1. theoneone

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    I was wondering if anyone could give me advice, i have recently started seeing escorts (twice in total) and think im getting a little obsessed. I find it really hard aprocahing a women and turning it into more than a quick polite conversation and have found that meeting escorts at least fills one need. is this healthy? wrong? i don't know as much as i have enjoyed it part of me says i shouldn't?
     
  2. monel

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    Maybe unhealthy. Not necessarily wrong.
     
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    Well it's never really ideal to use prostitutes as a substitute for finding a real human connection, but there are less healthy ways to go to prostitutes than others. If you're in a jurisdiction where it's legal, then it's really pretty safe (and STD-wise, probably safer than a typical nightclub/campus.) If you're going to somewhere reputable but illegal, then the biggest danger is police. If you're just not discriminating/researching at all, and not wearing protection, then it's very risky.

    If you think you're getting obsessed, then you definitely are. You will probably still want to sleep with prostitutes, at least for a while, even if you start dating. Don't look for something serious, but there's no reason why you can't just look for something casual on a dating site. Don't say you're looking for "casual sex" or anything like that online - just say "short-term" or "not ready for anything serious" and you'll do fine. Just work on it slowly; like anything else, don't expect to be great at it right away. Dating and getting comfortable with other people takes time.
     
  4. dolfette

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    as long as you use protection and treat those women with respect then, no, i don't think you're bad or wrong to do it.

    but is it healthy? i would guess not. if you can afford escorts you can afford therapy. invest in yourself!
     
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