1. Sir wheelers

    Sir wheelers New Member

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    Ok so ive not really visited here in a long while or posted but i wanted some advice. Im a virgin and theres this girl i am really into shes about 2 years older then me and is also a virgin. Ive kinda already had the opportunity to make my move but I am a little nervous and maybe what makes it a bit more awkward for me is that she is deaf. Its not like i have a problem with her being deaf or anything i love her very much. It just feels like because shes deaf it will be more awkward =/
     
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    Well I think that thinking that it will be awkward is what is really making it awkward, perception is becoming reality. Going into the situation as if you don't have a problem with it, which you don't, will likely get you the most positive and honest results. Good luck!
     
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    how open is your communication (not about deafness). seems you need her assurances that she wants sex. she's probably thinking the things you are.
     
  4. Sir wheelers

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    Our communication id say is good I know sign language and she knows how to lip read aswell. At first i was using a notepad alot now i mostly just use sign language when we talk. Shes pretty open about most things lol and likes to be in control. Ive never really found it a problem that shes deaf and she gets on well with my family. Some other people have said stuff to me and Ive told them were to go lol. She openly flirts with me and such although weve never really had much time alone. Shes pretty flirty with me and I think she wants to have sex with me. Ive just never really brought it up in an conversation lol. I feel like if we did shed want to be in control so what would be the best way to go about it.
     
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    What would you do if she wasn't deaf..how then would you make it known to a girl that you want to make love to her?

    Making love or the process..can be or usually is very non-verbal. you look into each others eyes...you smile...you kiss each other..you caress each other gently..and take it one step at a time. If she is not ready..she will stop you from proceeding further.

    Don't take it as a rejection if it happens..just hug her. she will let you know when she is ready and take control. But now she knows that you are ready too..
     
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    make ur move, and if she responds, keep making that one, if she stops u, then u know ur answer!!
     
  7. Sir wheelers

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    Ok thanks guys ill see how it goes we should be alone here later so i might even get lucky lol. I know if she doesnt want to shell tell me to stop lol shes very up front about that kinda thing lol and yeah i dont have a problem with waiting until she is ready I can understand that.
     
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    my second girlfriend in high school was hearing impaired back then she could still hear we had a blast she was so much fun we were almost always together
    she could hear some but I never learned much sign I can lip read some.
     
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    Well best of luck and enjoy it if it does happen...let us know ;-)
     
  10. Sir wheelers

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    Well this girl is complety deaf she was borne that way she can lip read some and can even talk some too although she does sound kinda funny I think shes aware of that and only talks to me mostly when we are alone. Weve been together some time now and i really like her i guess its just the whole were both virgins lol and I got a bit worried of a lack of communication between us but i think it will be just fine.
     
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    when we loose one of our senses our body makes up for that in many ways. i'll bet she is more aware of the situation then you think. maybe she awaiting your move and just as anxious as you are to have sex. have fun and enjoy your wonderful lady.
     
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    In sex and intimacy, most communication is nonverbal anyway. If you can sign, you could sign any place on her skin! What a bonus!
     
  13. Sir wheelers

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    Ok well i just got home guys and thanks guys for telling me to go for it. I went for it and it went really well we had sex and i loved it. Although i honestly wasnt expecting her to be so loud. I had a great time with her today before and after this lol and I stayed for dinner.
     
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    Nice, congrats :)
     
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    glad you broke through your barrier and had a good first time experience.
     
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    Hooray....I almost feel like a proud momma...that's weird huh!!! :) so happy for the two of you..enjoy enjoy enjoy..Happy New Year little friend!
     
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    haha thanks :) and yeah i will enjoy. Happy new year to you too
     
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    Yay! Best of luck to you!
     
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