Why I need perspective, guidance, wisdom, feedback from them? Because I would always run to my Dad's arms when things were bad...my mother had different type of influence in me and she too run to him...and to her Dad...I run to my Granpa too...there is much confort, sense and security in adult males arms and words. My own Dad is very far away..my brother too.. I dont have any strong man near by me for a long while... I'm not saying other men sexual preferences are less masculine..no, but with heterosexual adult men I dont need to deal with stuff that is out of my reality as an heterosexual woman...is that many times I see that non heterosexual males are still dealing and struggling with their own sexuality and still in process to make peace with themselves or name themselves and etc...them to me as much they are males they may are struggling inside themselves...I dont need to get into more struggles right now I need adult mature males perspectives. My bf is a guy that is kind of mess up personal life I'm discovering...he does not have good relationship with his Mom and went to live with relatives at 17...plus he Dad died when he was 8 and he had a step father until he was 16, he did avoid to talk about...now he said he is mess up and send text message saying:" he is rude, irresponsable, imature, childish, unemotional, lack ability to love..need work, dont know what to do, is scared..want to be a man and responsable...and that his father did not teach him those things..." I dont want to deal with him or any man on the making anymore...I do think he has to start by finding profissional couseling/terapy and reach to his Mom, step Dad and etc...is to much heavy stuff and foreigner to me...I want to be his friend but I dont want have romantic relationship with him anymore...this is the second time we brake up...and the tv games were only a drop that fill my bucket not the motive of course...than what I thought was cultural differences in behaviour was trully red flags in his attitudes because of unresolved issues way back... I still find myself emotionaly recent divorcee, almost 2 1/2 years too stress to deal with heavy issues..I'm still recuperating myself of my own craps and etc..I dont need complications but simplicity and clear people..is it too much to ask???