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So my husband and I are monogamous. Yesterday at the gym a man was clearly trying to cruise, something I have never actually seen in person. He sat down in the steam room barely covered up. He was rubbing himself and I could clearly tell what his intentions were. He was very attractive and I’ll admit the thought crossed my mind to go over and touch him. However I told him I was married so nothing was going to happen and he apologized and covered up.

I told my husband about it and he said that’s so creepy and I should’ve reported it to the manager. However, I found it kind of hot. I don’t know I just feel like we view sex differently and I don’t know how to tell him that I liked it. Now if I see him at the gym again I’m going to feel very tempted to go in the steam room and watch again.
 
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You each have your own perspective on it. I don't see the harm in watching, but that's something you should discuss with your husband because he might not feel the same way. If you're monogamous there is no harm in it being a fantasy you keep to yourself.
 

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Some guys have very strong adverse reactions to cruising and hookups. Do you know if your husband engaged in casual sex before you got together? If you believe his reaction was sincere and plan on remaining monogamous, I wouldn’t bring it up. It would only make him anxious that you’re looking to cheat.