my take on all of this
AFF is not a complete waste, though the ratio is pretty simple, out of 100,000 people using the service, 80,000 are men, of the remaining 20%, 10 percent are couples (which as couples go, about 90% are real people though 75% are looking for single females only, good luck with that) and of the 10% that are female, only about 10% are real women
mind you, i live in las vegas, so your ratios may vary, whole lot of womens on there from here looking to be "rented"
so as a single man looking for some hetro action, your looking at about 1% of the total population of the service as being "available" if your looking for some wang, then the site would be awesome, plenty of wang searching going on there
as touched on before, yes AFF be some greedy bastards, so only sign up for gold and silver if you have a little cash burning a hole in your pocket, and dont expect anything to come of it
as for the effectiveness of the service,
i have gotten laid though the service by 3 different girls, had my first introduction into swinging/swaping, and have met my girlfriend from there
if you actually can find someone to connect with. its a helluva service, we swing about 1-3 times a month, and we couldnt be happier with the way things have turned out, i found somone that understands me, and views alot of things from the same directions i do, and its also nice because both of us wanted to get into a swinging relationship before we started seeing each other, wich is great seeing as how nobody had to whip out the whole "maybe we could look at swinging" conversation
as for myspace, i never got any play from there, but as with everything
"your results may vary"