Advice please on how to treat a self-described "very submissive" woman

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urm, submissive doesn't automatically mean on her knees, following directions. from how you describe her she sounds more passive than submissive. she doesn't want a BDSM Dom. she wants you to take the lead. she wants you to make the first move. to set the pace. and take on a more aggressive sexual role *not forceful*

women who are "submissive" are usually up front about it. is sorta required of the lifestyle. if she wants kink.. she won't be turned off by flirty negotiation.

how do you know her ons/turn offs, pay attention. ya can read a lot in how she reacts to your first touches.

This. Also, don't assume you're going to be getting sexual contact. Some people like their Dominance/submission without sex. From the way she was described by you, it sounds more... passive/non-assertive. Which isn't the same thing as being actually submissive in a BDSM context at all
 

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yah I don't see any good reason not to talk to her about it ahead of time...
she's a subbie not a spy
 

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Ok, she just left my place like 2 minutes ago. She got here around 9:10 this morning and just left at 11. About 80% of that time was her sucking my cock! :biggrin1: Sadly, she wasn't really all that great but, you know, even when it's bad it's good! Know what I mean? In the end I had to give her some lube and then she gave me a freaking incredible handjob to finish me off and then off she went! I don't think I'll see her again. There's no relationship there and, besides, it's less trouble just to take of myself! :cool:
 

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I once dated a woman who was "a submissive" and wanted me to be "her dom." I was actually quite good at it, despite my other unusual fetishes. You should have started things off breaking her down with non-sexual things... making her get your beer, take off your shoes for you, get on all fours in front of you while you're in your chair and use her as an ottoman. It's more about the mental game than the physical one.
 

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I once dated a woman who was "a submissive" and wanted me to be "her dom." I was actually quite good at it, despite my other unusual fetishes. You should have started things off breaking her down with non-sexual things... making her get your beer, take off your shoes for you, get on all fours in front of you while you're in your chair and use her as an ottoman. It's more about the mental game than the physical one.

Thanks but that sounds like too much work for a blowjob. :biggrin1:
 

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I once dated a woman who was "a submissive" and wanted me to be "her dom." I was actually quite good at it, despite my other unusual fetishes. You should have started things off breaking her down with non-sexual things... making her get your beer, take off your shoes for you, get on all fours in front of you while you're in your chair and use her as an ottoman. It's more about the mental game than the physical one.

this may suprise you but not all subs are the same
 

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so what exactly areyou saying
he didn't enjoy it but should keep doing it anyway
total bullshit
if he didn't like it there is no reason he owes this girl anything it's not like she thought they were dating from what we know
 

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so what exactly areyou saying
he didn't enjoy it but should keep doing it anyway
total bullshit
if he didn't like it there is no reason he owes this girl anything it's not like she thought they were dating from what we know

He said all he cared about was getting a bj. He got his and didn't care anything about her.