After A Long Hard Day At Work

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Romantic isn't something I aim for. That word implies certain vibes/expectations.

But, after a long day I really enjoy splitting a 12 pack, a few hundred milligrams of edibles, and many many bong hits with loud music and fire cooked food is an excellent way to unwind. Sometimes it ends with amazing sex, sometimes it ends with us both just crashing out and actually sleeping.

It's not an everyday thing, but when we do get lit it's on as fuck.
 
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I don’t like contrived romance. Romance is found in little everyday things. Coming home to a clean house and a cooked meal? That’s pretty romantic to me. Little surprises that let me know my friend is thinking about me.
 

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After a long day at work I'm looking for a relaxing evening, not necessarily a romantic one. We usually plan romantic weekends, and the usually work out. But when both of us come in after a hard day we're just happy to enjoy each others company with a couple of drinks.
 

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My last job before the pandemic hit was voluntary for a local charity that works with children with learning difficulties and troubled backgrounds, I only did a few half days a week and altho very rewarding was possibly one of the most stressful jobs I've ever done. After finishing I looked to switch off from it and relax, not necessarily romance. A nice meal, relaxing bath, good music, drinks and light entertainment on the tv or just chilling in the garden if the weather allowed was my go to.
 

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After, you have had a long hard day at work, what is your idea of a romantic evening?
Are you saying “what will get you to fuck after you spent all day giving all your energy to other people?”
Or are you saying “what makes home feel like a loving home and sanctuary with your partner?”
 

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Actually, i am saying what is your idea of a perfect evening where you can make your partner feel loved and appreciated.

Every moment of our relationship is about making one another feel loved and appreciated. Even the moments we may be arguing. Neither of us feels compelled or obligated to perform specific acts of "love" which society interprets as "romantic".

And.. after a long day I don't want to be the one going out of my way to make *him* feel wanted and appreciated. All I want is someone to be there with me to relax and unwind. He doesn't have to do anything specific. He does cook for me almost every night, because I work more hours than he does and I've worked full time the whole time we've lived together. He's worked part time on and off. So he understands that it would be rude and unappreciative of him to expect me to be the one making attempts to make him feel spoiled.

We strive for equality in expressions of love and appreciation. A very small part of that happens to be sexual.. the ways we tell each other "I love you" most often doesn't involve sex at all.
 

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I posit that couples create their own version of romantic.
You learn your partners love language, both giving and receiving, and work accordingly.
My idea of romantic is quiet time together, with not necessarily sexual touch.
It builds connection for me.
Others crave acts of service, or words of affirmation. Or gifts
 
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