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Hey I’m posting this just for some advice and anything really, on this topic.
I’ve been with my partner for four and a half years. I love him so much but one thing that lacks in our relationship is intimacy and sex.
I have a high sex drive and could have sex every day, where he could probably go months without and not be bothered.
The start of the relationship we had anal, oral sex maybe the first six months or so, but this still wasn’t regular. It was more fueled from nights out drinking.
The sex we do have is really just jacking each other off and making out, which is fine, but I really want to do everything with him.
He has a very low libido and we’ve spoken about this before, it seems to be the only issue in our relationship, we get on great, everything else is fine... I’m so sympathetic to how he feels, I am and have been for the whole relationship. It then makes me feel bad for wanting to have sex with him, if that makes sense? I never initiate sex because everytime I have before, it’s been declined... so I always leave it to him to do but then this could be weeks or months before even a quick fumble happens.
I know it isn’t to do with me, but it always makes me feel unattractive and bad about myself.. like why wouldn’t my partner want to?
I’ve been contemplating bringing this up again, as for me, I don’t want to have a sexless life and I’m worried that this will be a continuing thing in the future.. but in the same breathe, I obviously don’t want the relationship to end. Anytime I bring it up, it never goes over well.. it’s a difficult thing to bring up.
He has said before this has broken past relationships for him, so to me I think why would he not want to try and fix that?
I don’t know what to say or how to approach this subject again... any advice or similar stories from your own experiences would be great?
I’ve been with my partner for four and a half years. I love him so much but one thing that lacks in our relationship is intimacy and sex.
I have a high sex drive and could have sex every day, where he could probably go months without and not be bothered.
The start of the relationship we had anal, oral sex maybe the first six months or so, but this still wasn’t regular. It was more fueled from nights out drinking.
The sex we do have is really just jacking each other off and making out, which is fine, but I really want to do everything with him.
He has a very low libido and we’ve spoken about this before, it seems to be the only issue in our relationship, we get on great, everything else is fine... I’m so sympathetic to how he feels, I am and have been for the whole relationship. It then makes me feel bad for wanting to have sex with him, if that makes sense? I never initiate sex because everytime I have before, it’s been declined... so I always leave it to him to do but then this could be weeks or months before even a quick fumble happens.
I know it isn’t to do with me, but it always makes me feel unattractive and bad about myself.. like why wouldn’t my partner want to?
I’ve been contemplating bringing this up again, as for me, I don’t want to have a sexless life and I’m worried that this will be a continuing thing in the future.. but in the same breathe, I obviously don’t want the relationship to end. Anytime I bring it up, it never goes over well.. it’s a difficult thing to bring up.
He has said before this has broken past relationships for him, so to me I think why would he not want to try and fix that?
I don’t know what to say or how to approach this subject again... any advice or similar stories from your own experiences would be great?