After Effects of Anal Sex

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  1. ryanco21

    ryanco21 New Member

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    Hi Guys - I thought I would make this my first entry. I found this website and I was happy it had a section on health because I had a question that has been on my mind for a few months.

    I recently just got into exploring with guys and topping guys really had no effect for me...I just couldn't cum. I bottomed though and I cummed in about 5 mins. I loved...now the first time was about 6 months ago. After that I had a little blood the next day coming out after say I went to the bathroom etc. I wont go into detail on that since you probably know what I mean. I didn't think anything of it. Then every time after I had anal I had a little bit of blood either on the condom or on the lube that would cum out. (sorry graphic)

    So I have been bottoming for a little over 6 months now. Is it normal to still be bleeding? I am not doing anything different from other guys...we just do regular sex. A lot of the time it takes about a day for me to bleed... but sometimes its while im being fucked.

    I just want to hear your guy's personal experience or feedback or ideas. I bet its perfectly normal since my ass is still getting used to anal...but i was just making sure.
     
  2. drido73

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    Hey dude ,i like you had o still have the temptation to initiate me in anal sex but I was noticed by my doctor when i commented him about my sexual needs about all the post problems or the risks i could have after ,and one of the many he said probably the main one is the post bleeding that you have now .As result or as product of the internal tear of the walls of the anus and heavy intestestine ,thus in spite of wishing to feel a real penis I satisfy with my personal dildo whish i have been using 4 almost two years once a month. Probably i am to concernd or afraid about trying a real dick but any case you should take care about your anus with a specialist before it gets in something worse ! Sorry about your pain but if you want to talk ,just drop me a line .
     
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    You don't have your age in your post so it is a little hard to comment in full.

    I can say that a little blood can be considered normal depending on what you're doing - how big is the guy, how rough is the sex, are you using enough lube, etc?

    At first glance I would suggest that you might have hemorrhoids and that you aggravate them when you have sex. It's nothing to really worry about unless there's LOTS of blood. It happened to me once and it really scared me. The doctor told me that it was a tear in the wall and it would heal. Of course it takes more time because of the natural activity there - bacteria etc! But it did heal and I don't have that problem anymore. I think also that it takes time for you to become accustom to anal sex - stretching the muscle to the point where it is easier each time. My BF for example does not like anal at all. He just does not find it comfortable. I on the other hand loved it from day one! Being a top does not do much for me but bottoming is heaven!

    Enjoy and if you have any questions, please write to me! I hope I helped a little.
     
  4. nixonrich

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    Stop having anal sex for a while (its a bitch becuase itsgreat fun but there are plenty of other things to do). Something is torn - probably just a vein, but it needs to rest to heal - regular friction will not allow it to heal. Once you are clear of blood for a week with blood free stool movements (check with white tissue paper prepared with vaseline to make sure there is no internal spotting), you can resume anal sex BUT coat the inside of your anus as much as possible with unperfumed vasalene. yes, oil (petroleum) based lubricants are not good for condoms etc but KY and lube will not offer your anal tissue and muscle the protection iin needs while it toughens up. Slowly, with gentle anal sex, you will build up a tougher tissue lining and then you can take it at rocket speed. When you bleed, your body is telling you to rest a little - listen to your body - it will only give good advice. All of us who are bottoms get a bit sore sometimes I think and maybe bleed a bit (I have anal sex nearly every day - sometimes twice a day and havent bled for two years). Your anus, like any muscle in your body, needs a rest from time to time. No need to worry. Have fun and take it easy so you can take it hard in the end! let me know how it goes it you want. Good luck.
     
  5. erratic

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    Yeah, bleeding is - pardon the pun - a red flag. As mentioned, it might be a result of aggrivating a pre-existing condition like hemorrhoids or you may just be having too-rough sex. My suggestion would be to use lots and lots of silicone based lubricant and maybe not going as deep or as hard. Are you reapplying lube, by the way? It's important to do that.
     
  6. ryanco21

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    Thanks for the feedback guys! Sorry, I guess I didn't really specify everything.

