I was thinking about Jason-els' thread about gay men wanting to have children, and it made me think about many past similar threads. I was thinking specifically about how same sex couples lack half of what is needed to reproduce. I have the female half of the required organs. However, I also have a moral objection to offering my eggs, my womb, and my strength to anyone else to help them reproduce. I feel that with so many unloved children and babies in the world, it is morally reprehensible to use science to create children when natural ones are impossible to conceive. That is not to say I pass judgement on anyone who goes that route. I wish only to explain that I cannot be a participant in such a thing without being a hypocrite. In the past, when I have put this view on the table, I was criticized for suggesting that gays and other infertile couples should have to adopt, rather than artificially create embryos. It is difficult to adopt, and even more difficult for singles, or same-sex couples to adopt. What about this? I am in a long term, heterosexual relationship. I have a modest, but adequate income, and so does my partner. I live in two low-crime areas. I am a small business owner, and building a second business. I am young, healthy, and three weeks away from excellent credit (when the terrible things I did to my credit history expire and must be removed from my report and no longer afect my score). I could, after my boyfriend and I marry (which we have decided we will do) easily adopt. Well, as easily as anyone else. So do you know what I would be willing to do? I would be willing to adopt children, and surrender my parental rights to gay friends who wanted children. I think that's a good plan, don't you? It would be tricky. How could I balance the life of the little one in question so that the transition from my household to the real intended parent's household would be smooth, and not harmful to the child? I figure any good adoption agency wants to make absolutely sure that the child is adjusting well to my custody, and therefore I could not immediately hand over the child. Also, I have never seen an adoption take full legal hold until several months after the child's placement. That I see as the chief flaw in my plan. I'd adopt for gay friends if a plan could be formed in which the child could go quickly to the intended couple, and not form security and bonding in my home, with me, and with my family. Grrr. Why can't they just frickin' let queer couples adopt already? Meh. Thanks for listening to my poorly organized thoughts on the subject. Also, thanks for any help fleshing out my idea.