Advice, Seriously

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by etowah, Sep 19, 2011.

  1. etowah

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    Some basic background info first:

    -Recently divorced after 30+ years marriage. I was a virgin when I got married and my wife was the only woman I had ever had sex with until recently.
    -Our sex life was vanilla. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week, at best. She was not the adventurous type, whenever I tried to give her more than one orgasm, she refused to allow me to continue.
    -Had been separated for 3 years, had attempted to reconcile during this period. Didn't work out, she was remarried within a couple weeks of our divorce (you can fill in the details). For the past 3 years had lived like a hermit (just worked; went to the gym and spent time with my family; had no involvement with any women during this time.)
    -Decided a little over a month ago to get on with my life. Got on a single dating site and to put it mildly, I have been overwhelmed. I have never see so many horny older women. I have hooked up now with three gals that are sex starved and frankly, they are wearing me out. Plus, I'm getting contacted by more.
    -I'm 56, 5'11", 210, go to the gym every day. I'm not Arnold but I'm in pretty good shape for my age, at least I thought so.
    -I'm not hung like most of you are on here, just short of 7 when fully erect.

    My question, how does one (at my age) get in 'shape' to handle this 'work load' I have come into now? Or is it even possible?

    I watch my diet, drink lots of water, have started taking Viagra, try to get enough sleep but what else should I do? Any special diets and/or exercises that you can recommend?

    I don't want to be a 'player', would like to have one or two ladies friends in my life going forward. But, until I find the right one or two, how do I handle going from nothing sexually, to sexually paradise? :biggrin1:
     
  2. Phil Ayesho

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    I would recommend getting off viagra...

    try Cialis... if you are this active, they offer a "daily" dosage of 5 or 8 mg that you simply take once a day.

    The nice thing about cialis is that it does not give you a boner...

    rather, it simply makes your erectile response much more like it was when you were much younger. That is, when you are in a stimulating situation with a woman, you respond much as you did at 25.

    From my research it is also safer.

    The other thing is that, pushing weights doesn't matter nearly as much as cardio and endurance. vigorous hikes up and down rough trails with good climbs in altitude work out both the heart and the muscle groups most involved.
    Get a checkup... male sure your blood pressure and cholesterol are in good shape and alter diet and/or medicate if necessary to get them in line.
     
  3. etowah

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    Thank Phil for the info, especially about Cialis.

    As for exercise I do spend a good amount of time with the free weights but I do quite bite on the stairs and walk/hike often (will try to up the frequency and length though).

    In regards to check ups my cholesterol is good but the blood pressure is elevated (I do have a family history of this) so I'm on meds for that. Doctor has adjusted the medication, so that end is a work in progress.

    Any suggestions relating to diet and/or supplements?

    Thanks for the feedback!:tongue:
     
  4. Stephenmass

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    While nothing wrong with cardio and endurance etowah, I personally like to use weights as part of my routine also; I actually enjoy watching the body changes as I morph (lol!). A resting body with muscle will burn more resting then a resting body with fat because the muscle needs to use it up to stay hard and lean. So while I agree with Phil that Cardio is good, I don't agree with the weights parts of it. If you enjoy it, do it...
     
  5. erratic

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    I think Phil's advice is pretty solid. I wouldn't take ED meds - or any other prescriptions, for that matter - unless you really do need them. Meanwhile, cardio is the best exercise to increase stamina. Nothing wrong with weight training, but it won't help you in the sack as much as running, swimming, biking, and the like.

    Also, I'm sorry to hear how your marriage ended. Thirty years is a major investment of your life. But, I'm glad to hear you're moving forward, staying connected with family, and trying to find happiness. I wish you all the best.
     
  6. etowah

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    Thanks guys for the feedback, any insight from the 'pros' is appreciated. I'm a novice at this but I'm enjoying learning though.:biggrin1:

    Truly appreicate the advice concerning Viagra. I do get a hard erection but it takes forever for me to cum. The ladies do seem to appreicate it but I find it terribly frustrating and exhausting. Plus, my imagination seems to vanish after awhile.

    Any advice concerning diet and/or supplements? Do take maca but nothing else at this time.

    Thanks again gentlemen! :smile:
     
  7. Phil Ayesho

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    High blood pressure AND the drugs to combat it often contribute to ED.

    For most, it is not an inability to get hard... but an inability to maintain erection long term.


    Cialis actually targets the specific system that is affected by aging and HBP...
    and restores it to a more normal function.

    Make sure you talk with a doctor about your meds tho... most ED treatments are not compatible with nitrates.
     
  8. molotovmuffin

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    You seriously need to be careful. Just because you can fuck doesn't mean that you should fuck them all. These women, are desperate for attention and a relationship. Don't ever forget that.

    Get to know them before hopping into bed, regardless of "how bad they want it." And for god's sake, wear protection man. Remember, you gotta protect home field.
     
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    What is your age? Some people when they get to a certain age they just can't do it anymore. You don't need 2-3 girls every few days, maybe if you gave one up, the other could compensate, haha.
     
