HellsKitchenmanNYC
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ok question for u Mitch. What do you want out of this? I mean you couldn't poss have a relationship w/someone half yr age at yr age. If you were 50 Maaaaaybe. What r u looking for out of this.
DaveyR the OP's original post was not about the legalities of it. He was asking for advice in general. Also, there is a large difference in maturity between a 17 year old, and a 21 year old.
ok question for u Mitch. What do you want out of this? I mean you couldn't poss have a relationship w/someone half yr age at yr age. If you were 50 Maaaaaybe. What r u looking for out of this.
Of course there's a huge difference between the maturity of a 17 and 21 year old and it varies from person to person. Some 17 year olds are far more mature than 21 year olds. very mature for a 17 year old.Mitchy has already said the guy is really mature for his age.
Someone posted that he should wait until the guy is 18 that is why I posted about the legalities of it in the UK.
So if an American wants to have sex with a 16 year old they have to go to the UK?
And if a 30 y.o. guy from the UK comes to New York with his 16 year old partner they can be arrested if they have sex?
No, they don't have to go to the UK. The age of consent is 16 in several U.S. states.
Age Of Consensual Sex
This lad is very mature....
It's his bed. If he poops in it, he's the one who'll stink. I've had numerous offers from women with whom I work. I tell them I never do anything with coworkers. If it doesn't work out, it can make for a bad work environment.
Anyway I'm not interested in anyone who can't drink legally.
Maturity is the only issue here, since there has to be some kind of equality for sex, just as for friendship and love. Sounds to me like you should trust your instincts, and see what happens.
The best relationship I've ever had was/is with a guy who is 13 yrs younger than me. It's been 20 yrs so far. Age doesn't predict or guarantee anything. People do.
The vast majority of new relationships begin in work environments....at least that is what the stats in th uk say.....it seems your perhaps in danger of missing out.....your not more likely to find your ideal partner in a social environment or supermarket etc etc than you are at work.....if it goes pear-shaped it doesnt necessarily mean it will spill over into your working environment.....your relationship with other co-workers is unlikely to change because of it
Oooo you have not worked in the environments where I've worked. The sour relationships have spilled over into the job situation many many times. It became hell for one or both of them.
It is your life, and your decision.
Okay so i'm 30 in a few months.....this lad i work with is 17 in a few months, he has told me he is bi-curious and really likes me.....what should i do?...
This lad is very mature....a wannabe soldier, he has had more life experiences than i have, i'm not joking.....he is mature enough you have to trust me on that......perhaps i should of used made-up ages to begin with and said i was 35 and he 22 for eg.
This lad is very mature....a wannabe soldier, he has had more life experiences than i have, i'm not joking.....he is mature enough you have to trust me on that......perhaps i should of used made-up ages to begin with and said i was 35 and he 22 for eg.
So if an American wants to have sex with a 16 year old they have to go to the UK?
Even you are an American you could still be arrested when you reach the US again. Sex tourist.
And if a 30 y.o. guy from the UK comes to New York with his 16 year old partner they can be arrested if they have sex?