But I'd like to try to clear up what I think is a misunderstanding here. When people say 'bump the cervix' or 'bottom out' they're often referring to the same thing. If you are meeting resistance you are at the inner end (fornix, or pouch of douglas, or gulf of mexico, whatever you want to call it) of the vagina. Your cockhead will have slid past the cervix to reach that point. The cervix is not a shelf that can catch your cock. Also, things are slippery and pliable in there. The cervix is a bit like a big nipple on the side of the inner end of the vagina. The cockhead is also round and pliable and it will just glide past the cervix. We don't feel that happening during sex because it happens every stroke.
Erm, no.
Your post seems to be saying that you hit the cervix with every stroke and being how it's pliable and slippery in there it just kind of mushes with the pressure and slips out of the way. This seems to be saying it doesn't hurt so don't worry about it.
You do women a disservice telling men that because it isn't true in the sense you've described.
Firstly, it's a fixed structure at the end of the uterus, held in place with connective tissue. While the tissue is somewhat pliable and elastic, the cervix really doesn't have the ability to duck and weave. Depending on a womans arousal level and where she is in her cycle the cervix sit/tilt higher or lower making it easier, or conversely more difficult, to get past it without a direct hit. The consistency of the cervix also changes with a woman's cycle and it can vary from the softness of relaxed bottom lip to the rubbery firmness of the tip of the nose.
It does not lie mostly out of the way on one side of the vagina. It protrudes into the vagina, suspended nearly centered over the vaginal canal like a very stout stalactite. The anterior and posterior fornix are like moats above and below it. If you are reaching the fornixes you are almost certainly making contact with the cervix but you're grazing against it on an angle in which case I think it's fair to say it's not painful. A head on strike is something different entirely.
Power = Force x Velocity
While you can pleasurably take very firm pressure squeezing your sides during a massage, a sharp kidney jab will still deliver excruciating pain. The cervix is the same in that it can take very firm direct pressure if done slowly (quite pleasurable for me) and it can take indirect pressure at much faster speeds. If you've got the angle right we can quite enjoy a good pounding but if your angle changes slightly and a head on strike to the cervix results it can really ruin the mood. Some women find hitting the cervix pleasurable but I would suggest they are in the minority.
In short, go slow until you know what's where, and never believe anyone who tells you, "it doesn't hurt, don't worry about it", unless it is the person you are having sex with at the time, in which case you can apply it to that person only.
P.S. A note to all.
The pouch of Douglas is nowhere inside of the vagina. It is a structure on the other side of the posterior vaginal wall. If your penis is actually
in the PoD your woman has a very serious medical problem.
You may put pressure on it through pressure on the posterior fornix wall but to say that one is stimulating the PoD is misleading. There's nothing to suggest that the PoD itself has anything to do with pleasurable sensations. We don't say, "some women really love having their bladder pounded", or, "I got up into her bladder", even though the bladder lies outside the anterior vaginal wall (as the PoD does the posterior) and through opposing pressure to the penis can enhance the pleasure from stimulating the AFE. It's not the PoD being stimulated any more than it is the bladder so I don't see why it should be mentioned as though it were an erogenous zone. It's erroneous.
Sorry, that's just been bugging me for a while.
