Advice about "working" and..

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  1. pacificfiveoh

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    Ok, hopefully this wont get tagged and moved to someplace else but im guessing this can fit into the "relationship" part of the forum. Recently ive thought about using my God given gifts to make money. :biggrin1: In da past ive been offered cash for certain things but have always turned it down because of various reason such as, having a boyfriend, morals and not really needing the money. Well, guess what? Kinda wouldn't mind having extra money so that way i can save and have some cushioning for when i move back to FL (btw, dont move to hawaii unless you plan on being poor! its expensive).

    So here's my question. Today ive been asked to do it again by someone else.. like 200-400$ to do whatever im comfortable with and it would be a constant income for me. So, lets just say weekly, ok, so should i do it? I mean, its not going to be enjoyable for me and the only reason is to get cash. I mean, its pretty decent money just from this one indiv. let alone if i take up the other offers LOL I could quit my job!! NOT the life I want so that won't happen.

    Here's the kicker.. I got a man and have had him for 3.5 years now and while im sure it may piss him off.. how do i go about even asking this. I mean, yeah -- its for the greater good and its not like im out cheating. Its work right? LOL Should I not tell and say i got the money from family when its time to move? Have any of you guys done this before.. give me some advice?!?!? Should I pimp out my body and dick for money?
     
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    Pacific, I am gonna offer you this simple advice.

    You should do what you feel is right. PERIOD. If you feel comfortable with the idea of "pimping" your body/dick then you should do it.

    Having said that, I can't imagine your boyfriend would be impressed at the idea of losing his man to the sex market. He could get insecure due to your experiences or just worry about the risks you may be taking in regards to STD's.

    Personally, I couldn't do it but there are people that have done it and they have grown into fine ladies and gentlemen. If you do want to do it, the first thing you need to do is talk to your man and get his opinion. Tell him you got another offer and you would like to know his opinion on the idea. Being honest is always the best. If you go around doing it and you hide it from him... it is worse than cheating because you obviously feel that it is something to hide.

    Best of luck to you.
     
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    If only some chick would offer me money for sex
     
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    I'll second Jeff Black's advice. By the way...what's wrong with getting a second job in something that's legal and not going to create issues?
     
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    Well, nudeyorker, not everyone is "qualified" to occupy positions with the job market being the way it is and recruiters being closed minded to the various opportunites presented by the scores of applicants beating down their door. Yes, as sex workers, we are seemingly intelligent and capable of doing more legal work but our if you were offered $ 100 an hour versus $13 would you turn it down? That's your moral ax to grind. Trust me when I say Pacificfiveoh is not alone on this issue. Some of us have alot to offer much to the chagrin of those in Human Resources but we may not be what employers are looking for at the moment.

    Pacificfiveoh if you want to explore this as an option please feel free but use protection and keep a professional mind. It's up to you to tell your man but I will tell you it's best you keep it to yourself and do not rely upon it as the only means of making money. Just do it a few times and get out. You can leave with your dignity and health intact as long as you keep in mind that you are on the clock. Anything that you are not comfortable with make it very clear and if neccessary -leave. It's that simple. I can relate to your situation because I struggled with the opportunity to make money v.s. the boyfriend thing. I regret telling him what I did in the past because now he doesn't trust me even though I tell him that I have no interest in it. If you still find yourself considering it I can always refer to an online community that offers support and advice to working professionals.

    -Cheers.
     
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    I have no moral ax to grind. I simply agreed with Jeff Black's post and offered an alternative.
    When I was in school I was offered money for sex. It was not for me. I worked for a catering company instead. My choice same as pacificfiveoh's!
     
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    Sorry to be so direct but, just the fact that you are posting this thread, the biggest problem comes from yourself... If you can't overcome your sense of guilt, the "working" idea will be a bad one, period. No amount of comforting here will make you feel better about the "betrayal" you do to your better half.

    My two cents.
     
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    All these are valid points. If it's a struggle, it may not be for you. I would tell my partner, ask for his advice and blessing. If he is uncomfortable with the idea, drop it. Your relationship will be stronger for having confided that it was on your mind, and trusting his opinion.

    I've done it only a few times, the money did come in handy and it was an ego boost. It in no way got in the way of my relationship at the time. Just don't make a career out of it.
     
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    hmmmmmmmmmmmm yes.. food for thought! I mentioned it as a "kiddin around" thing and he said.. shit, do it! I was kinda taken aback by it but then again, i said it in a joking way to break the ice. I doubt he really meant it but ill keep diggin LOL

    Thanks for the words of advice, i will keep it in mind.

