Honestly it is a friend and you may think it odd that he has come to me for advice. Anyway, this is what I intend to say to him and I would be interested in what you think. I don't want to ruin his life. I think that there are three criteria. Friendship, respect and sexual compatability. By respect I mean for their ability to deliver within the cultural expectations of a partner. That may sound odd to some, but I don't think that it is, and certainly not within his culture. It is sounding clinical to me, but if you score each out of ten and end up with an average of eight, without one scoring below six, then I would think that you stood a good chance of having a successful relationship. Am I way out here? I am not sure what to say about the love thang.