Orca, thanx babe, always appreciate a nice compliment. Naughty made my point exactly, women have been dealing with this issue forever, and it is usually rather easily dealt with. If someone gives you a glance or pays you a compliment, the appropriate response is "thank you". My mother taught me that when I was young. If someone is leering or salivating, an abrupt "Can I help you" will usually embarrass them to the point of going away. If the problem is more than that, the direct approach is always best "I'm not interested". I can't imagine a woman taking it further than that. I have had a couple incidents with men that required a conversation as to why I wasn't interested, but still not a big deal. I worked for several years in management and had to become intimatley familiar with sexual harrassment laws (which are tedious) so perhaps this is a bit of a sore spot with me. I want everyone to feel comfortable in their work environment, but hate the letigeousness of our society. I think people should be less "on their guard" and looking for the worst in others, maybe we could get along a bit better. I don't leer and salivate when I look at men, I don't lean over their work space and dangle my breasts in their face, but I can read people (just like most ppl can) to a certain extent, and can tell if they'd be open to certain kinds of conversation. Usually, if I'm even gonna tell a joke that could be construed as offensive, I'll ask if the ppl standing around want to hear it first. If a guy is particularly shy, I'll be careful to remain professional at all times. The word here is RESPECT, Aretha said it best. But, in my particular case, the kind of guy I'm most likely to be attracted to is the loudmouth, showoff, asshole type (a lot of those in sales), and those kind of men usually love being looked at or even leered at. I never have any kind of relations with co-workers, but the energy charge can be fun. I guess the rule of thumb should be just use your common sense, but I still feel that "fired" for taking a casual glance at a guy is an absurdity.