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Hey ladies, so I am what you would call a prude haha. I am 19 and haven't really done anything with a girl. It's pretty pathetic I know. But I am just looking for any advice that you have to give. Everything from asking a girl out to kissing to fucking. It's just that the whole thing makes me nervous and I psych myself out and then I end up not doing anything. So advice on making the first kiss a good one, advice on asking girls out, advice on eating girls out. Really anything you have to say is a big help and I appreciate your input! Thanks in advance!
 

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I would hardly call being 19 and sexually inexperienced pathetic. In fact, I think it's admirable. Starting early is overrated and unnecessary. Your mind and body aren't yet fully developed, and being a sexual being a huge responsibility.

My advice:

DO NOT USE PORN AS AN EDUCATIONAL TOOL. In fact, watch as little as possible. Porn is not real life. It does nothing to tell you how to share pleasure with another human being. In fact, it strips away the one thing that makes sex the most excellent, heart-racing, sweaty, lose your mind experience two people can share - the relationship. Watch too much porn before you start having real sex and I can pretty much tell you, you are going to be plagued with sexual issues the rest of your life.

Make your first sexual experience with someone you care about and who cares about you. Not a hooker or a stranger. Virginity is not some ugly burden you need to get rid of as fast as possible. It might feel like it, but it isn't. This is where you learn to kiss, touch, make out until your jeans are about to burst open. This is where you start to learn technique by the way you make her moan by moving one way, or wince by moving another. Then with your next lover, you learn more.....and so on.

You learn in relationships, by being with women. You don't learn by reading up on "techniques" or polling for them on the internet. Be gentle, be kind, don't be sloppy and always be respectful. Be confident. Pay attention to signals - "ow" means that hurts; wiping her mouth after you kiss her means you were too wet a kisser; "mmmmm" means more. And remember, No two women are going to be the same.

But stay away from porn.
 

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Please listen to LaFemme. Every word. You're awesome, girl!

And I agree, a 19-year-old virgin is not abnormal.
 

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I second & third all of the above. Relax, Ron. The girls are not all that experienced either, an even though some might have had more experience than you, they still don't know themselves all that well yet, and it can be a magnificiently hot situation for both of you. When it feels like that, the mechanics are less important that the chemistry.
 

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I used to get nervous about every first kiss until I realized one thing. First kisses almost always suck! All of them! Every new partner is a bad first kiss just waiting to happen. I just pay attention to my partner, see what kind of kissing I'm getting, and mirror that more. My assumption that most people do to me what they want me to do to them has served me very well with regard to bringing pleasure to others. Pay attention.
 

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Don't try too hard at kissing, it always turns out badly that way.

Take your time with one base before rounding to the next one, and go for it slowly. If she doesn't want you to, she will let you know.
Respect "no".

Nipples are sensitive, don't treat them harshly unless you discover she's into it.

You finishing doesn't always mean she did. Respect that.
 

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At 19 you are just starting out on your road and that's a good thing. The best thing about being on a road trip is being able to take your time and see what the world has to offer. Treat your relationships like a road trip, take your time, enjoy the trip and see what is out there that interests you.
For me personally, the best relationships, I have EVER been in, be it professional or personal are the ones where I am comfortable and myself. Be who you are, don't ever try to be something or someone you are not. Once you start with a lie; pretending you're something you're not, there comes a point when you can no longer keep up the charade and sometimes, you figure it out too late. If the person you are with can't/won't/doesn't accept and cherish you for who you are, leave them and move on.
Be honest and upfront, I find that more charming and endearing than anything else. I am the kind of person that what you see is what you get and I respect and admire that in others. I can tell you that some of my best relationship experiences have come from the awkwardness that comes from unfamiliarity; trust me that happens no matter how old or how much experience you have. Treat your partner with respect and understanding always and you really can't go wrong. Communicate and ask questions, get to know the person you are with and allow them to know you and the rest will fall into place.
I purposely didn't address the specifics that you asked, because I believe that everyone is different and that is what you need to explore. Enjoy your journey and please have fun along the way, but not at someone else's expense. Experience life.