    I am only 21. The guy who I am with is about 8 1/2 inches. We have never done anything rough when it comes to me bottoming. It's usually just nice and slow....yet when he pulls it out there is sometimes blood on the condom or like the said earlier, their is blood on the toilet paper. I am such a loser cause when I saw that I thought the worst, you know? I kinda panicked and thought...great the few times I tried bottoming of course, I start bleeding and I start having complications from it yet everyone out there can do it. haha.

    So we do apply lots of lube (astroglide)...he has seem to be going far in me too...so I may have him not go as far in me since he is rather big. I will take your guy's advice and hold off from it for a week or two... like someone said that is so hard to do... The first time I started bleeding I told myself I would stop having anal sex with me being the bottom, yet it felt SO good!

    Any other suggestions, ideas etc?

    Thank you!
     
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    I would suggest a non silicone lube (it can inflame delicate tissue)

    but if its your first few times a bit of blood is not un common, however i would advise taking it slow to start with and maybe try a dildo on your own to get used to things.

    Most of all is dont panic, and enjoy. The human body is amazing at adapting and as long as there is no pain or general discomfort your probably fine
     
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    so agree with giving your self time to heal up any damage or ouch before you start playing around with anal sex. any sign of blood means your skipping a few steps on the how to enjoy anal check list.

    are you cleaning out before you have sex? enemas/douching before play is always the best idea, not just for cleanliness but to make sure there is no grit or particulates to irritate very sensitive tissue. whatever you use to clean out do it an hour or two before you get frisky to make sure any liquid is reabsorbed and ya are squeaky clean.

    basic bottoming to the big boys: always clean out. lube *silicone since rectal tissue absorbs water based lube like mad* - you might want to switch to something other than astro-glide, go for a thicker anal lube. more lube advice, make sure you're getting the lube up there in the right amount, a lube injector is a good purchase and pretty cheap. another tip, before you even get into the act you should pre-lube and engage in a little digital stretching, makes every thing go easier and shows that you are a good bottom. always, always make sure his cock is completely lube drenched before any penetration happens. too much is almost enough.

    heaps of foreplay - the key isn't just the turn on but relaxing the muscles and opening you up. purchase a butt plug to dilate your sphincter. wear it or a couple of hours after the clean out. the penetration check list - external stimulation, fingering, rimming, more fingering - the aim is to get at least three fingers in before anything else goes up there. go slow until you are fully relaxed and comfortable.

    one last might be the issue -condoms. you might have a sensitivity to latex, try latex alternative condoms.

    when all else fails google "anal sex how to" you should find a million and one guides or message boards.

    last of the long ramble. you should know your body. take a little time and a little lube to explore ya bum. you'll be less worried and more aware of what you enjoy and how your body reacts. learn to tighten and relax your pelvic muscles, simple to combine with your PC exercises. sets of 12 where you clench then relax, breathing out and relaxing your whole body on the release motion.

    ml
     
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    I heard anal sex leads to loss of anal control. Meaning that at a certain age, you will start shitting on yourself. I don't do anal sex, nor do I know a lot about it....buts thats what I heard.
     
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    I think fisting might lead to anal incontinence. 'Course some guys on here are as big around as an arm.
     
  11. erratic

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    That's horse shit, I'm afraid to tell you.

    Aaahahahaha.
     
  12. Bbucko

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    Sorry, but as Erratic said, these concerns are hysterical nonsense. I've been fisting guys for over 25 years and I've never heard of such problems.
     
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    Hahahaaaaa sorry that is too funny. You should google anal sex some time.
     
  14. erratic

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    Actually, I was laughing at djxnorto's line about some of the dicks around here being the size of forearms. It's totally possible to damage the sphincters in the anus through fisting - but from my understanding it takes more than one fist, or some really rough or inappropriate play.
     
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    Foreplay is a very good suggestion. Let him play with your ass, with the lube, finger play can help relax the muscle there and get lube further inside where it might have otherwise been missing.
     
  16. drido73

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    l'ignorance est la pire maladie et parler pour penser la stupidité plus rude !!!!!!!
     
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