Advice For 2 (average) Size Queens In Relationship

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Serious question.

How can two men that are very much in love have a complete and happy sex life when they each have average sized penises and yet are also size queens to a certain extent?

We are like most gay men who are attracted to big penises but neither one of us have one.

So far we have been monogamous and frankly are a little worried that bringing a third or being in an open relationship would bring in too many potential problems.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Advice?
Please be kind.
 
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It is my belief love and sex are two completely different animals. That being said, it is also my belief if something isn't broke, don't fix it. That's not really answering your question, is it?! Trust what you two have. Enjoy it. It's a rare thing and transcends a few extra inches of a sexual organ.
 

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It is my belief love and sex are two completely different animals. That being said, it is also my belief if something isn't broke, don't fix it. That's not really answering your question, is it?! Trust what you two have. Enjoy it. It's a rare thing and transcends a few extra inches of a sexual organ.
Thank you for taking the time to offer a thoughtful response. I appreciate it.

Interested in other points of view as well.

:)
 

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Serious question.

How can two men that are very much in love have a complete and happy sex life when they each have average sized penises and yet are also size queens to a certain extent?

We are like most gay men who are attracted to big penises but neither one of us have one.

So far we have been monogamous and frankly are a little worried that bringing a third or being in an open relationship would bring in too many potential problems.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Advice?
Please be kind.

Sounds great to me. You guys love each other and share a common interest and taste. There's a lot to be grateful for there whether you guys do anything to please your tastes or not. You sound really lucky.

There's always toys if you're not comfortable with including others.
 

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But like everyone else here but if you are in love but your sex life isn’t what you want it to be then experiment with toys and other stuff to see what works for you guys and what doesn’t.

I know you aren’t keen on bringing in other guys, which I totally understand, but if toys aren’t doing it for you then why not consider playing together with another guy but only together. Personally know a few couples who enjoy threesomes but their rule is they don’t play separately. They are the first to admit though it’s not for everyone and requires a lot of trust in the relationship.
 

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If you aren’t interested in bringing a third in for some fun then why not get a collection of toys you can use or share with each other?

Actually that is a great idea and one we have talked about. Might be fun shopping.....it is really so silly but psychologically I have to admit the thought of a large penis penetrating me is kind of overwhelmingly hot.
 

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But like everyone else here but if you are in love but your sex life isn’t what you want it to be then experiment with toys and other stuff to see what works for you guys and what doesn’t.

I know you aren’t keen on bringing in other guys, which I totally understand, but if toys aren’t doing it for you then why not consider playing together with another guy but only together. Personally know a few couples who enjoy threesomes but their rule is they don’t play separately. They are the first to admit though it’s not for everyone and requires a lot of trust in the relationship.

We have talked a little about this possibility. We did once hire two naked masseuses to come to our hotel room and that was fun....we didn't do much with the other guys other than touch their penises while they massaged us. We did finish with each other after they left which was good.

The one thing we have talked about would be for us to go together to a gay sauna (aka steamworks) where I could be a voyeur which I like and where he could get some attention from other guys which he likes. But not much sex...just flirting and touching...
 

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It's not for everyone, but most things to do with sex aren't. Have you tried fisting?

You mentioned that being opened up by a big cock is one of your drivers. Toys are an option, but in my opinion (as a top), there are few things kinkier than penetrating a tight ass with my hand and, eventually my arm. Wearing my boyfriend like a glove. Wow. And he loves the feeling of fullness. Some say fisting is too 'extreme' to be an act of love making, but I really think it's one of the hottest, most trusting and sensual things you can do with a soulmate.

There are other kinks you could introduce too, which are less about size and more about distracting you both with other hot stuff. Toys, role play, sounding (in my top three favourite things!), CBT, etc...
 

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We have talked a little about this possibility. We did once hire two naked masseuses to come to our hotel room and that was fun....we didn't do much with the other guys other than touch their penises while they massaged us. We did finish with each other after they left which was good.

The one thing we have talked about would be for us to go together to a gay sauna (aka steamworks) where I could be a voyeur which I like and where he could get some attention from other guys which he likes. But not much sex...just flirting and touching...
This is exactly as open as our relationship gets.
 

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It's not for everyone, but most things to do with sex aren't. Have you tried fisting?

You mentioned that being opened up by a big cock is one of your drivers. Toys are an option, but in my opinion (as a top), there are few things kinkier than penetrating a tight ass with my hand and, eventually my arm. Wearing my boyfriend like a glove. Wow. And he loves the feeling of fullness. Some say fisting is too 'extreme' to be an act of love making, but I really think it's one of the hottest, most trusting and sensual things you can do with a soulmate.

There are other kinks you could introduce too, which are less about size and more about distracting you both with other hot stuff. Toys, role play, sounding (in my top three favourite things!), CBT, etc...

Agree. Try fisting, you may never go back to cock
 

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To me, occasionally inviting a third -- a well hung third -- seems like an obvious answer. He'd get into being admired and worshipped by two size queens. You'd get a dose of what you're both missing. Everyone leaves happy.
 

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To me, occasionally inviting a third -- a well hung third -- seems like an obvious answer. He'd get into being admired and worshipped by two size queens. You'd get a dose of what you're both missing. Everyone leaves happy.

That might work.