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I don't think I'll be coming here for advice on relationship stuff anymore.

Why? I asked some advice about a girl, and basicly everybody agreed that she had no interest in me based on what I said.

Turns out that was wrong. I saw her and she flagged me down and asked me if I hated her. She still has interest in me lol.

I think the advice given was based on some unwritten rules about relationships. For example, when you get a girls number don't call for 3 days or something like that. Thats the kind of advice I got, based on this situation the rule is do such and such. Those rules don't seem to apply to many if anybody.

I wonder if asking for advice here was the downfall of the previous girl I was talking to. I don't know, but I think I'll do things on my own from now on.
 

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ha! i have no idea what advice was given to you -- but if you saw her and she flagged you down, maybe that means it was actually good advice :)

btw, TX represent

I don't think I'll be coming here for advice on relationship stuff anymore.

Why? I asked some advice about a girl, and basicly everybody agreed that she had no interest in me based on what I said.

Turns out that was wrong. I saw her and she flagged me down and asked me if I hated her. She still has interest in me lol.

I think the advice given was based on some unwritten rules about relationships. For example, when you get a girls number don't call for 3 days or something like that. Thats the kind of advice I got, based on this situation the rule is do such and such. Those rules don't seem to apply to many if anybody.

I wonder if asking for advice here was the downfall of the previous girl I was talking to. I don't know, but I think I'll do things on my own from now on.
 

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I don't know, but I think I'll do things on my own from now on.

That is probably wise. The problem with giving advice on a forum is that people are only getting your own emotional take on a situation. It's extremely difficult to convey the whole situation via posting.

At the end of the day you have first hand experience of the situation, body langauge, eye contect etc etc. People of the forum don't have that luxury only a second hand account.

Your own gut instinct has to play a big part in these decisions. Good luck ;)
 

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Where is a lawyer when we need one?

THE LPSG COMMUNITY MAKES NO WARRANTY...blah blah...

Seriously, people gave you advice based upon the information you provided. That information may have been subjective and / or insufficient.

The reality is: individuals are individual. Humans are not Borgs. Hard-and-fast rules in human relationships often don't work.

I received plenty of bad relationship advice from friends, as did my exes from their friends, because they are by definition biased.

Even we are biased because your now-future GF is NOT an LPSG member (yet).




 

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there is nothing wrong with asking for advice...just dont take it to heart as the best possible solution, but as a different point of view
 
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Don't know where or what your previous 'advice' was. But she came looking for you did she not?
 

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I cant believe you have the cheek to state such.
Seems WE are responsible for TWO decisions YOU have had made.
Surely its how you have interpreted the OPINIONS given by probably well meaning fellow LPSG Members
A Foolish person you are if your saying you took and believed in ADVICE given on here
Goodness.. i am starting to shit myself now,, thinking i may have inadvertently set you on a path of doom and destruction on Personal Matter/s that you have willingly asked advice of
(as .. i hope like hell i was not one who responded to your Call)
GOOD on you btw for now facing up to your own Demons'
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Why? I asked some advice about a girl, and basicly everybody agreed that she had no interest in me based on what I said.

Turns out that was wrong. I saw her and she flagged me down and asked me if I hated her. She still has interest in me lol.
Which thread and girl were you referring to? Maybe you thought she didn't like you so it came across in your thread that way.
 

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It's okay for you to present a senario, provide information, and then ask for
advice.....but in the end you have to evaluate it all and make your own mind
up what to do. It seems so simple, but it really isn't. :shrug:

Various people will hear or read the same thing and each will have a different
take on it...due to what they "think" they have read or heard, and according
to their own feelings and past expereiences will make suggestions. I'm sure
they all mean well, but how can anyone get over the Internet the nuances
that must be furnished to make such a conclusion? It's not possible.

Would you ask a surgeon whom you didn't know, to diagnose internal injuries
of an accident victim that you have found in the street, and ask him to guide
you through an operation on the spot? Of course not. Or, at least I wouldn't.

So in the final analysis, you can take the suggestions as possibilities, but you
have to evaluate and make your own decisions.

So, don't be so hard on those at lpsg. Give them another chance. And, help
others with your own advice. It is a give and take thing.

Good Luck....I hope the new girl friend works out.
 

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So, is this the girl that quit taking your calls after you hung up on her? Your room mate had a stupid emergency or something and you told the girl that you would call her back.....but after that she was always too busy to talk to you when you called. And then later on ..... one night she went out drinking......she drank too much and lost her keys.....and then calls you for a ride home. Then afterwards she is too busy to talk to you when you call. I think you mentioned that the girl is a single mom.


If this is the same girl......good luck to you.