    BTW, i put up some more pics.. enjoy
     
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    Oh, I'm enjoying... about your career building opportunities: be easy with it. While "technically" I never did it <cutie once offered me $$ - I took it - woulda hit it for free, but never disclosed that> I DID work as a stripper for a minute there back in my younger days. I won't lie - made a GRIP. In fact more in a weekend than what my f/t paid for a 2 week paycheck. It was fun, totally but there were plenty of moments where my pockets were fat but I felt cheap. Basically pretending to be attracted to some 92 year old drooler and flirting with them was tough. And GETTING - much less keeping - a boner in said setting was almost traumatic. But there were hotties too; if they tipped well I would occasionally let them touch resulting in insta-wood resulting in quite a fan base...
     
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    Pacificfiveoh man you are way too good for this and I don't even know you. If you have doubts, don't do it. No amount of money is worth selling your body, and what a body might I add. I know the money sounds good but whats the price?? What toll is going to be taken on you, on your body, on your relationship? Are the quick bucks really worth the cost? Think about it long and hard before you make any commitments.

    Just my.02 worth.
     
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    Pacific,

    Take it from me. I am an escort in my city, and I do it for others when I travel. It is not as big a deal or as "grotesque" as some people make it seem (no one in this forum in particular). It is odd at first, since you just don't know what is going to happen, how it will happen, etc. My best advice is to do it, if you are comfortable with it. There is not point in selling your body, if you feel that you or your boyfriend will feel uncomfortable. You should deffinitely talk about it with your man; it should be one of your first priorities/actions to entering this field of work.
     
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    BTW, good looking penis you have!
     
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    I would say "Dont do it".

    Not being judgemental as I actually did do it a few years back...with a bf.. it was a couple-only thing and I did it with him only.

    Something dies inside yourself when you do it. Something that you cannot turn back. Just my 2 cents.

    Whatever your decision, make sure you have thought it over and are sure you are ok emotionally to do it.

    I wish your cute ass luck man...........
     
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    Most of my advice has already been posted. I would make certain to tell your B/F. If you think he may object you will need to talk through it and in then end you may need to make a choice. You have been with him for 3 ½ years and IMHO if you have a honest relationship you kind of owe it to him. In addition if you think he may be ticked with the idea then imagine what happens if he actually finds out somehow.
    Again, I do not know the state of your relationship. If it is open anyhow and not exclusive then I do not see why he would be too upset. Perhaps he was being honest when he said &#8220;go for it.&#8221;
    Aside from that you have to decide for yourself what you are comfortable with and if it is worth the couple of hundred dollars to have sex. For some it would be, for others not; but it is only you who knows what you truly think.
     
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    Bro-you have to be comfortable with it. The money might be good, but you have to make sure that you protect yourself. Also, your mind needs to be in the right place. Like Vinny, I have done the stripping thing and the money was great. It was all a mind game,and eventually caught up to me. I wouldn't do it again.

    If it works for you - have fun with it, just be safe. With your looks and body you will no longer be poor :)
     
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    eh.. Since i last posted.. ive kinda done it a couple times and made a ton of $ BUT i dont enjoy if obviously. I dont really feel bad about it.. the only guilt is that im actually taking someone's money.. as if they need it or something. If they were starving, they wouldn't be paying to touch me. haha right? yehhhh
     
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    Well, Pacific. I had my doubts at first, but if you can make it work, and the boyfriend doesn't mind... then, more power to you. I just looked at your new pictures from a few weeks ago. You are still a really good looking guy.

    Good luck, and you are right. People who pay for sex usually aren't starving, homeless people. :smile:
     
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    as others have said here, talk with you man about it, do not hide it from him, he will eventually find out, have a serious talk with him, don't bring it up jokingly, he may have said go for it, but he could have been joking about that at the time.

    I saw the pictures that you have, you do have something there to be proud of, you got some good looks and nice body.

    if you or your man is uncomfortable with it, I would recommend taking on a part time job and saving that money back so that you can get back to Fl.

    either route you go with, best of luck.
     
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    If this is a thread describing a stripper job, then as long as you have the confidence in your body and your dick and your boyfriend is comfortable with your employment, then do it so long as you like. If this is a thread describing some sort of a prostitution/escorting gig, then do take the time to understand the laws in your jurisdiction. $200-400 to do whatever your comfortable with might include some sexual action that crosses the line by the book, and that's a black mark your legal record probably wouldn't want to tolerate. Whatever your decision, make it an informed and conscientious one.
     
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