Hey I don't really make threads that often here, but I'm in a situation where I think advice from more experienced females would really help. Me and my gf have been together for almost a year. At the beginning the sex was very frequent(as with most new relationships lol) but lately it's been seeming like sex isn't on her mind or she's not interested in it. We have a long distance relationship currently. I live in Lansing, MI and she lives in Chicago. I went to visit her this past weekend after not having seen each other since school got out in the first week of May. We had a great time. I met her friends, did fun activities and nice dinners. However, we didn't have sex or anything in that realm. She does live with her parents, but there were many times we were alone for hours on end. I had let her know I was horny, but she didn't really say much about it.(I used to initiate all the time, but we only ever had sex when she wanted to so I just wait until she lets me know) After I got back home, I realized that if I want to be in a fulfilling relationship with this person; I needed to be honest about my frustrations and what we can do to compromise.(Again me thinking she wasn't interested in sex) The conversation was very revealing. She said she actually loved sex(had it everyday with exes....ugh that irked me to hear and type) but I wasn't being affectionate and giving her the attention that she needed to get her in the mood(lots of hugs, kisses, touching during day to day activities). Awesome I can change that! I had no idea I wasn't being loving enough and that she felt that way, BUT she also said that I was too big in both length and girth. It mad sex painful for her and she just stopped wanting to do anything because it would just be painful. Not awesome lol. This is the area where I need advice. How do I make things less painful and more comfortable for her? Btw I love going down on her and giving her massages etc. Massages won't work because she just ends up getting too relaxed and falling asleep.
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As a fellow grammar nazi, I apologize for all grammatical or punctuation errors. Thanks for taking the time to read all that