Hello everyone! Long-time lurker, first-time poster... Instead of searching throughout several-hundred threads, looking for one which was similar to the advice I needed, I thought it would be easier to create my own. --- 4 Months ago, I started my first relationship with a man who I am absolutely attracted to, both physically and mentally. For the majority of the relationship, I have taken the role as the "top", penetrating him. I have an average-sized penis, around 7" length and of a slightly less-than-average girth (I have not measured...) and he is able to take it quite easily. Usually just spit is used as lubrication, and I rarely ever have to start slowly. A few weeks in, I had asked if I could "bottom" for him. We started out in a typical position, with both of us on our sides. He used spit, and started putting it in. He took it very slow, and while it hurt a bit, the pain was nothing too extreme. Once I had gotten the entire shaft in, and he began going faster, it felt incredible. No pain, just intense pleasure. Like the title of this thread indicates, I have measured him at 8" length & 6" girth, although we both suspect these numbers increase to 9x7" during peak arousal. After this time of him penetrating me, I used the bathroom afterward and found blood in my stool. I thought this was incredibly typical, as he had likely stretched me and possibly tore something in the process. There were a few other times in the next few weeks where he acted as the "top" again. The process was similar; he would use spit for lubrication, and slowly slide it in. As each time occurred, the pain would get greater upon initial penetration, and it would be followed by slight bleeding when using the bathroom directly after the act. We purchased a tube of no-name vaseline product to use as lube on-the-cheap. He has begun "topping" more-often-then-not recently, and thus I am inquiring in this thread: How can I make anal sex easier? Here is a description of our current situation... We squeeze a few lines of it (the no-name vaseline) on to the head of his dick, and rub it in. I squeeze some onto my fingers and slide them into my anus. He lays on his back, and I sit on it with my back facing his face. We have to go incredibly slow, until the head of his penis is in, and then a bit faster until the shaft is in. I leave it in, not moving, to let my ass expand. After a minute or two, he can then move slowly, and then increase his speed over time. It hurts until he begins to go fast, which at that point, the pleasure is so great that I cannot feel pain any longer. It feels incredible and satisfying from that point forward. My question is... Is there a way to speed up the process? It's a CHORE to bottom for a penis this size, with our current set-up. I want to eliminate the need for me to sit on it, and SLOWLY slide down on it. If at all possible, I want him to be able to push it in within a 25-second period of time. Not our current 5-10 MINUTE start-up. What can I do to achieve this? My ass is faced with incredible pain right now. It always hurts a lot. (And I mean a LOT, I'm not a wimp. The pain is so great.) Do you recommend that we use actual lubricant? Perhaps I should get a dildo, and warm up while he is not around? Should I bottom every night for a 2 week period, and my ass will naturally stretch out and remain that way? Help LPSG!