  10. etowah

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    Don't worry gentlemen, I'm not banging everyone that I come into contact with. I do go through a 'screening' process (extended phone/email exchanges, meet in public several times, is she mentally stable, chemistry between us, etc..) before I proceed. Yes, I'm protecting home field. Of the three I had the pleasure to be with so far, only one them is suitable to continue a relationship with at this time. Presently there are 3 in the 'screening' process and I'll be spending the weekend with one of them next weekend.

    It is amazing, and sad at the time, as to how many desperate women there are in the 46 to 60 range (the range I have been talking to).

    I may have given the wrong impression earlier. I'm not bagging multiply babes in the same day; several days in a row. At 56 years of age and not having been appreciated (in many facets of life beside sexually) for over 5 years and now to suddenly have multiply wonderful ladies want/enjoy being with me and enjoy having sex with me, this is a 'paradise' that I'm not accustomed to.

    What I'm hoping to learn from you 'pros' is how are you able to phyiscally provide your special one a quality sexual experience, on a regular basis? I have the mental/emotional part of relating to that special someone down, I just have never had the pleasure of having sex with someone on a regular/frequent basis.

    Thanks again gentlemen, your feedback is much appreciated.:wink:
     
  11. molotovmuffin

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    And lady, thank you very much.:tongue:
     
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    Hi etowah, Welcome. It sounds like you are on a good track. I agree with most here- don't take ED meds if you don't NEED them. Sounds like you are taking good care of yourself and that's the most important thing.

    You might try yoga a couple of times a week. It will not only improve your flexibility and strength, but it can also help you tune in to your breathing, concentration and physical/sexual responses. Try hot room Bikram and see how good a shape you're in.
     
  13. etowah

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    My bad, I do appreicate the lady as well.:wink:

    Oh and thanks for the advice concerning yoga. Will definitely add that to the regiment.

    Any suggestion concerning diet or herbs? I eat a well balanced diet, watch the fats/sugars and drinks lots of water. Anything else you would recommend?
     
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    etowah, it sounds like you're already looking after yourself.

    In addition to cardio and weights, I wanted to echo umami_tsunami's suggestion for yoga. Flexibility, muscle strength and breath control are all benefits that transfer to the bedroom. I prefer Iyengar as it focuses more on the precision of poses.

    Pilates is another good bet as it builds flexibility and core strength. How is your back holding up to your new fucking regime?

    I'm curious as to your meaning when describing some women as 'desperate'? Desperate for you? For sex?

    Good luck with your quest to find the right relationship. :smile:
     
  15. etowah

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    Curious, I must admit my back and core area where pretty sore after last Saturday night/Sunday morning. The one lady that I have found myself to be the most compatible with basically enjoyed one another for the entire night/morning. Don't believe I slept more than an hour. Needless to say I had never done anything like that before and my body responded accordingly.

    I will begin a pilates/yoga routine because that will dramatically improve me in those areas where I need it the most so that I can handle the regime I'm now enjoying.

    As for 'desperate' women I'm referring to women who are not only starving for sex but more importantly for someone that will be nice to them; not be pushy/forward (at least on the first date); someone that will be courteous; that will listen and engage in a conversation about whatever it is that they want to talk about; take the time to get to know them as a person; someone that will basically be a nice guy and not treat them as something cheap.

    One thing I have tumbled on that appears to be popular (at least with the lady I'm inter acting with now) is my txting to them dorkie/corny pick-up lines that I have accumulated over the years a couple times a day. They love it and it gives me a nice seg way into more interesting conversations when I see them later that evening or week.

    All I know is that I'm enjoy it and thanks again for your advice.
     
  16. atlclgurl

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    Here's a little unsolicited advice which you may not want to hear... it's not nice to call any woman, who is simply looking to be treated decently "desperate". That word gives off too much of a negative connotation.

    A man dying in the desert from lack of water is desperate. A thirsty man may want and need water, but if there are available sources for it, he's hardly "desperate".

    If you are still seeking diet advice... Welcome to Mark’s Daily Apple | Mark's Daily Apple

    If you want to really work your body without spending hours and hours in the gym... kettlebells.
    http://exercise.about.com/od/exerciseworkouts/a/getstartedwithkettlebells.htm

    btw, its not the corny lines they love, its the attention. The fact that you are thinking of them as evidenced by your texts.
     
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  17. etowah

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    No offense taken. I'm an accountant by trade, so English composition/word crafting has never been my strong suit. I guess what I'm surprised by is how basically everyone (with the exception of one widow) that I have encountered has been coming out of a bad relationship. But, then it shouldn't be, look at what I'm coming out of personally (duh!).

    Thanks for the diet reference, will check it out.

    Believe it or not, I have been using the kettlebells in some of my work out routines. Those things are amazing.

    As for the daily texts, you are absolutely right. It's not my witty humor.
     
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    Well, if they were in good relationships, they wouldn't be single, now would they? :wink:
     
  19. etowah

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    Right again. Be patient with me, I'll catch on eventually:newbie:.
     
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