Affairs, is it worth it?

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  1. jeff black

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    The topic is pretty damned simple. AFFAIRS

    IS anyone ok with the idea of having an affair with a married Man/Woman? Should you be presented with the opportunity to have an affair, would you?
    It says that;

    Polls show that although 90% of married people disapprove of extramarital relationships, statistics from a national survey indicate that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have experienced extramarital intercourse. These numbers increase by 20% when emotional affairs and sexual relationships without intercourse are included. Another source, The Monogamy Myth, authored by Peggy Vaughan, approximates that 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some time in their marriage. link

    What is everyone opinion? Is it worth potentially ruining a marriage, in order to obtain a few hours of bliss, or sexual satisfaction?
     
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    Does this include long-term relationships?
    If so, I have recently been meeting a guy strictly for sexual purposes. If it was a woman, then to me, it would feel like cheating but because it is a guy, offering something my girlfriend can't, then, stupid as it may sound, it does not feel like cheating. Needless to say, I wouldn't tell her so maybe that tells me all I need to know.
    To answer your question directly, if I was single and approached by a married person, male or female, I would not take up the offer, even if it was just for functional sex. The guilt of ruining someone elses marriage would be too much.
    All of the above are one of the many reasons I will not get married for a while.
     
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    If I was somehow responsible for ruining someones marriage all I would feel is guilt.
     
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    I am not and will not be married so I will have no experience of this.

    However, if a girl I'm with cheats on me she will become an ex with immediate effect. I don't cheat on my girlfriend/s (hehe)...hard as it is to believe.

    I read a lot though about affairs happening because one partner doesn't pay attention to the other or is never there...what is the problem with people just talking instead of making all the effort to find somone to fuck, play the pre-fuck games and then fuck them and probably fuck up their marriage/kids?

    Like I say though, I'm never getting married and cheaters will not be tolerated...

    To answer the question...affairs aren't worth it. There are enough single girls to get sexual satisfaction from. Some even have sisters :p
     
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    No i would not and i would think if he is cheating on her he would probably cheat on me too...

    Well, i stayed for 2 years in a sexless relationship it was hell to me until i said enough..still, i did not want open one door until the other was already close...and all the hide and lying stuff that must go on...could not live good with that too or need all the crap.
     
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    It is 99.99% not worth it.
     
  7. Dr Rock

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    sure. only i don't call them "affairs" :p

    a couple years back i had some prick actually try to take ME to court for having sex with his wife. like it was somehow my fault that she was sleeping around without telling him. people are fucking retarded
     
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    What was he trying to get and what did he say his reasons were?
     
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    Hell Yes!! :wink:
     
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    I wouldn't do it for the sake of my dogs. Let me explain! The last thing I want is a jealous bastard get angry at me and take it out on my dogs.
     
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    i thought very deeply about this topic a little over 4 months ago. it involved myself and a MILF at the YMCA. she would be at the pool area with her kids and husband(a short man, compared to me anyway), they were members of some parent program with the YMCA. i would catch her almost every 5 minutes blatantly staring at my crotch as if she was hypnotized by it; she would always look embarrassed when i would catch her, her husband would catch her too; though, he would never say anything to her or to me...but i could feel the vibes, of hatred and fear, from him when he would look-by at me. so this went on for about a month, until her husband stopped bringing her with him; he would instead come alone with his kids. but during that period, i asked myself: if this woman, who was attractive(nice face/legs/chest, thin, soft) and at most 33 yrs old, took the next step in approaching me; would i bang her? would i potentially ruin her marriage? would i bang her in her own bed? would i jackhammer her with her short little husband and kids watching? my heart's answer was undoubtedly and instantly YES! YES! YES! YES! but i would've done it only once...under each circumstance.

    my reasoning behind this was, if the married person has the temptation to cheat...its really only a matter of time before they give into it; so, better now with me, than with someone else later...--justified, no?

    *in defense of my character, i would never approach a married woman with the intention of banging her.
     
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    Can I just say, the kids thing, little freaky though I'm glad you would only do it one time. :rolleyes:
     
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    Liar . . . :tongue:


    No, no and no. Life is complicated enough.
     
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    Rats!...:smile:

    I would never cheat on you...stompy.:eek:
     
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    Would it make a difference if my shoes/boots were flat?:biggrin1:
     
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    Only to you....:smile:
     
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    i have sex with alot of married women. they dont care cuz they want to get fucked and im there to fuck them.
     
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    No.

    And it's not only a matter for the people who are married, it's a matter for the potencial lover too.

    Gay world ---> lots of married men.

    Married man ---> search a gay affair.

    Andresito ---> never fucks a married man (or a dad)
     
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    From my perspective, it depends on one big factor: does anyone involved have to lie to anyone else about it or hide it? If so, I would not do it. It is not something I would do, it is not something I would want done to me. However, if the married person's spouse is OK with it, then I would be OK with it. But I wouldn't take the potential sex partner's word for it. And by the way, if someone is willing to lie to their spouse, you can be sure they will lie to you, too. "It's ok, my wife knows, she just doesn't want to see it." "It's ok, I'm on the pill." "It's ok, I've been tested and I don't have any diseases." Right. And I won't cum in your mouth.
     
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    It's funny you're bringing this up now. I spent a bunch of time speaking to another member today about a friend having a tough time with her husband. The worst part about what he's doing is the cheating is upstairs, not downstairs. The woman in question is an ex and she's not in the same state. He admitted to my friend that he loves the other woman and is obsessed with the thought of being with her.

    Seeing the pain my friend is in took me back to the days when I was on "the cheatin' side of town" (Eagles, Lyin' Eyes). I thought back to my cheating experiences. I've cheated and been cheated on. I've never experienced such heartbreak in my life. I learned something from it: people just need to be honest about what they want. If you need to go fuck a fresh hole or ride a new cock, by all means think of your partner...or the husband/wife/partner of the person you're about to fuck. Chances are they may end up in your life. I fucked a really cute guy at the home he shared with his partner in their bed. As I nailed his hot ass, I told myself it was worth it. When it was over, I felt sorry for his partner as he called me a couple days later and told me he wanted to leave his husband for me. The reason? My dick was bigger. Seriously, that's the reason he gave. What a shallow, slimy bastard. I was also slimy for knowing he was in a relationship and fucking him anyway.

    Don't assume you haven't been with someone who is married. Chances are you have and they just didn't tell you. The (guy before) last guy I was with before I got with my boyfriend was married. He didn't tell me until we finished having sex. I hate that. Before, I always said it was better not knowing.

    I'm happy with my relationship now and the way things are. No cheating. I found out I'm not built for it.
     
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