Advice needed for Str8 Client

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  1. spfldstyler

    spfldstyler New Member

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    Hi Guys!

    I own a small hair salon (Just me) and I have a strange question and need your thoughts. I have a str8 male client that I have been doing his hair for about four years. When I opened my shop last year, he followed me there and one day about four months ago, I had a client bring me a playboy as a gag gift ( I am gay). I left it on my desk one day by mistake and this guy saw it and started reading it while his color processed. Since then, he has expressed interest in having porn around when he is there and about how he enjoys it. I have appreciated his business and loyalty over the years so I am happy to provide it for him. As a matter of fact, I recently brought my portable dvd player from home so he could discreetly watch porn movies while he is there. He really seems to enjoy all this and it has caused me to wonder.... I would love to offer a blowjob, because I would think all this porn is making him horny, but I am afraid of offending him. He knows my sexual orientation and seems comfortable enough and we have known each other for four years, but I am just unsure what to do. I almost wonder if he is waiting for me to offer it, he is kinda shy, sooooo what do you guys think I should do?? Thanks for your thoughts
     
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    Give it a whirly I say.
     
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    1. Am I out of the loop or do straight guys get their hair colored in a salon?

    2. Nothing illegal about asking, but I guarantee you'll lose him as a client. Especially if he accepts your offer, but even if he doesn't, he'll find it too awkward to face you again.

    3. You say you run this salon alone -- don't you think you're putting yourself at risk? You build your clientele by word of mouth, and propositioning a straight client isn't the sort of thing I'd want said about my salon.
     
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    Straight......Guy........Hair.......coloring?
    Hmm. STR8 as a boomerang, I bet......:cool:
     
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    Yeah, man, don't mix business and pleasure. Treasure your business and don't do anything to jeopardize it. Everything you do in that building needs to be first and foremost a business decision, and this is a bad business decision.

    I totally see where you're coming from because I have a straight friend who is TOTALLY okay with my gayness. He's so okay with it that I have been very tempted to offer him blowjobs just because I feel so comfortable with him that I'd like to be honest about what I want. But even though this is not a business situation I don't do it. Why not? Because straight guys really are straight, and you'll get burned every time if you try to get them to cross their lines. You wouldn't believe how many female hearts I accidentally broke by being so nice to them that they thought they could be my exception. No thanks honey!!
     
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    There is an old saying---don't shit where you eat. He expressed interest in having porn around, you provided that service (however questionable or professional that may or may not be). Stick to blowDRY and not blowJOB. Even if he really likes and appreicates it, what if he tells his friends, and THEY want servicing? And you don;t WANT to service them? Unless you are in the sex profession, keep his dick and yours in their respective pants while doing your job. Just my two cents.
     
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    Oh please, there are plenty of straight guys nowadays--especially younger ones, in their teens and 20's--who get their hair colored or highlighted. I have more straight friends who do so than gay ones.
    But, I agree with mindseye--what if he says no? And what if word of your offer gets out?
     
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    I think there REALLY ARE some things that offer great pleasure in anticipation. Be happy with what you have, unless he asks you directly.

    I love men, I love all kinds. The straight guys? Well I love them because they are straight, it's who they are. Respect them, and don't try to change them, otherwise you'll end up like any other annoying bitch they have to put up with.
     
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    Hey, I get my hair colored and I'm straight. I just happen to like a few harmonizing highlights, that's all. :cool:
     
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    Playboy is porn? Maybe more than Reader's Digest or the Naval Institute Proceedings, but not by much.

    As the other guys say, it's poor business practice to blow the customers.
     
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    Keep your mouth shut.....period.
     
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    as one stated earlier on this thread, stick with blowdry, NOT blowjob, if you do something out of line like giving him a head, the word will in fact get out, and it can do more harm for your business, keep it professional not pleasurable.
     
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    Yep, the pragmatic concensus is to not engage him sexually because it will probably only backfire in the longterm. Even if he were gay, you would want to maintain a healthy boundary between you and your clientele.

    His behavior does seem rather curios to me, and I wonder if he's testing the waters because he feels comfortable around you. You could ask him discretely what his interest is in this porn. Is it just curiosity or is he slowly exposing himself to alternative lifestyles? Let him know that it's an open-ended question to which he can respond as little or as much or not at all.
     
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    From my str8 mind frame, I can tell you that he is feeling confortable around you because you are a cool person. Now, he likes playboy and straight porn, he is showing you he is interested in st8 sex, that should be clear to you. He is confortable enough to let you know he can look at playboy's women and think about sex w / you crossing the line.
    If he was into MM porn, that would be a different story, but he would not be str8 then.
    Unless he makes an advance, do not cross the line, to not break that trust you built in with your client. You have a lot to lose aside from not getting your bj, you could lose a lot business wise
     
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    your gonna need a new place on your price board

    Blow JOBS: $55
     
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    I think a guy watching porn while getting his hair colored is a little wild....I can see if you had some mags which is out there for a place of business....I wouldn't try it because let someone said before, even if he does accept it, it might freak him out in the future....Keep your business professional....Never get your honey where you make your money....
     
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    Next time he comes in strip naked to style his hair. Follow his gaze and that should give you a clue.
     
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    WOW.... keeping porn around and flicks, at your business? Are you trying to get your doors locked?

    -B
     
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