is the only real benefit that I can see for a friends list. OH and you can set your private messages to only allow your friends/contacts to send u messages.

    If you just like someone's pix and want to "bookmark" that person add them to your contact list. The contact list is a ONEWAY communication. I call the contact list the "stalk list" :biggrin::redface: that's what I use it as, just interesting ppl or appendages that I don't know much about. OK not really stalk, but more like peekaboo that person seems interesting, or is hot, let me keep track of them to see if they are more than just a body. (Or if they add new pix :redface:)
    Friendslist is a TWOWAY communication, you get along with them, they know you, you know them, blah blah blah.

    ok :soapbox: I'll get off of it :redface:

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    I have two criteria. Either the person has to be a real friend, someone I know via PMs or such extended time on LPSG that I think I know the person well enough, OR I have to believe that person is a good addition to LPSG and appears to be someone I want to get to know better because that person makes me think. Some people have left or been banned and they're still on list. That's OK by me because I'm still friends with them. If I don't know someone or take an interest in them then I assume they're just trolling for friends and I take them off. I don't want the list to become so big I don't recognize names on it.
     
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    I usually just accept requests for no good reason--I guess it's easier than deleting them. It's not that big a deal to me either way, and most of the people on my list I don't even talk to. Kinda silly overall.
     
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    I've had the same experience here Mitch. I guess some people like "quantity, not quality".... It gives them some thrill to have a long friends list. If I havent chatted with them here, or followed some of their posts in the threads, I usually decline.
     
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    I simply can`t say NO!
    I`m such a whore:(
     
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    Lol, well you're a funny whore at least :smile:
     
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    well Mitch I'm shallow.

    I added you because you live in one of my favorite parts of the world and I find you immensely attractive. Plus you seem like a very nice man.

    Does that work for you?:cool:
     
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    Lol well one man's Picasso is another drunk's doodle and all that so cheers for the compliment :biggrin1:
     
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    I have ulterior motives.... I'm NOT to be trusted! :wink:
     
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    When I wasn't a moderator, I would only accept people I talked to regularly, or people whose posts I enjoyed.

    But now... I accept everyone. :tongue:

    If you want to get on my friends list, now's the time! :biggrin:
     
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    I don't think i've sent any friends requests. I only accept people to my list if a) we've had some correspondence, either on the forum or email, and b) something about their profile catches my interest.
     
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    I just accept any incoming friends request. My thinking is that it's not some sort of unbreakable bond, it's just an online thingy and really doesn't matter either way.
     
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